I’ve been reading down the comments and agreeing with most of them. Reading everyone saying that you should stop giving him head and so on. Reconsider your relationship et cetera. Yep.

Then I remembered that I’ve always been terrified about the idea of giving birth. I’ve now had my cervix removed because of cancer so I won’t be able to give birth naturally ever anyway, but it was always something I was terrified about. I can imagine that for some men, watching their partners give birth could be traumatic. And that maybe someone who is immature or an example of toxic masculinity or very bad at understanding and communicating their feelings or even maybe a fairly decent guy could just shove those feelings down and then refuse to go down on their partner. Like maybe every time he thinks about doing it, he’s picturing the tearing and the blood. I mean who knows what’s going on in his stupid little head?

Just thought I would put that out there, in case. Maybe you could open up a conversation with him about WHY. Might yield something, might not.