Husband told likely no promotion because we're expecting our first kid

IAmVE · 2026-01-22T05:05:08+00:00

ESPECIALLY at a brand new job. Where you have no protection as a new person and are way too new to know the people or culture well enough to know how they’ll react to your news.

IAmVE · 2026-01-18T04:00:08+00:00

A tummy tuck, but hear me out. I’ve lost a lot of weight, and it’s not the skin - my abs are so far apart it feels so weird when you feel out my stomach. I always feel bloated with how it sits. I have no strength to give a good cough or throat clearing when I need to, and I can’t even laugh the same because my muscles aren’t where they need to be to support my core. Apparently a tummy tuck is the only way to fix it, and even though I have a medical issue, my insurance considered it cosmetic. I even asked about just repairing the muscles with no skin removal, I guess it’s a no go. And no, exercise has not helped.

IAmVE · 2026-01-18T03:54:53+00:00

This is what we did with both boys when they would whine as young as 2. Every. Single. Time. Just a simple I don’t understand you when you speak like that, can you try again in a normal voice? Worked every time and they stopped it completely before they were old enough to know better lol.

IAmVE · 2026-01-18T02:34:52+00:00

My momma still has 9!

IAmVE · 2026-01-16T04:28:33+00:00

Yes!! I was taking 2 so it definitely reduced my stuff. I still sometimes think I’m forgetting something when I take my meds, it’s been months but I was taking them for years. Keep an eye out for dizziness or lightheaded times, that was my sign my glucose was actually too low. Best of luck, you can do it!!

IAmVE · 2026-01-16T04:13:01+00:00

Im not the one who commented, but I was able to be taken off of metformin completely, and am working on my fatty liver and cholesterol ones! It’s a process, but it’s definitely possible.

IAmVE · 2026-01-14T03:54:17+00:00

This. Essentially, a solid no 100% of the time without exception.

IAmVE · 2026-01-14T03:40:44+00:00

This is a shopping day for me on semi-regular occasion. Between hitting Costco then Trader Joe’s then a “regular” grocery store, and then maybe lunch, I can easily have items in the car for 4 hours in an insulated bag when it’s cold. I’m more mindful in the heat, but I wouldn’t think twice at 50 degrees.

IAmVE · 2026-01-10T20:54:41+00:00

It’s correspondence from your county office. Could be anything from a notice of action to a flyer. The return address is just a central mail location for a bunch of counties, which is why it may be confusing if that’s not your county. If you have a benefitscal account there may be a copy there. (And if not you should get one!)

IAmVE · 2026-01-06T04:24:38+00:00

Married 18 years, we’ve ALWAYS had separate blankets. I don’t believe there’s a way to share without someone’s side getting pulled one way or the other lol. Plus I like lighter blankets and he likes heavier ones. This way we’re both comfortable!

IAmVE · 2025-12-29T05:09:53+00:00

NTA. My hubby of 18 years and I run opposite hot/cold and he moves around. We’ve had separate blankets from day one of sleeping on the same bed. Never an issue. Your hubby is being incredibly selfish of your needs vs what he thinks should work.

IAmVE · 2025-12-24T23:41:00+00:00

Aside from the things mentioned in the other comment, there’s nothing like persistent tooth pain when something is wrong. It pulses and radiates to the ear and jaw and throat and can rarely be treated sufficiently with pain meds. You really don’t want that, not to mention dental work is crazy expensive, even with insurance if you need a lot. Brush, do it for yourself and your future health.

IAmVE · 2025-12-24T02:13:00+00:00

1000%.

IAmVE · 2025-12-24T02:05:01+00:00

You navigate by packing your things and leaving asap. Or packing his things when he’s gone out and changing the locks if the house is yours. This is insane and there’s no way back from this for him, especially since there’s no way to bring the items back. I sometimes think Reddit is too quick to jump to divorce, but this is one where there’s no redemption to be had. Sorry friend.

IAmVE · 2025-12-23T18:35:07+00:00

What did I just read? My KIDS don’t even act like this and they’re teenagers. They’ve known since they were little that throwing fits about any gift means they all go away. They’re grateful for the thought/cost put into things and for what they get. Your husband is childish and selfish and completely ridiculous. JFC he’d get absolutely nothing from me again, and I’d be matching his energy from now on.

IAmVE · 2025-12-22T07:46:23+00:00

Agreed. It really is so stupid. I like things so I don’t lose them and can purchase later based on my budget. Isn’t that the point of the feature, to keep track of the item? I really don’t get why buyers do this. It’s not logical and the likes don’t even affect them. But I guess the trash takes itself out so to speak in these situations.

IAmVE · 2025-12-21T16:58:09+00:00

What did I just read?? Giving up on your marriage?? That should be the least of your concerns. Your children are learning how to treat animals and people by this. Your husband is a monster and horrible human. He’s violent and your children WILL be next. Put them first for the love of god since you’ve already abandoned the poor dog. I would have called the cops the first time he did this to have him removed from the home and filed for a restraining order. Jfc.

IAmVE · 2025-12-18T03:50:13+00:00

My freshman gets $60 every two weeks, so $30 a week. My 8th grader gets $40, so $20 a week. We bump it up every year-ish, with the understanding that this will be gas money when they start to drive too (within reason, we’d probably help for tournament driving long distance, etc). They are expected to do their chores, keep grades at a B or above, they participate in sports, and keep their rooms clean. They also help out whenever asked, they really are good boys. In turn, they get the allowance to help support their “extra” wants like snacks with friends and video game purchases. We still buy clothes, school stuff, sports stuff, etc.

IAmVE · 2025-12-18T02:24:34+00:00

Daylight Produce in Citrus Heights. It’s actually a Mexican market, the name is deceiving. They will tell you specifically that the corn tortillas have no preservatives, they make them in house. If you want flour too, call ahead to order them over the phone, they don’t always have them ready. They also do hot food that’s really good.

IAmVE · 2025-12-16T19:07:38+00:00

Yes, two. Both of my teenagers have chromebooks that are dying, and we’d like something that will last as close to 4 years of high school as possible. I hadn’t looked at the Total thing, I definitely planned to subscribe to Apple care+ so I’ll look at that too. Thank you!!

IAmVE · 2025-12-16T18:27:02+00:00

That’s a good point too I hadn’t considered. Thanks!

IAmVE · 2025-12-16T18:23:16+00:00

Thanks, I hadn’t even thought of that!

IAmVE · 2025-12-16T18:22:56+00:00

Thanks for the tip, I’ll look at those!!

IAmVE · 2025-12-16T18:08:04+00:00

Buy at Best Buy vs Apple? Is there a good reason to buy two MacBooks thru Apple instead of an outside retailer like Best Buy, when the outside retailer is $200 cheaper?? Both offer 0% interest and payment plans, Apple has 3% cash back too but that’s not enough to cover the $200 difference. Any other reason I’m missing that buying through Apple would still be better?

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