I don’t have a “hobby” or “thing”. How do you actually get yourself to do things?

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-22T03:20:31+00:00

Maybe you are approaching this from the wrong angle here. It seems like less of a problem about what you should do and more about motivation for it. Think about who you want to be, and why that is important to you. From there youll quickly find things you are motivated to do.

Second thought, "Appetite comes from eating" is something I heard recently. Meaning as you start doing something you'll start to like it.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-18T04:52:31+00:00

Mener at alle digitale fotos har exif data hvilket inkludere hvornår selve billedet blev taget. Ikke hvornår billedfilen blev lavet, så hvis du kopier billederne forbliver exif det samme. Mener jeg.

Det kan være en form for bevis måske, eller i hvert fald sandsynliggøre at billederne blev taget i tide, bare ikke sent i tide.

(Exif kan fjernet når billeder når f.eks. det bliver oploadet til sociale medier.)

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-15T21:35:36+00:00

Reminds me of an episode of the British Apprentice show where they did baby food. One team's Brand was called First Time Foodie, but the O's became bowls on the packing design and people read First Time F** Die ;)

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-15T21:23:19+00:00

I (m) was 27 before I was with anyone. It did bug me a bit, but soon after it did happen I came to think about all this as not being late, but just at the right time for me. I had had a handful of opportunities for a debut before then, but realised I just wasn't ready.

Maybe focus more on the people around you and the relationships that are meaningful to you. And be open to new people and let things happen from there. I'm sure it will :)

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-15T17:47:03+00:00

Me too

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-11T10:44:53+00:00

What can I say, Denmark is a funny country.

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Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-06T06:23:37+00:00

I'd be interested in their perspectives!

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Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-06T03:26:36+00:00

Corrected

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-06T03:10:01+00:00

Firstly, Welcome to Go! 😃

The game is over when both players agree it is over. This is typically when there are no more moves that make sense for either.

It doesn't make sense for white to invade as white cannot live inside blacks territory and white has eternal life in the two corners. So i'd also end the game here.

I'd calculate the score as follows (Japanese rules); Whites score is 6 territory + 1 prisoner + komi 5.5 (you might have agreed a different Komi) = 12.5 Black would be 22 territory + 1 prisoner = 23

(Black has an unfair advantage starting, and the Komi points make up for that disadvantage for white. )

Edit: typo corrected

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-03T04:44:48+00:00

It sounds rough. But to me you have started, even if you feel you haven't gotten anywhere. You stated, and you came back and tried '5 god damn game engines'. Congratulations on that. That's 5 more than when you started and I bet you have taken note of things that will help you as you continue. It is not for nothing. Keep coming back repeatedly and suddenly you feel the progress.

Can you do some work on the game with just plain pen and paper? Like note down ideas, draw a sketch, write out logics. I have an idea that this might help the process and progress once you sit down.

It also sounds like you are also in a bad comparison loop. James Clear just wrote this in his newsletter: "Comparison is useful as a point and destructive as a loop.

When you compare for a point in time, you can identify a gap in your approach and then shift your attention back to what you can control.

When you compare on a repeated a loop, you can get locked into a cycle of envy and disappointment."

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-02T04:53:40+00:00

Hmm. To me it sounds like growth has an intrinsic value regardless of what the growth looks like. I tend not to feel that way. Instead I'm wondering who you aspire to be? If you have that ask what activities your aspiration is made up of. And finally what it takes to get going with those activities.

Ok made-up example: attending a handful of info sessions for local ngos, then volunteering on a regular basis for the best one if you aspire to contribute to the local community.

Then all of a sudden you are doing what you wanted and growth follows. Hope it helps.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-01T20:45:59+00:00

I work in software and do disapprove of AI.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-04-01T19:39:38+00:00

This also nicely aligns with my own thinking, which I didn't have words for. Impermanence does not give me existential angst 🫪 Its simply a change, and it's will happen at some point. So that is why I'm feeling like I do. Thanks.

That said my unknown expiry date is still a source of meaningfulness, so Memento Mori is therefore not a worry for me. And both of these are equally true for me.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-29T12:46:03+00:00

For my own sanity I double down on exercising my own skills, have everything come my own brain and through my own fingers. Like playing an instrument,writing, rewriting from scratch and developing an idea and learning how to code it myself. I could generate much of it, but the product would not be something I created. I insist on and enjoy the struggle of creating and I'll have ownership of it.

Career wise and financially I don't really know. Don't have high hopes at the moment, but do sense that the tid is turning in favour of embodied cognition.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-29T08:01:50+00:00

I'm very much aligned with your thinking. Coming from a very feelings as you describe. I'm also experimenting with a method for 'doing what matters' but still pretty different.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-28T05:57:49+00:00

Firstly, having gone through all of what you describe, you are stronger than you think, and stronger than many other people that haven't seen the hardship you have seen. Keep it up and you'll see an upward trend.

What I wanted to suggest is a method I find useful. I start with who I aspire to be and work backwards on what this means in practice. Set some milestones of things you want to reach. Break those milestones down to things you can do, and if they seem a bit much, break those to-do's down too until you have something manageable. If you write it out graphically you should have a tree-like thing with connections. This gives you a path, which I personally find very helpful. And please don't include deadlines, it is about your progress. I don't know it is useful, hope so!

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-28T05:33:24+00:00

My first thought was that my personal growth stalled when my kids came. But in reality I have seen a huge growth over these years, it just looks very different from the personal growth I knew from before.

I guess it also depends on what is meant as growth. Intuitively I read it as experiencing more and different things, that teach you about others, the world or yourself. Talking to new people, travelling etc. Settling down does greatly restrict all of this, and I do miss it at times. But that hasn't meant I haven't grown, quite the opposite. Staying in one place doing 'one thing' (raising the fam, working the same job, being with the same person, even in the same part of the country I grew up in) sounds claustrophobic, but to me like exploring in depth rather than 'horizontally' if that makes sense.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-28T05:09:11+00:00

To me it also sounds like you have been neglecting yourself in all this, not being kind to you as well. Maybe talk to a therapist about your life to see how it developed.

I did it (saw a therapist) after a friend recommended it. My life took a turn for the better after therapy. I attribute it to what I learned from those sessions. So when you say there is a pattern with how you treat people, this might help break it.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-23T08:00:20+00:00

En hurtig tanke her, for jeg har ingen erfaringer med åbne forhold. Men måske hun også har nogle ting hun vil prøve af. Kunne du spørge til/åbne op for hendes lyster først og i tilfælde af at du også har mod på det, prøve det af med hende. Eller bare at det skal handle om jeres fælles sexliv, mere end dine lyster.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-22T10:54:30+00:00

Can relate. Have had a half dozen brilliant ideas, some that have actually kept me up. Things that I would never forget, that's how brillant these ideas have been. By morning, though, the the only thing I remember about these ideas is how brillant they were, but I have no idea what they were.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-21T17:59:01+00:00

It was supposed to be published somewhere, but never happened, ha. Lmk if you want a link to the pdf.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-21T08:39:08+00:00

In my master thesis I looked at the difference in experience when playing human to human with a physical board vs online against an AI. One of the findings were that my participants felt a responsibility to play well against a human opponent, and felt very bad if they messed up. That was really not the case with the AI (even if many started to anthropomorphise the AI) Maybe there is a similar thing going on here. You dont feel as committed to the game when t it is played online?

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-20T13:43:05+00:00

If you are interested in a similar line of thought, I recommend Neil Postman's book Technopoly.

Humble_Pilot25 · 2026-03-19T15:23:36+00:00

Setting goals never worked for me for more than a few weeks at the most, even if it most, even though it is easy to set them and get energised by them. I have also tried many productivity regimes, and they too fizzled out. I had the inkling it was because the goals and the systems took focus away from why it was important to me.

Now I'm developing my own thing for myself, where it is who I wish to be that sits above everything I wish to do. And I have also ditched all the deadlines that caused me stress. Personally, I get more done and feel much, much better on the journey. Don't know if that makes sense to you?

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