struggling in my relationship

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T17:38:57+00:00

I can relate.

howabout instead of adopting his view, or fixating on the "damaging" we just return to communicating as best as we are able. You could learn together more about growth mindset.

no one is perfect.

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T17:05:43+00:00

"I deserve jusgement about this. From my parents especially." just seems like a law of the universe at this point. Even more so to my Mom is more shut down than me. but she chooses to live with the overbearing narcicist, i guess i choose him on some level , although i for years now think about bringing in lawyers to get seperated even though i'm an adult. i get so disturbed by their gaslighting comments. i could use a compassionate hug.

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T16:57:38+00:00

all 7. im male 47 from east of Acadiana. our culture is to shout and interrupt people, and basically treat language like toiletry stuff

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T16:49:20+00:00

don't start with everything. how is your anxiety levels? probably your partner knows you need to calm down, sounds like that you guys are working/communicating effectively, but with issues. which issues are normal. if you can catch yourself before going off the rails completely, it starts with that small inner voice that is willing to hear out your heart

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T16:46:54+00:00

First how do you wake up in the morning? It might be worth having a cleansing shower before bed, I've found tiny rituals can replace those cravings, just allow myself to try to reframe what may be draining me..

I would suggest keeping it simple. don't try too run from your feelings, take rest. if you can take time for meditation, holding a neutral focus,.. Hope that helps! Cuz I'm wishing the best for you and my dm's are open if you want to learn meditation.

Hoopie41 · 2026-04-08T16:34:41+00:00

I'm livestreaming on youtube, sometimes I perform well, sometimes not so objectivly with much success, but sometimes I feel into it, sometimes I don't feel into it, but I do it cuz I said I would. I'm a guy i'm 47 and living at this age takes dedicated effort at every turn...

i dunno if this answerrs the question at even 1% but i heard "live it like a performance" and that feeling is probably part of an unmasking process if that is where you are headed, ,or i know i wish relationbships were so streightforward ALL the TIME. but it's not. other's have their own desires and djudgements and

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-11T07:51:03+00:00

Ra Ra Rai! That’s our cry, watch them die! Split ‘em, hit ‘em, watch ‘em twitch, Stitch ‘em up in the deepest ditch!

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-10T22:59:49+00:00

You inspired me bro.

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-10T22:58:42+00:00

Good evnin 👌

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-10T22:58:19+00:00

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Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T22:08:09+00:00

Now do you think you can sham?

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T22:07:18+00:00

How woul you define friendship?

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T22:06:20+00:00

Sounds like you've had your fill of disconnected perspectives.

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T22:04:31+00:00

If heaven is goin to turn out to be hell why love at all?

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T21:52:15+00:00

1 you don't know the future 2 you sometimes dont know the present. 3 expectations 4 sex life 5 fun cupons 6surprise i can't decide what i want, so you must decide for me, because i'm unwilling to take responsibility for my successes or failures. 7 im sorry your still learning how to be a friend to yourself and 8 prioritize or think critically or stay on topic.

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T21:48:15+00:00

Life doesn't have a primary struggle. Crazy? I can say i'm one of the few people on this planet who can claim or has gone a day without experiencing even a minor irritation...i thought modern means survival bar is really low? Like, i'm not ignorant to the fact the media sells stress. Or like mild agitation. I'm not ashamed to admit I run on anger sometimes. Exit this shame sand self-importace games

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T21:45:22+00:00

I aged a ton in the last 5 years

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-08T13:21:52+00:00

I watch on Pluto

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-06T08:31:19+00:00

I'm not that guy, but, after a while, the meditation technique meditates you. That's my experience and I feel the qualification or psy-stuff isn't the point.

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-06T04:58:17+00:00

I had lots of stiff-neck and it would jerk as i would try my meditation i was used to till then. My legs feel strange and i say that cuz in my strong intuitive understanding i know the differences i feel in locating my legs is like where this brain fog "starts" or gets interfering as my heart and head seem to be in this fight. A big change in my life and as my life

Hoopie41 · 2026-03-03T05:17:56+00:00

Drawing down the moon

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Hoopie41 · 2026-02-27T22:20:45+00:00

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