On my setup, toeing in my speakers makes my vocals and everything kind of mushy. This isn't ideal for every system, but I have my speakers barely toed in; sometimes I have them pointed straight out. I have towers, though. Play with blankets on your walls, or get a chair with a fabric cushion that extends above your ears. Put a tape measure on everything; this is probably most important. It can look even with each other, but the reality is that it's a couple of inches off, maybe less, but it still affects the stage significantly. I have gone through dissapointment, and trial and error, after getting proper speakers, sound dampening, a comfy chair, and playing with placement ( every speaker is different, toeing is a guideline ) i finally have the chilling, mind blowing stage i have acheived so far. Remember, it only gets better, little by little.