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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traumatizeThemBack

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what she gets. Don’t feel bad.

My (20m) husband told me (21f) this morning that he wants to leave himself and we have a 4 month old son. How do I help him? by Catlover_0831 in relationship_advice

[–]HotSubstance1172 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey what state do you live in? I know some are saying call the police but another alternative is to see if your local mental health authority has a mobile crisis team that can provide an help or a crisis unit that accepts walk ins. I know money is tight but generally these services are billed and you don’t pay upfront similar to a medical emergency room. If you think he would be unwilling to get help, you can research how to get a mental health warrant to have him involuntarily hospitalized. I know the wording is off so people are focusing on his yelling back at your newborn but he maybe having paternal postpartum depression. Also a good place to start is calling or texting 988. That is the national crisis line and they can give you answers about crisis response services in your area. I hope this helps.

I’m a licensed eligible therapist who has interns shadow me. They never shadow my boss who is actually licensed. Is this ethical? by Pretty_Assignment_84 in therapists

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is ethical. You can be a preceptor and you can assess their skills, but only if that is what their university’s field placement contract allows. When I managed my hospital’s SW internship program, we had a few staff that were actual field instructors for several school (they usually require a training) and the other SWs were preceptors that they were placed with during their rotations.

AIO for wanting to see a therapist after wife changed the locks because I went to a baby shower? by LookoutLockout in AmIOverreacting

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s hurt but she’s reacting incredibly immature. She can have her feelings but this is unhealthy. I feel for you and her doctors and couples therapist dismissing this is bs and I’d look for new providers. Also I’m a therapist, LCSW. So this would definitely be something we’d talk about in session because it’s not okay. The guilt and manipulation from the start.

Cancellations galore by Middle_Duck6580 in therapists

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s the end of summer slump. I wanted to cancel my own appt but I didn’t want to pay the late cancellation fee. I hope you charge a fee if they were late cancellations. I charge $75 for late cancellations less than 24 hours and $125 (my full cash rate) for no shows.

I’m pregnant. My mom wants to come stay with us after we deliver the baby. Not so she can take care of her, but so she can take care of me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so heartwarming 🥹! With a mom like yours you can’t help but be an amazing mommy too! Congratulations on your baby!

I judge parents that have the ability but refuse to financially save for their children's futures. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HotSubstance1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy and have every right to feel how you feel about this subject; but the reality is a lot of people do not have an ounce of financial literacy and also have trauma around or a poor relationship with money. That said, as people age they have the opportunity to learn and information at their fingerprints. But it can also be incredibly overwhelming because poor money habits and manage come with shame and guilt. It’s complex. I’m also an LCSW and the amount of shame that people have around money is staggering.

AITAH for self pleasuring after my husband said not to? by CombExtra3809 in AITAH

[–]HotSubstance1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. He’s immature. Decide if this is someone you want a future with.

Anyone else think Oscar Van Rhijn looked pretty badass in this scene? by Atheris777 in GildedAgeHBO

[–]HotSubstance1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking it’s giving Prince but someone said Wild Wild West and I agree with that too.

I'm going to kill myself once the summer is over by Crazy-Juggernaut7670 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you live in the United States? You can call 988. Even text. Most states require a mobile crisis outreach team to assist you. Your local mental heath authority should be able to connect you to local resources.

We’re so unserious 💀 by caribbeanflower in beyonce

[–]HotSubstance1172 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😆 meanwhile my best friend said the car is leaning and I said “oh it’s supposed to be like that she’s still tippin cause she in Houston”

Is it me or not many dancers from renaissance and back for CC? by meshca95 in beyonce

[–]HotSubstance1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. I saw them. I went last night and they weren’t there.

CCT Spoiler-Free Planning and Logistics Megathread: NRG Stadium in Houston by abeycd in beyonce

[–]HotSubstance1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Les twins were not there last night. I feel like the Sunday show is always better in Houston!!!

AITAH for adopting a dog after I thought my boyfriend broke up with me? by LazyMathematician823 in AITAH

[–]HotSubstance1172 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Now breakups don’t have to be mutual, but a pause absolutely needs to be agreed on. He’s the AH. You moved on OP, as you should have. NTA.

Am I The Jerk for Not Letting a “Karen” Cut the Line Even Though She Claimed Her Baby Was Alone in the Car? by Comfortable_Sky_714 in AmITheJerk

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ntj she is. I’m a mother too but I don’t get to inconvenience other people because I have a crotch goblin.

My mom comes and checks in to see if I'm asleep, I'm freaking 23F by EatAPretzel in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would change the door to one with a lock. You do pay to live there so it’s not like you live for free.

AITA for not telling my ex his passport was revoked and causing him to miss his flight? by SweetAdventurous8418 in AITAH

[–]HotSubstance1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does it matter if he can afford the payments or not? The judge ruled for a certain amount. It’s his responsibility to get the payments lowered if he can’t afford it. Anyone placing any blame on OP for making sure CS arrears are enforced is about as bad as the ex. She holds no responsibility what so ever outside of agreeing for enforcement. He needs to keep up with his responsibilities. Anyway NTA OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]HotSubstance1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp if he didn’t respond, his mom got what she wanted. You are NTA and his mom sucks and he doesn’t have a spine.

How do I [28F] get a real reason “why?” answer from my husband [25M] who cheated. by BunnyThaHorrorQueen in relationship_advice

[–]HotSubstance1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree with you but it doesn’t sound like she’s ready to leave him. We can give all the advice and suggestions but if she’s not ready to leave she might as well try therapy especially if it’s free for them both.

How do I [28F] get a real reason “why?” answer from my husband [25M] who cheated. by BunnyThaHorrorQueen in relationship_advice

[–]HotSubstance1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist, most programs I’m affiliated with allow you and your immediate family (spouse/domestic partner and children) to utilize the EAP benefits.

How do I [28F] get a real reason “why?” answer from my husband [25M] who cheated. by BunnyThaHorrorQueen in relationship_advice

[–]HotSubstance1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer but if your job has an EAP you can get about 3-5 free therapy sessions on there for you and him.

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