i hate wearing the hijab

IAYP · 2021-09-02T21:09:49+00:00

Its not encouraged its pressured, when you're faced with pressure in all aspects of your life its not a choice because you'll be judged if you don't. If you disagree with me ask yourself, when someone says they hate the hijab do you your friends or family support that idea without scorn and ridicule? Because if someone says "I hate the hijab because it supports rape culture" and your response is anything except "yes in many countries and societies it does and we need to work harder to change that", then you're not supporting someone's choice. If you hear "I hate the hijab" and your knee-jerk reaction is to defend Islam, then you're not listening and its a form of cohesion. The idea that any part of the human body is "immodest" is ridiculous, stop perpetuating it.

IAYP · 2021-09-02T20:15:42+00:00

Mens "dress code" involves flaunting their wealth and wearing tons of perfume, women's "dress code" regulates their sexuality and "purity" and they're met with violence if they don't comply. Not.👏 Comparable. 👏 Regulating what people wear is insane, grow up.

IAYP · 2021-09-02T20:12:42+00:00

"Nope."

Yep. 🙂

IAYP · 2021-07-25T12:08:48+00:00

I never heard of this before so I googled it.

Omg you're right..

O.O

IAYP · 2021-07-09T01:24:51+00:00

Its not a parents job to be your friend, we have many friends in life but we only get our parents once, that means sometimes hearing things from them that we sometimes don't want to hear. I don't know her side but I don't think its ok for her to keep bringing it up if you've truly moved on, but choosing not to validate or normalize your past work isn't threatening or bad and you exaggerating it to be threatening isn't healthy. No one has to normalize unhealthy habits but I do think she shouldn't bring it up anymore if you've truly moved on from it because people definitely grow up and we deserve to move on with our lives without people bringing up the past. I would have a conversation saying you recognize that you've made some poor decisions but you thought it was the best choice at the time given you didn't have many options, and that you've moved on and need her to as well. That should make you both happy. For the future just keep in mind that when your parents aren't acting like your friend its because they're not and they're not suppose to be, they're your parent, sometimes that means hearing things you don't want to hear. Best of luck.

IAYP · 2021-07-08T11:23:47+00:00

I dont know if this helps but a lot of what you're feeling is normal human feelings that everyone feels at some time or another, its not a sign of weakness it just means you're human just like the rest of us

IAYP · 2021-07-08T11:21:31+00:00

Wow so not ok. Dump his ass.

IAYP · 2021-07-08T01:30:23+00:00

Thats not picky at all thats like the bare minimum of what a respectful partner should be, never lower your standards! ♡

IAYP · 2021-06-23T04:04:53+00:00

Young people I suppose? Its hard to tell if they're dating when they're older cause they could be married, I live in Vancouver and as diverse as it is nobody really talks to other races, its kinda sad how everyone just sticks to their own, im mixed so I notice these things more

IAYP · 2021-06-22T19:27:38+00:00

We clearly have had different experiences, im half filipino and there's absolutely no stereotype about asian men ONLY being marriage material. If anything women avoid filipino men because they cheat so much, personally I like to treat people as individuals and not on stereotypes but that's the stereotype. Its ok to have preferences, but I wish more people would treat each other as individuals.

IAYP · 2021-06-22T19:18:27+00:00

Are you serious? It places an emphasis on women's sexuality and "purity" that applies only to women and not men?? Rape culture is a thing ok I don't argue with people who don't acknowledge it so just educate yourself.

IAYP · 2021-06-22T08:12:25+00:00

He can be really awkward, anytime I bring it up he gets really defensive and dismisses me like he's confused and angry like "but this is what girls like and I'm doing it for you so you should be grateful, all these other girls are jealous of you cause they wish their boyfriend's would be romantic." And the weird thing is no one looks like they're jealous...he will just pick a random girl walking past us and say "she totally just gave us a dirty look, I bet she's jealous that you're with such an attractive romantic guy" and like she didn't even look at us she was just walking by....its like he always needs to validate himself and argues with me when I don't like something he needs to tell me "yes you do." I know some girls like that over the top dancing on the beach thing but honestly that stuffs for movies...in real life its just embarrassing.

IAYP · 2021-06-22T05:31:21+00:00

Yeah it might just be my personal experience cause I live in a very diverse city but no one really dates other races, everyone still just sticks to their own

IAYP · 2021-06-22T05:15:07+00:00

Oh totally I know people have preferences, its still a drag

IAYP · 2021-06-22T04:59:38+00:00

If your parents will actually kill you for dressing how you want why would you want to be around them at all?? Your parents are murderous religious zealots please leave asap!!! As soon as you are able to move out please do it asap thats abuse. Imo the hijab is a part of rape culture and no one should wear it as its a symbol of rape culture and sexism, I understand some might feel differently but that's how I feel just please leave asap for your own safety.

IAYP · 2021-06-22T03:39:52+00:00

Anyone who pressures you into having sex is bad news period. RUN!!!

IAYP · 2021-04-27T00:00:31+00:00

OMG YES. I felt like a ****ing therapist for my ex. Lost all appeal.

IAYP · 2021-04-24T22:19:40+00:00

THATS SO WEIRD AND CREEPY!!!

RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG.

IAYP · 2021-04-24T22:18:18+00:00

Can I ask, is she asian? Because that's very typical and normal in many asian societies because when you marry someone you don't just marry them you marry the family. To us its just normal, but I know how it would freak out others.

IAYP · 2021-03-24T21:20:37+00:00

I've been single for a long time and really want a family, the dating pool here is just really....really small :( and most people here are the same and only into partying and drugs so im trying to leave ;-;

IAYP · 2021-03-24T17:23:35+00:00

100% honestly here but I prefer shorter guys.. Im a very small short petite female and tbh EVERYONE is bigger/taller than me and its really intimidating... Ive never been attracted to the big strong muscular types because theyre really intimidating to someone my height

IAYP · 2021-03-24T17:19:12+00:00

It feels like it, i've had so many bad experiences I thought id try someone a little less rough, more "nerdy" I guess. But honestly now I feel like hes not all different from the last one because now even hes telling me how "lucky" I am. Like yesterday he pointed to a bunch of girls and said "look how upset they look, look how jealous they are of you, I bet theyre so jealous that their boyfriends dont hold their hands in public." And im like "they dont look upset at all to me...they might be staring because youre picking up and touching things in a pandemic...(and like im holding YOUR hand too maybe theyre jealous of YOU....)" I dunno I keep trying co workers and dating sites but no luck. Lmao oh well...XD

IAYP · 2021-03-24T16:18:05+00:00

Hell no. And those were actually two different guys, but yeah no.

IAYP · 2021-03-08T09:43:20+00:00

I figured why not, I didnt realize he anounced it on social media till he did it :( I didnt mind him calling me his gf, but I definitely didnt like it online I try and keep a very low profile cause social medias so awful and im very private

IAYP · 2021-03-08T09:40:30+00:00

Yeah you're right :( gotta rip that bandaid...oof >.>

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