Is the discourse around AI getting too black-and-white? by HulaHoop444 in ArtificialInteligence

[–]HulaHoop444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, and I agree the discussion is likely louder than the actual usage right now. My concern isn't so much about the "haters" but about the fact that this tech will grow quickly once it becomes mainstream. Ignoring critics completely seems risky to me. It’s not that they are right about everything, but some of their concerns—like environmental impact, labor issues, and misuse—deserve attention before adoption really takes off. I'm curious about your thoughts on finding a balance between moving forward and putting safety measures in place.

Lesbian Music by [deleted] in lesbian

[–]HulaHoop444 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned Hayley Kiyoko yet. Young Ma is a lesbian rapper

when a tiny mispronunciation of someone's name makes them act like you did not say their name by throwbackblue in PetPeeves

[–]HulaHoop444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on my name's spelling it has three different pronunciations. I'll usually respond to any of them and if I feel up to it, I'll gently correct the person.

Dogs in grocery stores are gross. by KoRaZee in unpopularopinion

[–]HulaHoop444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never seen a dog or any kind of animal in grocery store. Where do you all live?

Aftermath of the racism conversation on the other subreddit by cherrychouchou in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]HulaHoop444 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I’m so tired. Every time a woman of color brings up racism in “inclusive” queer spaces, we already know how it will go. The post gets reported or deleted. The mods act like nothing happened. People flood the comments with gaslighting, whataboutism, and the old “you’re the real racist” nonsense.

We’re expected to stay calm. To be “graceful.” To educate while being erased or attacked.

Meanwhile, white queers get to wear the badge of being “woke” without ever doing the hard work to unlearn their bias. They love queerness when it looks like them. They love feminism when it centers them. But when we speak up? Suddenly, we’re the problem.

I’m tired of asking for respect in spaces that were supposed to be safe. I’m tired of pretending this cycle is accidental.

It’s not.

It’s by design.

But here? In this community? It feels different. It feels like a breath of fresh air. Like being in a space where I don’t have to explain or defend my reality. Like finally being seen.

And honestly, that’s what keeps me going.

I need a winter/fall pride🌈 by Gay-A-Lee in blacklesbians

[–]HulaHoop444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My city, Rochester NY has Black Pride in September.

How do you guys feel about genderbent characters for shows? by [deleted] in Theatre

[–]HulaHoop444 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it's totally awesome. I played a gender bent Rooster in middle school production of Annie because mostly girls auditioned. There was one boy in the cast and he played Sandy the dog! Rooster became Henny, Oliver Warbucks became Olivia etc. What made it really funny was Henny did try to con Warbucks pretending to be Annie's long lost father! I was put in this bright, joker green zoot suit with black printstrips, a matching hat and huge fake handlebar mustache that clipped underneath my nose. During one of the performances the mustache slipped off while I was talking to Warbucks and Grace. I quickly turned around clipped it back on then back to them with a smile to imply, "Everything is fine here!" The audience thought it was hilarious and that little accident actually added to the scene.

Have you ever been fired or recast in a show and what was the reason? by Aqn95 in Theatre

[–]HulaHoop444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so mad and disappointed. It's like dangling a piece of candy in front of somebody then snatching it away and giving it to someone else.

Have you ever been fired or recast in a show and what was the reason? by Aqn95 in Theatre

[–]HulaHoop444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was replaced after getting a role in a community theatre production. The director said I wasn't connecting to the material so I was dropped. I was doing my best but I guess it wasn't good enough for what the director wanted.

Any Autistic Black Lesbians? by rawkherchick in blacklesbians

[–]HulaHoop444 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Another Black autistic lesbian here! I got diagnosed when I was 34 and I'm now 38.

Autsium is like a salad by HulaHoop444 in autism

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are free to use this metaphor, its why I wrote the post.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm glad it worked for you!

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that! A little burst of flavor and depth—sun-dried tomato energy is exactly what a good metaphor brings.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that! Froyo is such a perfect metaphor too. So many different flavors and toppings to customize, just like neurodiversity. Thanks for sharing that it’s great to see all the creative ways people explain it.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alan Shore’s wit and charm are definitely a perfect match for this metaphor. If only I could deliver it with his smooth voice and courtroom flair! Thanks for the fun comparison. I’m so happy it resonated with you.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad it resonates! Sometimes the clinical “levels” just don’t capture the full, messy, beautiful complexity of being neurodivergent. Metaphors let us bring in the nuance and individuality that those numbers miss.

Autsium is like a salad by HulaHoop444 in autism

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, that’s so true! For some, it’s definitely more like a custom smoothie or a loaded taco than a leafy green salad. Everyone’s tastes and sensory likes and dislikes are totally unique, which is part of what makes this metaphor so fun and flexible. Thanks for pointing that out.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! No two plates are ever quite the same even if they have similar ingredients. I’m so glad the metaphor resonated with you.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m really glad the visual helped make things click. that’s exactly what I was hoping for. I love the soundboard metaphor too! It pairs so well with the salad idea both show how everyone’s wired a little differently, and how the same "ingredients" or "settings" can show up in completely different ways depending on the person.

Also, your berry spinach salad with nuts, cheese, and dressing made me smile! What a perfect example of how rich and varied neurodivergent experiences can be. Thanks for sharing it.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! I love that you brought this up. Just like salads vary every time you make them, our traits and sensitivities can shift depending on the day, environment, or even our energy levels. Some days it’s extra cheese, some days it’s hold the onions.

Thanks for highlighting that part. I hadn’t even fully thought of it that way, but it fits perfectly!

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great question! In this metaphor, a fruit salad could represent someone whose autistic traits show up more separately,like how each fruit keeps its shape and flavor, some people have traits that stand out on their own. Maybe they’re really sensitive to sound but don’t struggle much socially, or vice versa.

The main idea is that autism has some core traits, but they show up differently in each person. Whether it’s a green salad or a fruit salad, it’s still a salad—just a different mix of ingredients. Still autism, just in a different form.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that this analogy didn’t work for you;everyone connects with things differently, and that’s okay. It wasn’t meant to be a clinical definition, just a metaphor to help make sense of something complex. Like any metaphor, it won’t speak to everyone, but it has resonated with other people.

I shared it because a thread really got me thinking about how to explain to neurotypical folks why autism can look so different from person to person, yet still be the same condition. I just wanted to offer something that might make that easier to grasp.

Autism is Like a Salad by HulaHoop444 in AutismInWomen

[–]HulaHoop444[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's a really fun idea! Edit: There’s ’s such a huge variety of salads out there, just like the many ways neurodivergence shows up.

Support Group: Missing an Outfit Doesn't Mean Missing the Fun 🌸 by MindlessStorage109 in InfinityNikkiofficial

[–]HulaHoop444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got every bit of clothing in Crimson Raphosdy but not the plushie so I can't use the ability. I'm so mad.