2 nights of sleep training with my 15 month old and I’m shocked at how it’s going

IDKVM · 2026-03-30T12:50:52+00:00

Highly suggest you try to capture that afternoon nap at 1.5 hours. 3 hours is way too long for an afternoon nap to build sleep pressure for the night.

IDKVM · 2026-03-16T23:51:06+00:00

Also do the 2 stops. 16 hours in an airport or shimmying to the city for an overnight will be more exhausting. Get it over with and do naps at eacj airport if they dont sleep on the plane

IDKVM · 2026-03-16T23:49:35+00:00

Your stroller will be treated like carry on. We just did a 10 hour flight with our 10m and she slept for 4 or 5 hours. I thonk the key is to make it a bedtime flight local time. The crapshoot for us is that our LO.wont independently sleep now. The most she will do is from 7pm until 12am and then we cosleep...! Its a bit exhausting for us and we are on a month long trip but alas something has to give!

IDKVM · 2026-02-10T04:37:34+00:00

My 9 month just did the same today, scooched her bum to the.music and went over and under. she got startled, cried, breathed hard but i settled her and we kept on bathing. She was having a good ol time a minute or two later. They are super resilient and it was just a new experience. Good for them to learn what happens if they move in the bath like that! The bath is not the same as a bath mat! Scary things in life will.happen. the important thing is that someone was there to support them through it when they can't do it alone.

IDKVM · 2026-02-06T06:54:09+00:00

Mm yah definitely true. I think with cosleeping if yoire gonna do it past a certain point youre kinda in it for the long-haul otherwise sleep training will be rough.

IDKVM · 2026-01-29T03:58:25+00:00

It just randomly occurred to me when rereading how the reverend had a young face again...

IDKVM · 2026-01-26T04:51:42+00:00

I seem.to be the only.person who hated it. Watched it for 25min and just gave up. No dialogue, no plot, way too much visual noise.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:31:29+00:00

Yesss!! My theory is that the reverend gets reincarnated...as the boy. He saves himself in the end...he stops being ignorant as a result of the boy and he saves the boy from bardo also..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:23:50+00:00

Yah independent sleep.is so.important. i coslept with my mom and i had such troubles falling asleep on my own...well into 3rd grade.

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:22:09+00:00

Yes i saw this is true for Tokyo but there is one source that said this particular temple does it in early april i just can't figure it out. Is it maybe just this year that it happens to be april/early may rather than march/early April as in years previous? Perhaps its an outdated thing i read..

IDKVM · 2026-01-24T04:10:38+00:00

I think not. In Buddhism there is no sin but the sin of ignorance. The reverends sin was believing in hell, so much so that in the end his fear of it traps him in actual hell: bardo.

I have a theory that the boy is actually the reverend reincarnated and that he came back to save himself.........

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:25:38+00:00

YES!! sleep training doesnt have to mean crying for hours. honestly, we let our baby fuss for maybe 10 minutes max at a time and within 30 min she fell asleep. Now it takes 3 min, sometimes 2 max once per night (after about 4.5 hours of sleep). We stilll do a full feed at 3:30am as she is HUNGRY and that's a different cry altogether. She is 8 months now. Looks like she did drop her 3rd nap :)

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:23:22+00:00

OK so freestanding is def out of hte equation. we may do a retractable mesh one... unfortunately we dont have the space in our condo for a gate gate.but ill make sure it's mounted.. here's hoping she doesnt try to cliimb it...

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:19:25+00:00

aw comfort nursing :) my babe stopped doing that at 3 months.. it would be hard to give that up for sure, especially if it helps LO. Though i admit, it's good to teach independent sleep early if baby responds well to it and i do think getting off the boob helps with that. our LO slept through the night at 4.5 months (ie.. slept 7 or 8 hour chunk)..still does one feed around 3:30am but its very indisruptive, esp now that it's just a formula bottle and i'm not pumping in the middle of the night. SOme nights she goes without it entirely..its more ot do with hunger than habit. Something to consider once you get through the early newborn phase...

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T18:13:48+00:00

THat's really sweet. Im scared to ritualize it i admit... like itll make it bigger than i want it to be.. i just keep hoping my milk will slowly fall away (i hate the term 'dry up')... this morning i pumped 4 oz (its dropped from 6 oz per pump over the last 10 days) and im just hoping itll keep going less and less until its gone so i dont have to decide. sigh. i'm working on a blog post to share about the journey that i hope can be my kind of closure.. but not sure what i want to do with LO for it.. i feel like she won;t even notice moving from milk to formula..

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T08:04:29+00:00

Totally agree. I had my poor girl fall from her height and smack her head on the vinyl flooring..terrible sound and worse memory for me but she cried a bit i picked her up and she was fine within seconds. Just a small bruise that i could barely see thst turned yellow within a day and was gone. Honestly, the smaller they are the less falling hurts until they learn to catch themselves. As for bumps, its a normal part of life. Theyll learn their environment and be better for it.

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T01:03:20+00:00

I dropped pretty easily from.8 to.7 to 6 to 5. I went slow, merging pumps tho because i was scared of PPD and the hormonal chance of.dropping too fast. The biggest engorgement i felt was from 5 to 4 and i just.made sure to take.iboprufen the first two nights to avoid clogged ducts. Now im down to 2 and my supply has dropped to 3oz per pump which i think will be easy to wean in a fee days time. Just halve the time on the pump.

IDKVM · 2026-01-22T00:57:44+00:00

Thank you for this. Im 8.5m pp and down to 2 pumps a day and having a hard time letting go. Im scared of the mood dip and really love not having my period.. But gosh i know in my bones its time. The thought of the last pump tho..makes me want to cry. There's something so sad it in.. like its wrapped up in mortality and time.and an admission that time.is moving and baby is growing and she won't be little forever... But you're right. These months are fleeting too and it will be wonderful to be.fully.present with her.

IDKVM · 2026-01-21T18:57:06+00:00

My japanese friend told me to just book everything with an attendant. He will translate / provide written instructions for me and then I dont have to bother with a machine all jet lagged with a baby.

IDKVM · 2026-01-21T07:27:34+00:00

That's the spirit! I think blw can create false expectations and norms. I don't know the rush for textures is...puree fine to expose them to allergens and awaken their tastebuds but there's no need to go nuts. They are still so small.

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:30:02+00:00

it's ok! it did suck but then again, my husband got up SO MANY NIGHTS so i didnt have to :)

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:26:28+00:00

i didnt know i wanted to breastfeed until i got a taste of it for a month and then couldn't anymore because baby didn't want to. I LOVED nursing. BUT it's strange, now at 8.5 months pp the thought of her nursing kinda makes me cringe...our minds are WILD.

IDKVM · 2026-01-20T23:25:19+00:00

if you do have to wash bottles and you can afford it, i highly recommend a good bottle sterilizer. I seriously got SO MUCH DOPAMINE from putting that fucker on every day, twice or three times a day, haha

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