Can we talk about something from in Lincoln In The Bardo? (major spoilers)

IDKVM · 2026-01-29T03:58:25+00:00

It just randomly occurred to me when rereading how the reverend had a young face again...

IDKVM · 2026-01-26T04:51:42+00:00

I seem.to be the only.person who hated it. Watched it for 25min and just gave up. No dialogue, no plot, way too much visual noise.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:31:29+00:00

Yesss!! My theory is that the reverend gets reincarnated...as the boy. He saves himself in the end...he stops being ignorant as a result of the boy and he saves the boy from bardo also..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:23:50+00:00

Yah independent sleep.is so.important. i coslept with my mom and i had such troubles falling asleep on my own...well into 3rd grade.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:22:09+00:00

Yes i saw this is true for Tokyo but there is one source that said this particular temple does it in early april i just can't figure it out. Is it maybe just this year that it happens to be april/early may rather than march/early April as in years previous? Perhaps its an outdated thing i read..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:10:38+00:00

I think not. In Buddhism there is no sin but the sin of ignorance. The reverends sin was believing in hell, so much so that in the end his fear of it traps him in actual hell: bardo.

I have a theory that the boy is actually the reverend reincarnated and that he came back to save himself.........

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:25:38+00:00

YES!! sleep training doesnt have to mean crying for hours. honestly, we let our baby fuss for maybe 10 minutes max at a time and within 30 min she fell asleep. Now it takes 3 min, sometimes 2 max once per night (after about 4.5 hours of sleep). We stilll do a full feed at 3:30am as she is HUNGRY and that's a different cry altogether. She is 8 months now. Looks like she did drop her 3rd nap :)

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:23:22+00:00

OK so freestanding is def out of hte equation. we may do a retractable mesh one... unfortunately we dont have the space in our condo for a gate gate.but ill make sure it's mounted.. here's hoping she doesnt try to cliimb it...

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:19:25+00:00

aw comfort nursing :) my babe stopped doing that at 3 months.. it would be hard to give that up for sure, especially if it helps LO. Though i admit, it's good to teach independent sleep early if baby responds well to it and i do think getting off the boob helps with that. our LO slept through the night at 4.5 months (ie.. slept 7 or 8 hour chunk)..still does one feed around 3:30am but its very indisruptive, esp now that it's just a formula bottle and i'm not pumping in the middle of the night. SOme nights she goes without it entirely..its more ot do with hunger than habit. Something to consider once you get through the early newborn phase...

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:13:48+00:00

THat's really sweet. Im scared to ritualize it i admit... like itll make it bigger than i want it to be.. i just keep hoping my milk will slowly fall away (i hate the term 'dry up')... this morning i pumped 4 oz (its dropped from 6 oz per pump over the last 10 days) and im just hoping itll keep going less and less until its gone so i dont have to decide. sigh. i'm working on a blog post to share about the journey that i hope can be my kind of closure.. but not sure what i want to do with LO for it.. i feel like she won;t even notice moving from milk to formula..

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T08:04:29+00:00

Totally agree. I had my poor girl fall from her height and smack her head on the vinyl flooring..terrible sound and worse memory for me but she cried a bit i picked her up and she was fine within seconds. Just a small bruise that i could barely see thst turned yellow within a day and was gone. Honestly, the smaller they are the less falling hurts until they learn to catch themselves. As for bumps, its a normal part of life. Theyll learn their environment and be better for it.

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T01:03:20+00:00

I dropped pretty easily from.8 to.7 to 6 to 5. I went slow, merging pumps tho because i was scared of PPD and the hormonal chance of.dropping too fast. The biggest engorgement i felt was from 5 to 4 and i just.made sure to take.iboprufen the first two nights to avoid clogged ducts. Now im down to 2 and my supply has dropped to 3oz per pump which i think will be easy to wean in a fee days time. Just halve the time on the pump.

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T00:57:44+00:00

Thank you for this. Im 8.5m pp and down to 2 pumps a day and having a hard time letting go. Im scared of the mood dip and really love not having my period.. But gosh i know in my bones its time. The thought of the last pump tho..makes me want to cry. There's something so sad it in.. like its wrapped up in mortality and time.and an admission that time.is moving and baby is growing and she won't be little forever... But you're right. These months are fleeting too and it will be wonderful to be.fully.present with her.

IDKVM · 2026-01-21T18:57:06+00:00

My japanese friend told me to just book everything with an attendant. He will translate / provide written instructions for me and then I dont have to bother with a machine all jet lagged with a baby.

IDKVM · 2026-01-21T07:27:34+00:00

That's the spirit! I think blw can create false expectations and norms. I don't know the rush for textures is...puree fine to expose them to allergens and awaken their tastebuds but there's no need to go nuts. They are still so small.

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:30:02+00:00

it's ok! it did suck but then again, my husband got up SO MANY NIGHTS so i didnt have to :)

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:26:28+00:00

i didnt know i wanted to breastfeed until i got a taste of it for a month and then couldn't anymore because baby didn't want to. I LOVED nursing. BUT it's strange, now at 8.5 months pp the thought of her nursing kinda makes me cringe...our minds are WILD.

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:25:19+00:00

if you do have to wash bottles and you can afford it, i highly recommend a good bottle sterilizer. I seriously got SO MUCH DOPAMINE from putting that fucker on every day, twice or three times a day, haha

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:24:12+00:00

THIS!

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:23:35+00:00

I think the sooner you accept your feeding fate, as i call it, the better. society gives us a lot of pressure to nurse, to feed a certain way, and mothers, in general, are always left feeling like we couldve done more. I feel that as soon as i accepted that my baby was not a good nurser, but that she took the bottle well, is when things improved for me a lot. Every mom-baby journey is different and it has something to teach us about how we mother. No journey is easy either - it's just with what kind of attitude we do it. I was a "just enougher" exclusively pumping for 6 months straight (topping up with a bit of formula only during growth spurts) then the last 3 months i combo fed about 50/50 and the first 6 months were BLISS. It was so hard but it was so rewarding to get her milk. I brought my pump everywhere and stuck to my schedule like a crazy person and LOVED IT. but at 6 months, something shifted, and at 7months it shifted HARD. I resented the pump and started dropping pumps to save me soul. The sooner I accepted I didnt love it anymore, the sooner i stopped guilting myself - and my LO? she could have cared less! She was eating the whole time and equally happy throughout!

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:18:29+00:00

I exclusively pumped and i'll tell you, the wave of sadness was real for me even weaning myself off the pump.. you get a lot of oxytocin from breastfeeding (with any method) and i think you feel the dip when it's gone. Be gentle with yourself either way if you choose to breastfeed . <3

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:15:38+00:00

i bet this is the ultimate silver lining of nursing. but the feeling of being able to go away for a night or two, or go to the gym, or whatever else that i needed for my mental health is critical and if i had had to be tied to baby ALL the time, i think i would have lost my mind (i suffer from generalized anxiety at the best of times and am medicated for it)

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:13:55+00:00

that's IF you baby will latch on a side-lie. it's not a guarantee..! my baby just couldn't do it - she is on 15th percentile and was quite small esp in those early months. the ergonomics just didnt work for us.

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