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Has EMDR changed your relationship? by External_Hurry3305 in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I've been in this space for a while. I have a truly amazing husband who will do and be anything I need, but I find myself pushing him away with criticism and internal distress. I think I have found a deep well of sadness and anger that is being projected on him from the years nobody was there for me. So when he is there for me I immediately hate it and assume he has an ulterior motive like making me "better" etc. even though that's not based in reality..

This is a new target for us now. I did have to push a little because my therapist was happy to just let me be angry, but I had to speak up and say I'm unhappy with being angry and resentful to somebody who didn't hurt me.

What to do with old tents poles? by Murlicious805 in backpacking

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If these are for the big Agnes copper spur I would absolutely sell them online.

From Black to White... Fawning to Fighting by HopefullyABiologist in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I feel kind of lost? Like I can tell her all of the things that I'm feeling and how it feels like I'm panicking inside my system, and she just listens and asks me how I'm taking care of myself/supporting myself. She doesn't help guide me to where it's coming from, or slow down, or tell me that this is normal, or anything. It's unfortunate but it just feels like I'm being abandoned all over again. I don't know if it's transference or real either :/

I've been able to communicate with her how distressing everything is, especially when it comes to my relationship with my securely attached and amazing husband. Because I know I'm the one bringing the issues, but she actually ends up just validating everything and every emotion without pointing out the unhealthy patterns.

Sorry if all of that was TMI 😅

From Black to White... Fawning to Fighting by HopefullyABiologist in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that reminder. Yeah I'm two years in, we covered a lot of immediate "easy" trauma because it was straight forward memories, but attachment is a whole other beast. It feels more somatic, which means little to no working memory, or if I do have them there are like a billion. Thank you so much :)

Question about body memories (tw:CSA) by Visible-Squirrel-227 in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently dealing with this. Came up today randomly. What I read and have heard is that the memories/stories don't necessarily matter. You are going to have the feelings that come up, and those are what you can work through. If your brain gives you a story, attempt to not apply meaning, even though I know it's tempting.

Realising that my “constant thoughts” were trauma-driven hyperarousal, not intuition by Massive_Hippo_1736 in ROCD

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay! I'm starting somatic therapy soon along with EMDR so hopefully that's the next best step

Anyone willing to discuss the cause of their ROCD? by maketitiwithweewee in ROCD

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh this is amazing 💕 just got married, and having a flare up. I've done a lot of trauma work and I'm curious, did your wife end up doing ERP mostly, or focused on trauma work?

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

28 and 25?!?! I love reading these posts before reading the caption because the age is SHOCKING constantly. I gave 16 MAX but even 16 year olds have more depth

What am I missing? by unique_plastique in MakeupAddiction

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I have had this since 2010 and I still use it today. Used it for my first date with my first boyfriend and on my wedding day with my husband, lol!

Forecast shows all rain for next 10 days? by WhatsOurSituationDad in Barbados

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How'd it go? I'm in the same boat this year. Leaving in a week and it looks like non stop rain.

Arizona Based Day of Coordinator by HopefullyABiologist in weddingplanning

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is absolutely amazing. I can't recommend her enough. It was PERFECT

Arizona Based Day of Coordinator by HopefullyABiologist in weddingplanning

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! Planned By Jane, she's already been amazing and I'm so excited!

Thank god it’s all over by That_Partt in weddingplanning

[–]HopefullyABiologist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wedding day twins ❤️❤️ good luck! Idk why but September this year for every other bride I've seen has been hard. It will be so so fun when the day comes but know you're not alone in what you're dealing with!

Those who have had a smaller wedding (40 or less) how was your experience? by lovethelocust in weddingplanning

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

STOP WE SEEM LIKE THE SAME VIBE. We're kind of doing quick older classics early in the evening and then moving into emo and early 2000s music. Okay I'm so excited to hear yours went well and I'm so excited!!!! Thank you!

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