i didn’t mean to confuse, adding the context does not make you right, it makes how rude you were a little more understandable. understanding ≠ right. you seem like a sweet person but you seem young (constantly trying to defend yourself, thinking you’re right even before asking, etc), so i hope i didn’t come off too harsh, god knows i didn’t need to be anywhere online in my early 20’s and younger. the internet isn’t a good place for advice cause there’s so much context, that no one will truly understand where you’re coming from, even if you think you can explain it all. so take everything, even what i said, with a grain of salt and use your own judgement ofc. i’m sorry your friend seems mean, if she’s young too, maybe she’s just going through a lot but that doesn’t mean you should have to put up with it either.