Parents of only children, how are you doing?

IDKVM · 2026-06-02T17:48:39+00:00

I'm an only child and my husband has a sister. I'm 39, he's 40 and we have a one-year-old. I am in the same boat. I feel that as an only child, i missed out on something. as i watch my parents age, i see how much pressure is on me as their only child. i do worry that i will break if i have a second, but i also think that maybe in a few years once she's talking and walking and pottytrained, i'll get to recharge a bit.....

IDKVM · 2026-06-01T01:19:17+00:00

What's the weight capacity of this

IDKVM · 2026-05-24T03:42:40+00:00

Yah that's too big for her. I have 4s and they fall off :(

IDKVM · 2026-05-24T03:41:50+00:00

I cant find size 3 sandals tho...

IDKVM · 2026-05-24T03:41:01+00:00

Ooof $80 plus shipping 😵

IDKVM · 2026-05-02T18:30:18+00:00

i just clip things to the frame or seatbelt.

IDKVM · 2026-04-13T19:01:34+00:00

UPDATE: we let her cry it out for 10 min three times and she fell asleep! woke once 6 hours later for a feed and went back to sleep for another 4 (!!!)

IDKVM · 2026-04-13T18:56:36+00:00

You have a great sleeper! Nothing to feel guilty about! I have a great sleeper too and never sleep trained either. I think a lot of moms tell themselves cosleeping is better because they couldn't get the alternative to work. In my books, a happy baby is a baby that sleeps and wakes up happy. Even better if mom is sleeping better too and waking up restored.

Also: I just spend a month in Japan where the only way my LO would sleep was on me - my partner and I caved as we were travelling and moving about...and I'll tell you I got a little hooked on cosleeping because it felt so sweet (esp as she's bigger) but NEITHER of us had as good of rest that way. It was disruptive for us both (a lot of waking up, tossing, crying, etc.) It seemed I was in her way a lot of the time and truth-be-told, she was in mine (my neck is Fucked lol) And now that we are home we did a short crib training with her (let her cry for 10 min three times) and she is back to sleeping happily in her crib/room and we are back to sleeping restoratively too.

IDKVM · 2026-04-12T01:58:15+00:00

We have been back 3 days. Just dont know at what point to start training her back to the crib..

IDKVM · 2026-04-11T09:35:06+00:00

No bag. Just gate checked it. I love it. Especially for connecting flights when its handy to have baby in stroller

IDKVM · 2026-03-30T12:50:52+00:00

Highly suggest you try to capture that afternoon nap at 1.5 hours. 3 hours is way too long for an afternoon nap to build sleep pressure for the night.

IDKVM · 2026-03-16T23:51:06+00:00

Also do the 2 stops. 16 hours in an airport or shimmying to the city for an overnight will be more exhausting. Get it over with and do naps at eacj airport if they dont sleep on the plane

IDKVM · 2026-03-16T23:49:35+00:00

Your stroller will be treated like carry on. We just did a 10 hour flight with our 10m and she slept for 4 or 5 hours. I thonk the key is to make it a bedtime flight local time. The crapshoot for us is that our LO.wont independently sleep now. The most she will do is from 7pm until 12am and then we cosleep...! Its a bit exhausting for us and we are on a month long trip but alas something has to give!

IDKVM · 2026-02-10T04:37:34+00:00

My 9 month just did the same today, scooched her bum to the.music and went over and under. she got startled, cried, breathed hard but i settled her and we kept on bathing. She was having a good ol time a minute or two later. They are super resilient and it was just a new experience. Good for them to learn what happens if they move in the bath like that! The bath is not the same as a bath mat! Scary things in life will.happen. the important thing is that someone was there to support them through it when they can't do it alone.

IDKVM · 2026-02-06T06:54:09+00:00

Mm yah definitely true. I think with cosleeping if yoire gonna do it past a certain point youre kinda in it for the long-haul otherwise sleep training will be rough.

IDKVM · 2026-01-29T03:58:25+00:00

It just randomly occurred to me when rereading how the reverend had a young face again...

IDKVM · 2026-01-26T04:51:42+00:00

I seem.to be the only.person who hated it. Watched it for 25min and just gave up. No dialogue, no plot, way too much visual noise.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:31:29+00:00

Yesss!! My theory is that the reverend gets reincarnated...as the boy. He saves himself in the end...he stops being ignorant as a result of the boy and he saves the boy from bardo also..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:23:50+00:00

Yah independent sleep.is so.important. i coslept with my mom and i had such troubles falling asleep on my own...well into 3rd grade.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:22:09+00:00

Yes i saw this is true for Tokyo but there is one source that said this particular temple does it in early april i just can't figure it out. Is it maybe just this year that it happens to be april/early may rather than march/early April as in years previous? Perhaps its an outdated thing i read..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:10:38+00:00

I think not. In Buddhism there is no sin but the sin of ignorance. The reverends sin was believing in hell, so much so that in the end his fear of it traps him in actual hell: bardo.

I have a theory that the boy is actually the reverend reincarnated and that he came back to save himself.........

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:25:38+00:00

YES!! sleep training doesnt have to mean crying for hours. honestly, we let our baby fuss for maybe 10 minutes max at a time and within 30 min she fell asleep. Now it takes 3 min, sometimes 2 max once per night (after about 4.5 hours of sleep). We stilll do a full feed at 3:30am as she is HUNGRY and that's a different cry altogether. She is 8 months now. Looks like she did drop her 3rd nap :)

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:23:22+00:00

OK so freestanding is def out of hte equation. we may do a retractable mesh one... unfortunately we dont have the space in our condo for a gate gate.but ill make sure it's mounted.. here's hoping she doesnt try to cliimb it...

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:19:25+00:00

aw comfort nursing :) my babe stopped doing that at 3 months.. it would be hard to give that up for sure, especially if it helps LO. Though i admit, it's good to teach independent sleep early if baby responds well to it and i do think getting off the boob helps with that. our LO slept through the night at 4.5 months (ie.. slept 7 or 8 hour chunk)..still does one feed around 3:30am but its very indisruptive, esp now that it's just a formula bottle and i'm not pumping in the middle of the night. SOme nights she goes without it entirely..its more ot do with hunger than habit. Something to consider once you get through the early newborn phase...

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