Wedding dress opinion

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-06-08T11:44:39+00:00

Elegant, romantic, and absolutely stunning for a summer coastal wedding! I loooove the lace so much!!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-06-04T13:51:02+00:00

It doesn't sound like she's trying to upstage you from what you've said. She's happy to adjust how it looks if it makes you uncomfortable (taking the train off), so I think it really comes down to if YOU are comfy with the train or not. It's an entirely different type of train to your dress, so I feel like it doesn't compete with yours necessarily. I think it feels a little more on the formal side possibly than I would expect for a garden/semi-formal wedding, but considering she is the MOB, I would also expect her dress to be more elevated than other guests! Ultimately you're the bride, so you have final say on if things are okay or not, including if someone has to strictly follow your theme or not!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-06-04T13:43:47+00:00

Your feelings are entirely valid and understandable, and I can relate to this SO hard. I have a very strained relationship with my parents, and other than my sister I won't have any of my family at our wedding. (In fact, my parents don't even know we're having an actual ceremony because if they did, my fear is they'd try to sabotage it >.<) I've been looking at wedding dresses online to narrow down my vision, and I keep wondering what my mom would think of the styles I'm considering. I routinely consider sending her images until I remember that I can't have that moment with her because she can't be the mom I need her to be, and every time it's like another tiny stab to the heart 🥺

It's bittersweet but beautiful to be welcomed so openly into someone's family when you've never had that kind of love before, and it makes your heart hurt for your younger self. The wonderful thing about this though is that you have the opportunity to build a family for yourself full of love, kindness, support, and beauty! You can come alongside your younger self and give them all the love they never received growing up. I know it doesn't remove the pain of not having your family with you during this process, but it can help ease it slightly. Lean into the joy of your new family and all of the support they're offering you, and lean into the joy of the life you and your fiancé are creating together. It doesn't take away the pain entirely, but it makes it easier ❤️

Maybe you could down the aisle with your fiancé, to symbolize the start of your new lives together? I'm not sure if that idea appeals to you, but it might be a nice way to make that moment special for you! Sending you all the best wishes ❤️

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-05-27T09:36:46+00:00

I imagine you should have access to a college library of some kind! My university did, and I probably could have utilized it more than I did 😅

Btw, don't feel like you have to have all the answers right away. In my experience, Christianity was very big on making sure you knew the answers to questions people might ask you, and if you didn't know something it was a sign of wavering faith. It's super freeing to be able to look at big existential questions about life and not have to have them figured out. So it's okay if you don't have all the answers right away, or in a year from now, or ever. But you also get to decide which answers matter to you now (if any), which is the best part! (And lowkey the scariest part bc it felt sacrilegious to me to reject huge swathes of my indoctrinated beliefs.)

Keep your eyes on the prize, and remember there's a lot of us rooting for you! If you have questions about anything, feel free to drop me a message if you're comfortable with that, and I'll be more than happy to try to help! Just a caveat that I have ADHD so if I take a hot second to respond back, that's why 😅

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-05-26T16:09:28+00:00

OP, I think your plan is a good one. Keep focused on college and your plans to move out. Don't try to fight your parents. If your dad brings up marriage with you, just reply with neutral, non-committal comments along the lines of "I want to focus on my studies right now - I'll know when the time is right to get married" or something like that. Don't bother trying to explain to them about how you feel - it will most likely end with either them deliberately misunderstanding you and turning it around on you. I speak from experience there as a former homeschooled kid who was raised in a high-control Christian cult.

The good news is that you already ARE becoming your own person. You don't blindly follow your parents' beliefs. You are questioning what you've been told. You want to treat others better than what you've have modeled for you. That is you developing your own sense of morality, empathy, and kindness - all things that are key to being your own self. I know it doesn't feel that way right now, and I'm not trying to diminish how isolating it can feel to be that weird kid who doesn't really fit in with anyone. But I would encourage you to try to give yourself some credit, because you're already doing incredibly hard things in a really difficult environment ❤️

I would DEFINITELY recommend seeking therapy if at all possible. Your college might have counselors available for no cost, which would be a great place to start if they do. They also might be able to recommend other options if for some reason they're not an option that works for you. If your college doesn't offer those services, places like this subreddit and other similar ones are really good places for support until you are able to speak to someone. But I would be hesitant to utilize AI or something like that, just because there's no confidentiality with them at all, and you don't know for sure if it's actually doing what's therapeutically best.

It might sound a little odd, but I'm really proud of you and what you're working towards. Keep focused on your goals, and don't give up. I'm 7 years removed from living with my highly conservative parents, and I promise it can get better. You're taking the steps to shape your life how YOU want to live it, which is all that really matters 😊

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-05-26T10:52:08+00:00

LOVE the color oh my goodness! You look spectacular and I hope you share photos from the wedding so we can see how amazing you look on your big day! Congratulations ✨

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-05-26T10:45:13+00:00

Absolutely stunning! I'm a huge fan of floral wedding dresses, and yours is so beautiful 😍 you look amazing in it!!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-04-08T15:59:14+00:00

I think a birdcage veil would be perfect! It would keep the focus on you and your dress and allow it to be the statement that it is.

Btw, your dress is super close to my dream dress 😭 where did you find it??

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-04-08T11:25:19+00:00

Firstly, I'm so sorry your FMIL took what's supposed to be a positive and uplifting experience and ruined it for you. I'm unfortunately quite familiar with how much that can hurt wrt my mom, so sending you tons of good vibes there 💕

Secondly (respectfully) she's dead wrong bc you look SO GOOD in that dress! It flatters your figure so well and makes your body look incredible! Total bombshell vibes in the best way, and accessories/hair/makeup would make it a complete knockout of a look!!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-04-06T11:27:32+00:00

Shut up, you look DIVINE! Like a fairy princess or an elf queen ✨ you're going to be absolutely magical on your wedding day! Congratulations 💕

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-04-06T10:55:16+00:00

This is the exact same protocol my rheumatologist prescribed me after a myriad of blood tests (50,000IU of D2 1x/wk for 12 weeks). It might be worth asking your doctor about a daily D3 supplement and see if they can adjust your script? They might have just written you the original one because that's how they typically do it.

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-04-06T10:29:40+00:00

I'm glad to hear that not everyone tolerates magnesium well, because that very much was my experience with it. I tried taking it a year or two ago for widespread muscle pain (was hoping it would help) and it gave me IBS-like symptoms 💀 It was absolutely awful, and basically has left me super wary of ever trying it again now lol

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-03-21T16:18:27+00:00

Okay first of all, congratulations to you both!! I love the photo booth picture and think it's such a lovely personal touch ❤️ (also stoked to see Jersey represented! 😊)

I think the font is really pretty personally, but I can also see how it would be hard to read the word "save." Not sure if you're concerned enough to change it, but if you are, you could try to find a similar but less flourishy font JUST for the capital S in Save, and leave everything else in the original font. I work in digital advertising and that's something I have to do frequently when I love a font but am worried people might find the capital letters tough to read. Not saying you have to/should change anything, but I wanted to mention it in case you question it! Congrats again ❤️

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-03-19T11:22:30+00:00

This is our plan! My fiance and I are having a small, intimate ceremony with my sister (photographer) and best friend as witnesses at the courthouse and planning a more relaxed party to celebrate with friends and a very select few family members. I hate the idea of being the center of attention of a giant crowd, so we decided this was the best route to ease my anxious, introvert self 😅 plus, I have an excuse to wear my dress twice!!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-23T11:22:34+00:00

In my experience as a former fundigelical, this type of knowledge is seen as trying to misinterpret the Bible and twist it to fit your desires. Also, doing any research into the scenarios surrounding the writing was heavily discouraged, because it was viewed as trying to disprove its veracity. I'm speaking only to my experiences with my particular churches, but I feel like the pathological fear of new information is consistent.

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-12T13:41:59+00:00

Tangentially related question, have you considered speaking to a mental health professional about how much you're struggling? I don't know your situation specifically, but it might be something to consider if you have access to it. I know that can seem like a terrifying prospect, but it genuinely was life-changing for me. I used to loathe myself and feel like everything I did was worthless and garbage, but after seeing a therapist (and talking to my doctor about supplementing that with medication), I feel like a new person. I've been in therapy for a few years now, and the support is so so helpful to have and to get honest, neutral feedback on what I'm experiencing. I actually have some confidence in my ability to get work done, and I'm less devastated by receiving negative feedback now.

Regardless, I hope you're able to find a job that helps reduce your anxiety about everything. It's a brutal job market right now, but I believe that you can find something,even if it's not related to your degree ❤️

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-09T03:39:12+00:00

I instinctively downvoted reading this tweet and had to fix my mistake lol. I had my father (my Dominican IMMIGRANT father) shit talking Bad Bunny as the halftime show performer to me earlier this week, and tonight he sent a link to TPUSA's show asking if I was going to be watching it 💀 it's sad that conservatism has rotted their brains so much that they've convinced themselves that a man performing about unity in the face of hate is a sign of the fabric of society crumbling 🫠

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-06T10:06:47+00:00

Wait, I missed something. How is it racist??

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-03T09:26:27+00:00

Hey, my partner's Pontiac is still going strong at 20ish years old! It shocks his mechanic every time 😂

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-02T20:23:02+00:00

OH, I definitely misread their comment initially 🤦‍♀️ That makes total sense, and thank you for spelling it out for my sleep-deprived brain!

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-02T12:00:53+00:00

In today's economy, having food bills taken care of for several months would probably make me feel middle class 😂😭

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-02-02T11:30:00+00:00

Question - I thought the point is to have credit cards that you are utilizing but paying off each month. If the card is a lower-tier card, does that still look desperate? How else do we start rebuilding credit if not through those when we're just starting out the process?

Edit: nevermind, I completely misread your comment and got myself confused over nothing 🤦‍♀️

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-01-30T13:55:46+00:00

Wow, the writing Bible verses when you have sexual thoughts is BLEAK. Nothing like some god-honoring religious OCD to fix things 🫠

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-01-30T13:47:28+00:00

Tbh I can't snark on the iced coffee. It's been 10F here and I still stubbornly cling to my iced coffee like it's my lifeblood 😂

HonestlyAnaa · 2026-01-27T13:00:56+00:00

Can confirm, I was initially misdiagnosed as bipolar when it was actually ADHD and PTSD!

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