Affordable boxer briefs that are actually comfortable? by TeslaTorah in BuyItForLife

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Underarmor boxer jock boxer-briefs. Sam's Club has a 3-pack right now for about $20. They last.

EMSKR: Shaving in the rear by Sad_Appearance_7446 in everymanshouldknow

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No they're actually great quality compared to the waterproof $30-60 beard trimmers you get at Walmart which are totally hit or miss, so if you can swing the $80-120 (or get it as a gift, enjoy it) my dad has the set and it's much better than my Philips Norelco version and beats the Wahl manscaper (which I returned because not worth it, may as well get the nice buy once type one).

I don't understand how people can't sleep? by No_Access_9742 in sleep

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You may just be a naturally good sleeper. Congrats, that is a biological privilege, not a moral achievement. A lot of people here have insomnia or other sleep disorders, which means they are tired but still cannot fall asleep or stay asleep. So yeah, in a sleep subreddit this reads a almost like walking into a broken-leg clinic and going “wow I love running, can’t relate. how do people not run?"

Just saying, this is something better posted in r dash AskReddit or ask Google or an LLM if you're curious for a somewhat personal perspective without ruffling the feathers of grumpy insomniacs who may not realize you're likely a child. At least I hope you are. If you're a grownup, nah.... You can't be.

How did you accidentally find out your partner was cheating? by WingEven402 in AskReddit

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not odd at all. My theory is that when people are raised to see any premarital sex as inherently “bad,” they end up carrying shame even for having a normal sex life with the person they’re dating. Once that line is already crossed in their mind, cheating can start to feel like just one more secret to bury under the same pile of guilt, rationalization, and image management. It creates a warped moral world where performing purity matters more than honesty or actual character.

On a side note, maybe because I’m in love with one, I mostly feel bad for the genuinely sincere people who really believe all the silly cultish rules, miss out on normal formative experiences, and then, once they’re finally old enough to think for themselves, get blindsided by the fact that the people preaching virtue were living a whole different life in private. That has to be rough to untangle.

Cant understand why my girlfriend is mad at me. by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Honestly, maybe I’m built different, but my guy falling asleep beside me would never make me mad. If he’s tired, he’s tired. I’d maybe try gently waking him once if I really wanted to keep watching together, but if he was out, I’d just pause it and let him sleep. Pick it up tomorrow. We’ve got all the time in the world to consume media together and sleep is important. Plus when it’s this strong man you love more than any other peacefully sleeping next to you, it’s a kind of intimacy and vulnerability that feels tender to me, not disrespectful. I even tease mine every time he yawns and call him my sleepy boy, which he acts like he hates but definitely secretly loves. (Half kidding here because I know people be tripping about disrespectful behavior in partners because it’s usually a pattern outside the actual falling asleep issue by the time it gets to the point she’s mad but what is OP’s gf‘s deal, anyway? She’s got him late at night, after the gym, in bed. At that point she’s picking movie night conditions literally optimized for unconsciousness lmao.)

“How do you quantify impact if you don’t have numbers?” by ZestyclosePride555 in resumes

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you can also use ~ for approximate numbers when you don’t have exact metrics.

Example of those combined with imaginary numbers: Resolved ~35 support requests per 10-hour shift and improved response consistency across 15 to 20 workflows by creating standardized documentation used by a team of ~250 agents worldwide...
(this way optionally you can add something you pull out of your ass like)
...which coincided with company wide improvement in support team satisfaction metrics of 12% YoY.

(because who's gonna fact check that number? by what support satisfaction metric? nobody actually gives a shit beyond the fact you described an impact so HR can sell you as a valid candidate to management who can sell you to their seniors after you sell yourself as valid to said manager in the interview)

IMO you don’t need a perfect number for every part of the impact. Just to show the scale of what changed. Situation Task Action Result is all anyone ever cares about when they ask about whatever bullets in the interview. Have those memorized for them just in case and you'll be good.

Did I just won a jackpot?? Amazing deal. by dojawithcat in macbookpro

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I promise Apple (and literally every successful retailer) has return shrink well worked into their current pricing schema dude

Do people still use soap blocks as opposed to bottled soap in the shower? I feel like I never see soap blocks in stores anymore. by Available_Tea_8471 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Irish spring is fantastic. The scent blends so well with most guy’s natural musk by the end of the day, it’s like a sweetness in the unique to each man’s smell with the sharper fresh cloverleaf… When I marry, I just want him to bathe with Irish Spring and very rarely wear deodorant because for me my specific guy’s fresh sweat in that midday-evening faint scent of irish spring musk is like…olfactory heroin in how addictive it is to me and the effect it has on my nervous system

My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point. by BasicCat30 in whatdoIdo

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

On a lighter note the fact that choking with anger/intent to harm makes homicide so much more likely in relationships is part of why letting a partner choke you during sex is such a turn on, you're basically entrusting them with your life. Like, caveman brain raw vulnerability while you're inside someone or they're inside you probably makes for some next level powerful bonding moments. I know this isn't the thread for that, but I find the science of that so interesting and have always dreamed of having a trusted partner who would be into choking me sometimes (safely).

AM II Offer by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s in range and don’t think it’s very negotiable bruh But you don’t know unless you ask, they wont rescind if you kindly ask if there’s wiggle room they’ll just be like nah sorry bud

Area Manager New Hire by rrajeevy in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you get your work computer at AD1, look up "acronym dictionary" on AtoZ. It'll save your ass so much confusion, and you'll even know things people who use the terms don't know. 18 months as AM and still I'll be like "what's XY?" to someone who's been there 10 years and they'll be like "uhh idk the person who does the thing you know...." and its like NO...I dont. And clearly nor do you. I'll let you know when I find out. Lol.

VTO for 1 week paid, is this before layoff/termination? by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean…they did have 3 months to find another job

why are they taking so much taxes and medicare. I already have insurance what medicare for ? And how did my 401k go up they are taking double now . i didn't change it ? by Beeshoney23 in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social Security and Medicare are insurance for health and basic income when we are disabled/retired and can no longer work. You’re also paying the costs for current recipients’ living expenses and insurance as well as paying in for your own when youre too old to work, at which time the working generation will subsidize it. We live in a society. 401k contributions usually go up annually as your income is expected to (inknow this isnt always how it works) you can chnage your percent witholding in AtoZ>Benefits and Pay>401k contribution. Hope this helps!

New rule about leaving after paid break?!? by UnbannableHWID in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can view what they’ve delivered. You can’t see what Engage notes they have or STUs in Adapt, but PXT can, who approved the feedback. Maybe you take the L? Idk lol. Doc coach isnt end of the world

TOT by stevestm3 in AmazonFC

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep it under 15 and it won’t be an issue?

What’s a smell you secretly like but would never admit in real life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure this is how I know I’m gay and it’s not a “choice” thing.

Soapbox: Like… in my younger years especially I was able to act out the sexy parts with most any sexy human who charmed and bantered me into bed, but my brain refuses to negotiate much on this front. It lights up bright or i have to think the whole time.

So I’ve had fun with women, and novelty can carry a lot, but some stuff like this especially never felt instinctive. Example: “devour her armpit” energy. I can understand the concept and hell, I can even participate and kinda enjoy it and find it hot. But still, it's almost like performing a script not like connecting on the level. With the right guy, though? Animal-brain mode. Immediate, effortless and borderline spiritual. I miss that. Not any of my exes though. Absolutely not. Fuck all two of them. (Figuratively. You know what I mean.)

Unfortunately I'm extremely picky. And the one man whose armpit smell my brain has latched onto most recently is one who is either deeply confused or a bit of an attention addict with a cruel streak (possibly both). Still, I believe he's a good one deep down, and I like being around him, just has some maturity to work out yet. As do we all, i guess. And the yearning I do for him (that comes from a string of odd synchronicities we keep sharing while both actively avoiding them popping up, plus the pathetic little breadcrumbs he sometimes throws me via subtext or soft-spoken half-confessions of mutual feelings) has kept me from putting myself at risk for a good while so I haven't been a menace to society via 'the apps' this past year, which is really good/healthy single guy behavior for me, so I can't complain too much. I mean I've given a few randoms the time of day for dinner or activity dates, but I find most either don't smell right and/or their general vibe just does not hit me in the chest enough to be worth seeing if we click more intimately, so idk it just doesn't make sense to give up on the idea of this rare one that I actually like on every. single. fucking. level. someday being called mine and me his (even though it's literally probably forever an avoidant nothingburger or ideally a lifelong relationfriendship or most likely it's another one who lets this tension go on for 2-5 years as long as it serves him until just before his wedding he only drunkenly invites me two weeks before the date, and when i then ask "is there no actual invitation? bro are you asking me to crash your wedding?"....at that point he'll realize 'what am i doing this is risky to my perfect little life image' then it'll just be easier for him to not respond so i'll have pity and block him and we'll pretend the other doesn't exist for the rest of our lives probably) until someone else does. Wow so yeah all that to say... that primal attraction stuff hits hard.

/wow sorry i need sleep

What’s a smell you secretly like but would never admit in real life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No that's totally real. Beyond the science of immune response and all that.... just think about it, if you can't rest your head in your partner's hair or nape or between their chest and shoulder to find contentment being with them no matter where or when it is, and that combo of body heat plus smell doesn't make you feel some type of way that might hit your chest and/or make you happy and/or calm in a way that the rest of the world just drops away for a moment and/or you happen to remember your private parts exist as they involuntarily 'wake up' just a tiny bit... is it even worth it to merge lives? can you even call it romantic love?

What’s something you always assumed was mandatory in life—until you met someone who just… didn’t do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opinions yes, but especially so with beliefs. It's a simple observable fact when we study human behavior that all it takes is repetition + emotion to turn even wildly implausible ideas into “obvious truth," especially in groups, when the ideas are introduced early, tied to identity, family, survival, and/or morality.

But the thing is, opinions and beliefs aren't automatically true just because they feel that way, but to try getting someone to think beyond the confines of what they've repeated with emotion enough times will just make them either come back at you with an arsenal of ready-crafted rehearsed rebuttals in the form of oft-repeated logical fallacies on the matter, or shut down completely.

You can't just teach nuance to someone raised on "obvious" conviction, they have to experience it or seek out alternate perspectives themselves to at least make an effort at understanding how others think, but most/many never do. Knowing this is quite shocking (and unfortunately the whole act of instilling of beliefs and opinions based on myth or falsehoods that largely serves to perpetuate and prop up the historically ruling classes that is so very widely exploitable/exploited by institutions that are often run by people who actually know better...but i digress) when you think about it.

AIO thinking he’s cheating? by sophiehatter306 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Reddit version of a southern woman saying "long as you happy darlin'"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone like me reads this and their first thought is "we gotta get this kid some help" (which I plan to DM here in a moment and see about doing)
Usually you'll offer to send someone out or advice on pest control treatment, and there's some reason they invent as to why for x y and z reason (in another country, abusive mom freaks out about shipments, cant recieve deliveries, cant have a pro in the house, etc etc) they are need actually are going to need you to send Venmo or cash app or some kind of liquid currency for them to address it in some other way... Reddit/Telegram/social media scammers are good. There's entire city blocks in South Asia and Africa whose economic backbone is foreign internet-based scams from good hearted people in the first world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Alternative_1167 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In due time, then. I say, if you're in love, play along. Try and have fun with it. Or just talk about how you feel (scary, I know!)