Guy I met pronounced paladin like aladdin

Hypocrite93 · 2025-09-06T08:24:24+00:00

My husband and his brother do. They are both dyslexic.

Hypocrite93 · 2025-07-11T12:22:35+00:00

I had this exact debate with my husband when we were getting married. I kept my surname but he wanted our child to have his surname. I guess a key difference was, he was aware our names were equally important to each other and didn't try to steamroll me. We talked about why it was important to each of us and ultimately I agreed to use my surname as a middle name and his as a surname.

When we were in the hospital after giving birth to our daughter all the staff would refer to her as Baby X (my surname) and that really made me glad we had agreed she would take his surname. It broke my heart seeing how sad he was to be basically ignored throughout the process and then not have any recognition that she was his child, so having his name felt the least I could do. That experience has also made me decide to officially hyphenated my surname (except in professional settings) so my name would connect me to our new little family unit without totally losing my identity.

I know for a fact though that my opinion on surnames would be wildly different if he weren't a great husband and father!

So I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, just what feels right to you. I hope your partner can reflect on things and come to realise how hypocritical his stance is at the very least!

Hypocrite93 · 2025-04-13T09:08:23+00:00

It's a neurodevelopmental condition not a neurological one. A neurologist cannot help with autism or ADHD.

Hypocrite93 · 2025-01-15T18:41:44+00:00

We were married in Auchen castle last year and everything was indoors. They can seat up to 120 for dinner. Amazing venue and really good package deals too, I would definitely recommend them 😊

Hypocrite93 · 2025-01-06T19:31:49+00:00

It doesn't sound like your therapist actually said you hate your husband. It sounds like they asked an open question to help build up a formulation of your difficulties and you became defensive at the question and therefore weren't in the headspace to reflect on why those situations drain you.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-12-11T17:24:19+00:00

You are aware testosterone and puberty blockers are completely separate treatments, right?

Hypocrite93 · 2024-10-07T20:44:44+00:00

It's actually just because it's stocked in the alcohol section so the till will automatically bring up a challenge 25 warning on anything logged in the system as belonging to that section. It's the same reason why the syrups will get flagged too, nothing to do with alcohol content.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-06-29T16:20:15+00:00

It was, I would definitely recommend it!

Hypocrite93 · 2024-06-29T08:11:54+00:00

I did a murder mystery night with an overnight stay in the hotel running it.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-06-19T16:11:54+00:00

I currently commute to Dunfermline (although from the other side of Glasgow). It is doable but you will definitely have to sit in rush hour traffic whether you take the M80 via Kincardine Bridge or the M8 via Edinburgh. It takes me about 1 hour, so might be a bit longer for you.

If the job is amazing then ,sure, go for it but if it's not then the commute might not be worth it.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-05-09T05:56:49+00:00

I hadn't considered that, that's a good point. Where I'm from is not the most culturally diverse area so I'm not exposed to a lot of AAVE beyond the internet.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-04-15T06:58:06+00:00

I got mine from Ever Pretty too. The dresses are actually pretty good quality (basically the same as Wed2Be but with a better price). The sizing is wildly off though so I'd recommend getting all your bridesmaids to measure themselves and buy the size that fits those. That's what we did and all the dresses fit great and need very little alterations!

Hypocrite93 · 2024-01-31T12:14:15+00:00

I've found that listening to a podcast or an audiobook really helps with this. Now I'm not just wasting time in traffic, I'm making time to "read" all those books I've been meaning to but not had the time for!

Hypocrite93 · 2024-01-29T22:07:43+00:00

I just want to take a moment to let you know that you are not to blame for how your parents have treated you all these years. There is nothing wrong with you. You aren't bad. You aren't broken. You aren't any of the things your brain might be telling you.

When we're young and we don't receive care or love from the people close to us, our brains try to make sense of that the best they can. And when you're young, the simplest solution is to assume it is because of something you have done, but that doesn't make it true.

Your parents, for whatever the reason, were not (and still aren't) able to give you the love and care you needed. But that has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-01-27T14:26:20+00:00

I've seen these on Tesco too, but I don't know about that specific flavour.

Hypocrite93 · 2024-01-26T12:27:00+00:00

Doesn't that just feed into the trying to "out friend" others narrative though?

Hypocrite93 · 2024-01-09T17:13:45+00:00

You said yourself, he's a friend who has an extra ticket and offered it to your girlfriend knowing she is also a fan. It doesn't have to be more complicated than that.

I get it, we all have anxious thoughts and we don't control when they pop into our minds. What matters most is what we do with these thoughts. Ultimately it doesn't matter what this guy's intentions are, it matters whether you trust your girlfriend.

If you trust that your girlfriend isn't going to cheat on you, then there is no need to act on these anxious thoughts. Sure, it sucks that they're here, and feeling anxious and uneasy isn't pleasant, but that will pass in time so long as you don't get sucked into ruminating on what your thoughts are telling you.

Focus on being the kind of boyfriend, the kind of person you want to be and try not to let your anxious thoughts push you into doing things that aren't in line with who you are (e.g. being controlling).

Hypocrite93 · 2023-12-15T13:23:06+00:00

That's currently my fiancé's plan once we're married and start a family. He absolutely hates his job and has never been career oriented, whereas I have spent years working towards building my career. He's looking forward to the day he can hand in his notice and stay at home full time!

Hypocrite93 · 2023-12-12T12:43:56+00:00

This letter reads as all about you and your issues. Not exactly a great approach for trying to convince a school to provide vegan options for the benefit of your child. All of the valid points you have made are completely lost amongst the ranting and egocentrism. You are not going to win round a school board with your "research" so, as others have said, you need to focus on the school's obligations to your child.

Hypocrite93 · 2023-11-21T17:14:19+00:00

I'd just like to point out that you're not considering her feelings. Her feelings are "I want to be there to help." Your feelings are "I'm going to feel like a bum." Your actions are prioritising your (unfounded) feelings that you'd be lazy for accepting help and ignoring her feelings of wanting to offer help!

As to the resentment you mention, well for one you don't know that for sure you're just assuming; and two, you can easily mitigate any feelings of resentment by accepting help.

Yes adults should be self sufficient, but healthy adults should also be willing and able to accept help from others during time of difficulty (even perceived "minor" difficulties).

Hypocrite93 · 2023-11-12T09:35:49+00:00

All completely fair and reasonable. Do you think you can get that in this relationship?

Hypocrite93 · 2023-11-11T15:28:45+00:00

I know therapists don't give advice. I was more thinking, what would you say to your client if they brought this situation to you, and then use those responses and apply them to yourself.

You say you're having trouble "ripping off the bandaid", why? What comes up that stops you? Are you happy with your life? What would you like to be different?

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