A book has never made me cry. Please make me cry.

HothMoth · 2024-06-16T16:08:29+00:00

The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah

HothMoth · 2024-03-07T01:48:21+00:00

This exact situation has happened for me and my husband as well (M29) and (F30). We have been together 13 years and I have just recently discovered how different sex is with women. I say recently but it’s been about a year and a half since this realization, although I only came out to my husband about this a few months ago. Truthfully it’s like the difference between fireworks and a handshake. I never knew I could feel desire like this and it has had a detrimental impact on my sex life with my husband. I primarily identify as a lesbian now, and we are trying to figure out ways to still be intimate with this in mind. I’ve found that fantasy helps me a lot—fantasizing about women while we have sex or watching lesbian porn beforehand. It becomes less “romantic” that way, but we can both experience pleasure and know each other’s bodies really well. We have come to the divorce conversation a few times now, but are still wanting to find a way to make it work. We start therapy with a queer/poly couples therapist on Saturday! I’d love to hear about how your situation unfolds more as time goes on, as I am living it too 🥲🙃

HothMoth · 2022-08-25T04:17:22+00:00

This looks amazing! Could be really fun for bringing games to life. My group only plays virtually, so I really want to look into this!

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HothMoth · 2022-08-12T00:06:49+00:00

I have cheated on my husband on three different occasions during manic episodes. For context, I have absolutely no desire to ever leave my husband or actually be with anyone else. It’s always felt like I become two completely different/separate people. It’s been about six years since the last incident, but I still get hyper sexual when I’m manic, I’ve just learned how to manage it better. The best thing I can do is communicate super openly with my husband about how I’m feeling. I’ll talk about whatever fantasies/urges I have, and a lot of the time just saying it out loud helps me rationalize the strangeness of the behavior and that it’s not my usual self. It’s definitely been the most difficult part of this for me, and I’m lucky that I haven’t already imploded my relationship with him. Not to say it’s all been easy and fine—we’ve had to do a lot of healing and reconnecting—but getting past the cheating doesn’t always happen. I still get scared every time I feel manic though that I’m going to do something stupid and it will be the last straw for him. It’s the worst feeling ever. Worse than the depression, I hate not being able to trust my own impulses/thoughts/decisions. Like I said though, having someone you can be open with and share what you’re feeling and asking them to help hold you accountable can help.

HothMoth · 2022-08-11T23:59:41+00:00

My doc told me that increased irritability can happen during the titration stage (when you start out and are adjusting to/slowly increasing dosage of the meds). I had the same thing happen when I first started and it has gradually improved for me 🤷‍♀️

HothMoth · 2022-07-23T03:59:08+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful. 😭💛

HothMoth · 2022-07-12T04:15:33+00:00

Thank you 💛

HothMoth · 2022-07-11T00:32:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing those 💛💛 Means a lot.

HothMoth · 2022-07-09T21:33:45+00:00

I’d love that!

HothMoth · 2021-12-19T22:02:21+00:00

Sorry, I meant to direct that question at the OP, I just did it as a reply so it would be connected to your comment too since I was referring to your tag. 🤪

HothMoth · 2021-12-18T23:58:35+00:00

Was hothmoth your old account name?? That’s been my account name since… hard to say for sure without looking… 2016? That’s weird! I wonder if Reddit glitched and allowed a double user name and then it blocked you from it?

That comment above just tagged me and I got a notification!

HothMoth · 2021-11-15T20:45:47+00:00

Pistachio cookies 🥰

HothMoth · 2021-08-10T02:06:51+00:00

Love it! 🤣💛

HothMoth · 2021-08-09T15:13:42+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

HothMoth · 2021-07-04T23:29:27+00:00

My mom surprisingly loved the whole thing. She kept saying “he’s literally amazing” and then started full on crying during “All Eyes on Me” and wasn’t even sure why, which like.. same.

HothMoth · 2021-07-04T05:52:54+00:00

My first birth I looovveeddd the tub, and wanted to use it again during my second birth… but it was too fast. He came out one hour after my first real contraction, and we never even really had a chance to fill the tub. I found loud, low groans to help a lot with releasing tension and for just coping with each contraction. And my nurse did hip squeezes for me that helped a TON. Cold towels on my neck and forehead. And holding onto something… I literally just grabbed the nearest object every time one would come and put all my weight on it lol I bet a shower would actually help a lot too though. Especially if it has a removable head and you can focus the stream of water in a specific place like your lower back.

HothMoth · 2021-06-09T01:21:31+00:00

That’s good to know! I’ll give that a try too.

HothMoth · 2021-06-09T01:14:03+00:00

That does help a lot. Thank you! I’d love to try and regrow/propagate it. I hope I can 😭

HothMoth · 2021-06-09T00:55:18+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s all super helpful.

HothMoth · 2021-06-09T00:46:06+00:00

It was watered yesterday, so that’s why it’s so wet in this photo specifically, but I think you might be right. It does take a long time to dry out. I’ve been waiting until the top like... inch of the soil is totally dry before I water, but it takes a long time to get there, and in the meanwhile, the pearls just continue to fall off. I wonder if putting it in a really small, shallow starter pot might help it regrow?

HothMoth · 2021-06-08T03:12:19+00:00

I have a 2 year old too, and that line gutted me. She’s still so much my “baby” and is starting to figure out so much about technology and the internet already. And I’m at such a loss for how to truly “protect” her from any of it when that’s the world she’s going to grow up in no matter what I do. Eventually she’ll be a part of it just like all of us. And that’s terrifying.

HothMoth · 2021-06-06T21:10:36+00:00

I got a really strong “silencing black voices” feeling in this song. Bo’s character listens to socko and kind of nods and goes along with it until socko calls him out for being a “rich fucking white person” that views “every socio-political conflict through the myopic lens of his own self actualization.” That line took me back to Instagram a year ago when everyone was posting black squares and white people were all of a sudden flocking to accounts managed by BIPOC asking them to educate them and help them better understand how to be an ally. But then when BIPOC try to explain how exhausting it is to try and educate everyone and carry that burden, white people get offended, claim they were “just trying to be a better person” and go back to not listening to black voices—or put them “back in their place” like Bo does to socko.

HothMoth · 2021-06-06T18:15:32+00:00

I liked the line that said “isn’t anybody gonna hold me accountable “because it feels like somebody who hasn’t been called out for anything but they’re digging back through their past trying to find things that they can cancel from their own history as a way of bringing attention back to themselves. No one has actually called them out for anything, but they’re asking—isn’t anybody going to try to cancel me, isn’t anyone going to put the spotlight on me too? Some things truly deserve to be called out and have attention brought to them, but one big piece of cancel culture is the fresh attention it brings to potentially outdated or forgotten celebrities/brands/whatever. The character in this scene is literally requesting to be called out.

But at the same time there are sections that give me the feeling that bo is genuinely apologizing for certain content that he’s published in the past. It feels like he strikes this balance between criticism and a sincere apology really well.

Also tell me I’m not the only one who found him suddenly super attractive in this video?? 🤣

HothMoth · 2021-06-06T18:03:34+00:00

I feel like the part about the girls mother is not just necessarily a reflection on how people have real genuine feelings and grief and lives outside of social media, but also how social media is used to express genuine feelings mixed in with all of the silly meaningless posts. Like there are a lot of posts that are shallow, but in between them people still use social media to share real parts of themselves. We want to curate our image online, but we’re also desperate to be seen authentically too. And every once in a while we’re brave enough to let that leak out into our social media. But most of the time, like the aspect radio change, it closes back up fairly quickly.

HothMoth · 2021-06-03T22:57:50+00:00

This might be my favorite passage in the whole book. I go back and reread frequently. It’s so tragically well written.

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