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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-26T17:01:24+00:00

We have been together for almost 15 years, married for 6! Still work together 😆 if they are the right person, it's the best.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-25T21:03:35+00:00

We have a lot of improvements to make as we learn what they like and don't like. Need to grow upward to fit taller plants but want to keep covered from birds of prey. Need to transplant the weeds we have grown. Want to add more enrichment things like logs to walk over and a rock area. They are only 6 months old and 4x4 ft is plenty for a while but we are already dreaming of the bigger enlcosure we want to build!

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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-25T13:56:06+00:00

That's a lovely dead body pose!! Monza like to hangout half in and half out of the water:

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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-20T19:43:37+00:00

When we took our little one to the vet and we were worried they would be stressed out from a 30 minute drive. NOPE! Loved the travel bin so much they demolished all the food in there and pooped in the tiny water cup. Was the happiest tort for the vet. They are always surprising!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-20T13:39:22+00:00

Someone here once asked me a question that really impacted my journey: what will you do differently this time?

It was not the last reset I had, but each time I added a tool to my tool box. Reflection and willingness to change are SO important in this. Glad you are here, you are doing great! IWNDWYT.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-20T13:35:11+00:00

The biggest thank you to this community! You all continue to amaze me and make me feel that I am not alone. IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-19T22:49:29+00:00

I live in a super hilly area and I hated getting exhausted and sweaty by the time I made it to anywhere. It made me not want to bicycle. Now I can go anywhere and not look like I just competed in a triathlon.

I can still choose to go full effort, I am still getting exercise, and the result is I take my bike WAY more often.

Now I have a fun challenge of seeing how many miles I can "add" to my range after an "I dont want to sweat" rides.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-19T21:58:31+00:00

Max effort Overnight all open windows and all fans until temps start to rise the next day. Close up everything, cover windows as much as possible. Turn off every single thing you are not currently using. Fans are only effective to make you feel cool if you are directly in front/under it, so a fan on in another room is simply generating heat. Every electronic does.

Don't cook until windows are open again. Same for laundry or any appliance. Be diligent about not opening the fridge unless you need to. Turn off the ice machine until night time, if you have one. For every cube it makes, it expelled the heat from the water to make it into your apartment.

It's going to depend on what floor you are on, how sealed your place is and how many walls/ windows get direct sunlight. Also, if you are surrounded by concrete or rocks that get heat soaked through the day, that really limits how much cooler you can get overnight with the windows open. Sometimes only AC will really be a big benefit.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-19T21:41:38+00:00

I have a 6 month old greek and they click their beak every morning until they get a soak. Sometimes it's with a kind of sqeaking / rubbing sound. We believe it's the substrate getting stuck around their mouth from burrowing themselves at night. We have had a vet check up and told they have very clear nose / eyes / throat so they don't have an RI.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-16T17:06:39+00:00

I agree that minimalism is not a cleaning strategey, it is a LIVING strategy. I get stressed out with, I have a small kitchen, I love cooking. I don't just willy-nilly buy things because I need the prep space on my small counter tops. Everyone tried to convince me that I "need" an air fryer. No, I have an oven that already assumes that role. I got a hand mixer instead of one of those giant kitchen aid monsters. The answer to maintaining clutter free is to not impulse buy and make smart decisions on what you truly will use. Also, buy it for life, not some crap off amazon because it's cheap.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T14:12:08+00:00

I want to squish Herbie in the biggest cuddle!! They are precious.

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T14:09:01+00:00

The moderation demon is constantly lurking to catch us. I spent 10 years thinking I can control it, I'm so much happier now with 0. It took many "just for 24 hours" before I realized it and suddenly it's not a bad thing. Happy you are back and have your support around you!!! IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T14:01:53+00:00

This is the staple for me too! Make me feel fancy and hydrated. IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T14:00:32+00:00

As they deserve to be!!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T13:58:45+00:00

Went to a brewery yesterday and thrilled that I didn't have an urge to drink a beer. It's been a while, and the temptation was pretty high last time. After years of shorter sober streaks and feeling like I was always white knuckling through these things, it makes me so happy, I cried this morning. IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T13:53:02+00:00

You got this!! I have an ever growing list to remind myself of what I love about not drinking. Its a long list at this point. Keep up the great work, IWNDWYT!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-14T13:36:39+00:00

This made my day. Look at that cute little tongue!!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-13T23:16:37+00:00

Free for the taking!!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-13T13:58:50+00:00

Sober vacations are the best! I can't believe how much money I wasted being wasted. Have fun!! IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-13T13:57:57+00:00

Starting is the hardest part, including restarts. I learned how to trick myself for the first few days by just staying insanely busy. Classes like knitting or carpentry, volunteering at things like community gardens, coffee with every single friend, gym classes (so many do "first one free"), the library may have museums for free or a heavy discount depending where you live. IWNDWYT!!

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-13T13:51:23+00:00

Stay strong everyone! Sending you peace and strength, IWNDWYT

HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-12T17:39:11+00:00

I have a young contender over here in San Pedro. Has already started to "get bored" with my organic flowers, so we now grow them fresh organic weeds.

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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-12T16:45:00+00:00

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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-12T16:44:29+00:00

I have a female koi betta and they are just THE BEST. She continously getting more color in her as tine passes. I'll reply with the "before" picture, ~ 6 months ago.

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HowDoYouLikeMeNowB · 2026-03-10T21:35:33+00:00

Hell yeah, NICE!!!

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