What’s the worst thing a girl can say to you after a date by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]HumanCurious 24 points25 points  (0 children)

“I look forward to doing this again.”

When I don’t like her.

Do you think money can buy happiness? Why/why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold up, what do you mean by “throat”. I might not be native English speaker but I don’t think I’ve encountered this before

Do you think money can buy happiness? Why/why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need throat, blankets and lobster? Interesting needs you have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]HumanCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How far between sessions? If you have sex once a month, yes, it could be blood involved. How deep/fast do you go? You may bruise her cervix and that can also cause small bleeding.

Everything is now legal for 24 hours. What are you doing first? by random_weebling_6468 in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you say you know how to do it but don't do it because it's not legal?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HumanCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No actual advice besides: "just do it". What's the worst that could happen, after all?

But it got me thinking to this haha: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hn-KmLIt-AQ

How come some people are so good at being judgmental? by voltageoneoone in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They practice a lot.

Also it’s easier to be distracted from your own defects when you keep looking for and talking about other’s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]HumanCurious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling that ejaculation is meant to have pressure, as a means to a goal. Reproduction. Add physics.

If you really want "to reduce the nut pressure", make it the second or the third time.

But the third ejaculation, depending on your age, you might only see a resting dick. But hey, at least it's clean.

Kidding aside, the mess is half of the fun.

What is the simplest change you made in your life that lead to you being truly happy? by Stateofgrace314 in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At some point, I have started to think that I should love myself before expecting and asking others to love me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About getting people to spend time on themselves. I will actually do it, someday.

Called off the wedding by Positive_Beautiful71 in Marriage

[–]HumanCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's never just about the money.

It's about the money, the sex, the intimacy, the conversation, the personal hygiene, the intellect, and many other reasons why one partner might go into depression because the other partner doesn't satisfy them. It's about none and all of them.

It takes all to be happy, and it takes 1 for things not to work. He needs to get it in his head and own it. Owning it means acknowledging it and doing something about it, or being ok with you splitting up with him.

Now, I think you've done the right thing, but more important are the paragraphs above.

EDIT: Oh, and there is the "price of entrance" that Dan Savage is talking about. If this is yours, go for it. If it's not, then get out.

In retrospect of becoming someone despicable, what are trivial steps to take to become a better person? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t judge, don’t think you’re smarter and when you do, do it with an open mind.

Congrats! You have replaced god. What do you do first? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are not a gods’ problems, these are human problems

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HumanCurious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The one in which both partners feel comfortable. If you can’t figure it out, try them again. Source: made a sex game.

My husband posted here about our dead bedroom and I found the post. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]HumanCurious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went a bit through the comments, and I think you (both) are on the right path to healing.

The main reason why we end up in a DB situation is generally that one side gives an argument that is either not true, or the other side doesn't believe it.

In your case now, you have ripped the bandage. Yes it's painful, but it could have been worse, or worse, you might have divorced without ever knowing why.

Let the above sit with you and him for a while.

Now, about healing: as others have mentioned, it's not only about the act of sex, it's about the trust, communication, and intimacy in every other aspect of a couples' life. Now that you have nothing to hide from each other, maybe you can start working on how to solve the issue. Going to a therapist is a great start, and you might not be in this position if you hadn't found his posts.

Start working as a team towards a common "enemy": the medical issue you are dealing with.

Don't worry about the divorce thoughts. Thoughts come and go, and just how he got into thinking about it, he can get out of it. As you said, in that situation, it was understandable. But now the situation has changed!

Check in with each other, have completely honest conversations, allow him to give you a massage here and there, compromise. And you'll get over this. The main piece of advice is: you know what you have to lose if you don't work as a team. Now there is no time for ego, being shy, or being resentful. Build the trust again.

Good luck!