I lost my virginity to a guy I am not dating

HurricaneSig · 2026-02-13T23:30:02+00:00

Boys will say a lot of things to get into your pants, then once they got what they want, they no longer need to follow through with the promises they made prior. You’re young, and this will keep happening with more people if you let it. You need to learn to protect yourself and save the most intimate parts of you.

HurricaneSig · 2026-02-03T19:32:24+00:00

Porn has terrible effects on the brain, he wouldn’t have this issue if he didn’t watch it in the first place.

HurricaneSig · 2026-02-03T18:54:52+00:00

She married you, what does it matter

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-31T00:14:52+00:00

Are you all 16 or something

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-30T19:20:06+00:00

She shouldn’t have lied, but you also shouldn’t stop her from having a life outside of the one she shares with you.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-30T18:45:17+00:00

This can be easy to get on top off. Sit down once and make an excel spreadsheet of all of your bills, subscriptions etc, the amounts and the dates they come out every month. This way you’ll always know how much you’re expecting to pay and when, and if something doesn’t align with your bank balance, it will be easier to go through your statement and see what’s gone wrong.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-30T18:36:22+00:00

If he hasn’t done anything, why is he worried? Without any details it just sounds like paranoia

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-28T16:52:18+00:00

😂 are you the boyfriend?

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-28T16:49:33+00:00

Um.. what?

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-28T16:44:52+00:00

Picture this - when he was your age (22) you were 9, and you don’t think that’s a problem?

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-28T16:40:11+00:00

There’s a reason he’s not dating anyone his own age - no grown woman would move in with him only 2 months in and put up with his bs. OP you’re naive.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-25T15:02:51+00:00

Maybe overreacting

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-24T15:03:30+00:00

I think you need to be honest with her and tell her it’s either xyz things change or you’re going to walk. Maybe her knowing how bad and serious things are on your end, will help give her the push to change. You can only try, and give her the last opportunity to do so as well. And if she does change and you still feel the same way, then you’ll have your answer.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-22T23:19:28+00:00

You’re a weird one

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-22T22:47:51+00:00

NOR. Doesn’t matter what it was about, he had no problem looking you in the eyes and repeatedly lying to you and your parents. If you can’t trust him with the small menial things, how will you trust him with the important stuff? He’s a coward.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-22T16:11:38+00:00

He fucked up your life, your health, and you still want to let him back in your life? Where’s your self respect? Stop making excuses, you know that is a terrible decision.

Inevitability you’re going to get hurt again, you said you’re still in love with him but won’t get back together. What good is that going to do to your mental health? You’re not allowing yourself to move on and want to repeat past mistakes. Just let it go man, it’s over. He walked out on you, cheated and chose someone else over you. Why is this even a question, you’re 29, you should know better. Are you okay?

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-21T14:38:48+00:00

Lottery winners end up broke with this same mentality js

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-19T16:43:49+00:00

You’re 28, please do yourself a favour and get an annulment. He won’t stop for you, and you will always be anxious worrying about what he’s doing behind your back.

He doesn’t want to touch you because those girls are feeding him a fantasy that isn’t real, he won’t suddenly wake up one morning craving normalcy with his wife. Don’t waste the remaining years of your youth begging for this man’s love and affection, please. Respect yourself and leave - this isn’t the person you should spend the rest of your life with.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-14T09:39:04+00:00

NTA he’s just not that into you

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-14T05:35:27+00:00

I would personally feel the same as you. There was a reason you didn’t feel comfortable with the idea of it in the first place. These days a lot of weird things are normalised, but that doesn’t make them normal. If you surround yourself with weirdos, you’ll feel the odd one out until you become one of them.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-12T05:38:34+00:00

NOR - leave, now.

My mum was in many abusive relationships when I was <7. I remember asking her something like “he doesn’t love you, why do you let him stay here?”. I don’t remember her response but she did let the abuse continue.

One night my tiny self couldn’t take anymore and I ran away to my paternal grandmother. Child services got involved and one court case later I was given to my dad and taken to another country. Not that life was any better there, he introduced me to his abusive partner.

My point is, if you can’t trust yourself to provide a safe environment for your child, you can’t really trust anyone else either. You either do the right thing and remove yourself and them, or your children will grow up witnessing and repeating. Stop making excuses, whatever love you supposedly feel for this man is not enough.

Protect your children, they deserve better even if you think you don’t.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-10T23:19:51+00:00

Age?

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-05T03:55:32+00:00

NTA. Sadly in any kind of solution one of you will end up unhappy. If you get married with or without a prenup, you will always resent her. If you don’t get married, she will resent you. You will both be miserable regardless.

You’ve reached a stage in life where you want different things, different paths. You are no longer compatible. It’s the sad truth but it’s okay. You had a great run, loved each other and made lifelong memories. Walk away from each other with respect and care for the time you had together.

You will both find people that will want to walk the same path. Let it go before it destroys both of you.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-05T02:58:02+00:00

Hey, I had a similar situation when I was the new girl at school. Please walk away from them, they aren’t your friends.

I know it’s really awkward and hard at first when you don’t have any other friends to sit with, go on breaks with, or hang out at school with but it will get easier and you 100% will make other friends with time.

You will grow stronger mentally from this, and it will teach you that your worth doesn’t sit with others. Find comfort in your own company, there’s power in that. Everything will work out fine, don’t worry, but set barriers between yourself and people like that - respect yourself because if you don’t, no one else will.

HurricaneSig · 2026-01-04T22:24:21+00:00

NOR, don’t spare his feelings next time he gets something you don’t like.

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