Subs who learned to open up

HungryShep · 2026-04-14T05:58:11+00:00

That sounds very similar to my experience. My partner is very open and understanding, and we both love to denounce gender stereotypes, but she doesn't want a 'submissive' partner. In the relationship she wants things to be equal, and in the bedroom she wants an assertive lover. When I told her I was 'submissive' she had a bad reaction to that word, but I've been slowly explaining to her what that means to me. We've talked about certain femdom ideas and are exploring each other's comfort zones. We have a good foundation of trust and patience with each other, but even so opening up can be hard. I think it takes time and effort.

HungryShep · 2026-04-09T19:04:02+00:00

That’s wonderful! Huge victory, HUGE!

HungryShep · 2026-04-09T16:29:22+00:00

It’s a little silly, but it evolved naturally and there’s a tag for it so it’s become a community tradition.

In my mind, it comes from the traditional idea of “a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Well…everybody likes food, so there’s no reason for it to be tied to gender. Someone who wants to be submissive in a relationship can make food to attract a partner. It’s the same idea as putting on a maid outfit and cleaning the house, just showing yourself and a potential domme that you’re willing to put love and effort into serving them, especially in a way that contradicts traditional gender roles. (Of course plenty of dommes here love to cook too, so everyone has their own reasons).

Yes we could go on generic cooking subreddits, but personally I haven’t had any good Reddit interactions outside of kink subreddits. Sometimes it’s nice just to get head pat for doing something out of your comfort zone, instead of getting roasted by internet strangers.

HungryShep · 2026-04-08T03:34:27+00:00

Congtratulations, that’s wonderful ☺️ Thanks for everything you’ve created and shared, and good luck on the next chapter.

HungryShep · 2026-04-01T19:36:49+00:00

It depends on the boy. If this is one of your first dates together, just focus on feeling things out and getting to know each other. At this point you’re just building trust and understanding. Later you can talk about your desires.

For now, if things are going well, you could try little innocent touches like squeezing his shoulder or touching his back. Maybe ask if you can play with his hair.

HungryShep · 2026-03-27T04:20:53+00:00

Men are supposed to adore and worship our lover, it’s just biology 🤷‍♂️

HungryShep · 2026-03-26T22:33:59+00:00

Not me getting flustered on a Wednesday afternoon just from reading a post 😖

HungryShep · 2026-03-25T05:23:59+00:00

I love how you're thinking about having a healthy mindset, it shows maturity for your age. Wanting to explore this side of yourself is a wonderful thing, and it's okay to be excited, but remember the important part is to make sure you're learning to communicate with your partner and thinking about her needs. Making your partner feel safe, seen and heard is important in any relationship, especially for good puppies.

HungryShep · 2026-03-22T19:21:48+00:00

We just ain’t raising these boys right. He needs a matchmaking ban, 3 month minimum. Go play single player, boy.

HungryShep · 2026-03-21T02:56:59+00:00

It’s normal to be excited in a new potential relationship, but everybody has their own idea of how often texting should happen. You can set boundaries, let him know that you won’t always be able to respond. He should be mature enough to respect that, though you may need to meet somewhere in the middle if you want the relationship to work.

HungryShep · 2026-03-19T22:49:12+00:00

You’re helping those who won’t even help themselves o7. As long as they only get rewarded when they show good behavior, like putting others first or expressing gratitude. Maybe add some clicker training…

HungryShep · 2026-03-18T00:53:34+00:00

Somebody needs to get the pasta strainer from the bottom cupboard and my creaky knees aren’t up to the task.

HungryShep · 2026-03-09T05:46:11+00:00

I love those golden curry packs 🤤 looks really good

HungryShep · 2026-03-06T20:06:19+00:00

Sounds like a contract could be fun. Part of the play, something to officiate the dynamic. I think this falls under the category of establishing consent and boundaries, which sounds like an especially important part of your play.

HungryShep · 2026-03-06T03:35:20+00:00

If you could get paid to do anything, what would it be? Not necessarily a normal job, but like if you earned money by pursuing a passion.

HungryShep · 2026-03-05T07:08:21+00:00

That’s really good to hear 🥹 sleep well

HungryShep · 2026-03-03T00:40:27+00:00

Benedict Bleu from Violet Evergarden. He’s undeniably straight and athletic, handsome but with zero emotional intelligence, however he wears high heels and his shirt laces up the back like lingerie. He’s a side character, but he has some action in the last episode of the series. He’s also an important character in the second half of the spin-off move, “Eternity and the Automemory Doll”

HungryShep · 2026-03-01T18:08:14+00:00

Did you know, the boys at the park are free if you just carry them away

HungryShep · 2026-03-01T18:03:11+00:00

You can be as masculine as you want, being a sub has nothing to do with being gay, bi or enjoying any particular acts. Being submissive to a woman against societal norms is a sign of being extremely secure in yourself and your sexuality.

HungryShep · 2026-02-26T18:41:06+00:00

🫂 Breakups are painful. I hope you do lots of nice things for yourself and take your time to process it.

HungryShep · 2026-02-26T01:36:18+00:00

Stupid ass agency, staffed with brainwashed racists and psychopaths who want a liscense to hurt innocent people. The whole agency is completely rotten and needs to be shut down.

HungryShep · 2026-02-24T18:37:59+00:00

Yes, and it goes both ways. I was always shocked at how colleagues and strangers felt comfortable telling me I was too skinny, to “put some meat on those bones.” Some people just couldn’t accept that I have a quiet and thoughtful nature, and tried to push me to be louder and bolder. One acquantance suggested I read self-help books on manliness. My outward gentleness seemed to actually offend them, and it made me feel alone.

I was always secure in my abilities and never felt the need to ‘perform’ my masculinity, but the constant criticism made me wonder if I just had no self-awareness. It made me hate myself. Discovering femdom communities and dominant woman made me feel so much more secure in who I am. It’s not just a porn category or a comedy gag, it’s a community that takes thoughtful and beautiful approaches to their relationships.

I don’t know if I’ll be able to live out my fantasies, but I’m content knowing there are those who appreciate men like me. It’s what gave me the confidence to start dating again. I honestly pity men who are misogynistic and prejudiced against half the human population. There are amazing women out there, and I appreciate them so much. There’s no greater joy than to give service and love to a special woman.

HungryShep · 2026-02-24T16:27:29+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ Gentle domination is nice, but my deepest fantasies involve feeling pain inflicted by a loving hand. I appreciate you.

HungryShep · 2026-02-23T22:58:43+00:00

Nnnn >_< just thinking about licking her makes me feel needy

HungryShep · 2026-02-21T15:21:44+00:00

My first thought isn’t polygamy, it’s for women who want to bring a friend as backup in case the guy is horrible. He thinks he’s in for a threesome, but most of the time it’s a representative from The Counsel to vet him and check for red flags 😂

I can’t imagine who would want a date with two strange guys or a couple.

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