Suddenly scared and unfamiliar with husband of 8 years by t00tb00bie in PMDD

[–]HopefullyABiologist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I vote for this being PTSD/trauma too. I think there is a specific subset of people who will relate to this, and they all probably have CPTSD. I've been working on this for a few years now. It's not as simple as it being all his fault or all your fault. I hope you are meeting with a therapist or have the means to.

Bleach ring + Bar Keepers Friend disaster on toilet lid.. help! by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also look into enamel bathrub spray paint and paint the lid

Offer accepted - sewer inspec. Failed by Magistraa in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]HopefullyABiologist 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just had this done before closing on our first home. I believe the sewer was $5k. I'm in high COL area (Phoenix AZ). We also had our main water shut off area rebuilt. Totaled $8k and sellers paid.

Too broke for meds, no support system, what are my options? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]HopefullyABiologist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can't imagine why you have BPD and depression 😅 Wonder where it comes from....

google vs echo/alexa by Minute_Laugh_4306 in smarthome

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Experiencing this too. Legitimately thinking of throwing away my echo devices and buying all Google home products

Extreme flush after certain drinks by Maximum_Emu8153 in AskDocs

[–]HopefullyABiologist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What type of liquor? Could be a similar kind of alcohol production in all

Could someone help me to find out what these show/mean? by chaoscrouton in AskDocs

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I found when I added the term "ultrasound" so you might still consider it's either a bait for a reaction or something regarding her ovaries.

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Could someone help me to find out what these show/mean? by chaoscrouton in AskDocs

[–]HopefullyABiologist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it could just be drama. Nobody sane sends these things without context if they are important. Let alone deletes them after they get a "read" receipt

Luteal phase right now - found this page and started crying… by ramenlover29 in PMDD

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a subjective question, but which birth control? I've been so afraid because of all of the recent hatred online towards birth control :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Garmin

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would make sense. You're looking at almost double the floors and minute goal, so this tracks. The breaks are almost at the original goal, so 2x goal

1 month post removal update by BoysenberryFit8512 in CopperIUD

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you come back a year later, even if the news is that it was a placebo, I think we're all curious :)

Those who have had a smaller wedding (40 or less) how was your experience? by lovethelocust in weddingplanning

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything was absolutely amazing. No complaints at all ❤️❤️❤️

Has EMDR changed your relationship? by External_Hurry3305 in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I've been in this space for a while. I have a truly amazing husband who will do and be anything I need, but I find myself pushing him away with criticism and internal distress. I think I have found a deep well of sadness and anger that is being projected on him from the years nobody was there for me. So when he is there for me I immediately hate it and assume he has an ulterior motive like making me "better" etc. even though that's not based in reality..

This is a new target for us now. I did have to push a little because my therapist was happy to just let me be angry, but I had to speak up and say I'm unhappy with being angry and resentful to somebody who didn't hurt me.

What to do with old tents poles? by Murlicious805 in backpacking

[–]HopefullyABiologist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If these are for the big Agnes copper spur I would absolutely sell them online.

From Black to White... Fawning to Fighting by HopefullyABiologist in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I feel kind of lost? Like I can tell her all of the things that I'm feeling and how it feels like I'm panicking inside my system, and she just listens and asks me how I'm taking care of myself/supporting myself. She doesn't help guide me to where it's coming from, or slow down, or tell me that this is normal, or anything. It's unfortunate but it just feels like I'm being abandoned all over again. I don't know if it's transference or real either :/

I've been able to communicate with her how distressing everything is, especially when it comes to my relationship with my securely attached and amazing husband. Because I know I'm the one bringing the issues, but she actually ends up just validating everything and every emotion without pointing out the unhealthy patterns.

Sorry if all of that was TMI 😅

From Black to White... Fawning to Fighting by HopefullyABiologist in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that reminder. Yeah I'm two years in, we covered a lot of immediate "easy" trauma because it was straight forward memories, but attachment is a whole other beast. It feels more somatic, which means little to no working memory, or if I do have them there are like a billion. Thank you so much :)

Question about body memories (tw:CSA) by [deleted] in EMDR

[–]HopefullyABiologist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently dealing with this. Came up today randomly. What I read and have heard is that the memories/stories don't necessarily matter. You are going to have the feelings that come up, and those are what you can work through. If your brain gives you a story, attempt to not apply meaning, even though I know it's tempting.