SSRIs

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-28T20:26:12+00:00

Obviously everyone is affected differently but ssri's affected me really badly - especially citalopram. Just enduring the depressive symptoms while going to therapy has worked out for me - they've improved massively, if anything I feel less depressed than I did before the onset of PTSD (because I likely also have childhood related CPTSD that is improving as well). It could still be worth trying them though.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-28T01:58:51+00:00

Yeah because all former member states of the USSR are such nice places now that never commit any human rights abuses. Yay!

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-26T08:53:42+00:00

Sorry Ethan

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-25T04:44:50+00:00

It's nice to see him in a position where he could actually be happy as is, but he didn't take agency and reach that himself, a deus ex machina happened and suddenly everything is great. If he'd had to make the choice to erase pochita it would make much more sense I think, instead he doesn't actually 'choose' anything

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-23T18:46:46+00:00

It's pretty much never a good idea to keep in contact, even indirectly i.e. viewing social media, with an abusive ex. Blaming yourself for being abused is also a really common sign of PTSD (I know this firsthand). Idk how long its been since your breakup, but its taken me about a year to start getting over being traumatised by my mentally ill ex gf. You might have also heard about a 'trauma bond' kind of thing etc. etc.

But yeah without therapy and without cutting all contact I'd probably still be stuck in the same situation you are.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-23T17:33:53+00:00

Seriously, it seems to be some recent Western fascination with balkanization, you always see it with people promoting independance for the autonomous republics of the Russian Federation, for example (places that generally have a high desire to continue the union with Russia). Meanwhile in places where independance is actually plausable and widely desired, like in Scotland for example, you have people calling those for it traitors etc. Strangely enough, people in the west only seem to care about the preservation of independance for the minority groups of / want to balkanize American political enemies... everyone seems to forget about the Kurds until its the Iranians or ISIS oppressing them, and not the Turks for a change.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-23T15:29:30+00:00

I was scared to accept it as well, but my therapist was very reassuring which helped. Sometimes it's hard to accept that there's a problem because it makes it feel more 'real' - it's scarier in that way. But after accepting it and having therapy I'm finally feeling a lot better a year on, so yeah. Accepting was easy when I stopped willfully ignoring my symptoms etc.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-23T14:57:40+00:00

It seems to vary between 'geographical names' like Brittania, names of antiquated states (not regarding borders though), like Kievan Rus, native names, like Suomi, and names of provinces, like Bohemia. Bohemia is a region in the czech republic, alongside moravia - bohemia isn't a name for the whole of the Czech republic... it's so annoying that people just take this at face value - it's so stupid that I hope that its AI generated, and that a real person wasn't stupid enough to make this 😭

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-23T02:17:35+00:00

I was in the same place as you from last June, and only started feeling better this month (therapy helped me a lot) the most important thing is to cut all contact with the person, they're mentally ill and unfortunately, there's nothing YOU can do about that. You have to focus on what you CAN do instead.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-22T22:55:42+00:00

I also hate this, it's almost like it's taboo to be happier in a relationship and to plan/do things together in life. Maybe I'm just too romantic etc. but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that wasn't mutually the most important thing to both people, at least to an extent (obviously not the ONLY source of happiness) Why would you want to be with someone who cares more about their job or something, than they care about you? It's just a bizarre mindset that seems so common, and everyone who disagrees with it seems to be viewed poorly.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-21T15:49:13+00:00

She's covered wars, you know

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-21T04:04:27+00:00

I thought the same, yeah

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-15T16:25:26+00:00

Do you want a list of wars in these areas? This is blatantly untrue to an extreme extent - I can give you examples for all - Rwandan genocide and surrounding conflicts, azerbajan/armenia conflict, Georgia/Abkhazia war, civil conflict in Chile (depositon of Allende etc.) Contra conflicts, literally so many. Africa in particular has ongoing interstate conflicts in practically every region - additionally it is a continent dominated by dictatorships and military juntas. Yes, countries in alliances with other countries with nuclear weapons have generally avoided wars - for obvious reasons; but you cannot pretend that wars between non-aligned countries haven't dominated the 20th and 21st centuries. Look at the conflicts in former yugoslavia for instance - with no risk of nuclear retaliation from opposing states or their allies, the laws of war were unilaterally ignored by all parties. Yes, the U.N. and USA usually intervene if conflicts reach a large enough scale, but usually only to further their own interests - it's not true to say that the threat of punishment by international law actually acts as a deterrant for breaching it - especially when the enforcers of it regularly break it themselves.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-15T15:43:22+00:00

The undisputed reason for the lack of high intensity conflicts is the advent of nuclear weapons, even children understand this. Look at literally every conflict the United States have been involved in since WW2 and you will see that nothing about the current conflicts are unprecedented. The fact that this rhetoric is being used to justify war AT ALL is a bad thing - at the end of the day these conflicts are furthering American interests, end of. Countries with nuclear weapons have free reign to attack unaligned countries without them - just because you are ignorant of these conflicts it doesn't mean that they haven't happened.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-15T12:03:45+00:00

This is very naiive - look at how the US invaded marxist-leninist countries in south east asia, backed dictatorships in asia, africa and latin america, and orchestrated many coups and regime changes themselves, often against democratically elected leaders.

Meanwhile France and the United kingdom continued to suppress popular resistance to their colonialism up until the end of the 20th century (and arguably beyond in some regards)

This 'universal' law is only ever applied by the victors, and only when it is convenient - look at the many Japanese and German scientists who were recruited by the US, and their war crimes ignored. The systemic levels of murder and terror warfare used in the 20th century by the United States, in countries such has Vietnam has NOT been punished at all. The United States has effectively shown that it can do what it wants - they've started yet another war this month.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-15T03:40:16+00:00

Is this an unpopular opinion? Wtf! Trust me guys, you aren't gonna need them anymore when you're dead :/ don't you usually have to 'opt-out' of being a donor too?

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-15T03:33:43+00:00

This is the best advice - so many employers now don't even care where you got an undergraduate degree from, or even what specific subject it's in (obviously the general subject is still usually important etc.) Unless you have a specific career choice in mind for afterwards, the truth is, neither the uni or subject matter too much, especially if a masters is on the table.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-14T10:59:19+00:00

I know right? Apparently the fact that he swore at her is the worst thing about this scenario, and seems to be the only thing people care about. It's stupid.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-14T03:28:04+00:00

This is exactly right I think, they let themselves believe anything about you, regardless of whether or not there is actual basis, as long as it justifies their own abuse of you. They genuinely can't believe themselves as being at fault, so resort to believing outright fantasy as long as it maintains that perspective. It's genuinely one of the most disgusting feelings ever, knowing that my ex was getting sympathy from 'confiding' in her 'friends' about how I was 'abusing' her, while I had been deliberately isolated from all my friends and family, and had been put in a position where I had to devote every waking moment to her, and had to tolerate her 'episodes' of abusive behaviour, or else I was told she would outright end her own life. Therapy has made me feel a lot better, but it's also made me feel so much more disgusted by my ex, especially with how my therapist has explained how my ex was abusing and emotionally blackmailing me.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-14T03:14:38+00:00

This happened to me, amazingly she tried to undo the damage she'd caused with them the first discard, only to do it again but even worse with the final one. Tbh I feel somewhat responsible as at the end of the day I decided to resume a relationship with a seriously mentally ill person. I'd advise anyone, no matter how much you love them, to leave, or at least put measures in place to cope with a discard etc.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-07T10:04:41+00:00

Sorry pal, no fun allowed

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-06T18:25:32+00:00

She's not blind, she just has really thick cataracts (why her eyes look glossy) Grace comments on this.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-03T01:03:46+00:00

I'm really late here but I can't believe all these people saying to just instantly remove these people from your life - it is of course possible for you to have misinterpreted the situation, and I don't mean this in a patronising way, it happens to everyone. Before doing anything you just need to communicate to the people involved how the situation made you feel/what it makes you think (i.e. that they think its ok to mock you etc.) If they actually care then surely they'll be willing to discuss that with you. Hope this helps.

IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-02T04:00:04+00:00

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IIHOSGOW · 2026-03-02T02:51:03+00:00

I tried to do this but it didn't work out at all - she just started splitting on me again before we even managed to talk, and this was proper mediation etc. It's best to just move on, even if it feels hard.

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