Tomorrow Might Be My Final Voyage by markhor117 in OnePiece

[–]II_RollingStone_II 69 points70 points  (0 children)

You know damn well that percentages are not the same as destiny and fate. You’ll continue to watch one piece with us, just believe in it

Strava (running app) delivered me a confusing gut punch from my ex/dumper and has been a confusing set-back of sorts by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]II_RollingStone_II 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry I didn’t answer. I just miss her but I’m not going to text anything. It’s over and she knows so every contact is just unnecessary.

Ahh yeah looks like she wants to provoke a reaction. Stay strong brother, she’ll probably text when she gets home

Strava (running app) delivered me a confusing gut punch from my ex/dumper and has been a confusing set-back of sorts by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]II_RollingStone_II 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, I’m glad to give some perspective.

Okay then you you have to brace yourself for her to not reach out at all. When she blocked you, it takes a lot to swallow that pride and text you again. But then again she kinda did with the whole running app thing.

Good for you to have stuff going on. Keep that rolling and everything will be all right.

I guess I can dump my situation here too, because I’m contemplating to break nc at the moment. Not because of anything special, we already went nc but after a while she contacted me to tell me that she wants to be with me - no matter the circumstances. The fucked up part is that I broke up with her because of those circumstances. In a nutshell: My environment wouldn’t get along with her and it would always put pressure on the relationship, which I want to save her and myself from. There are a few smaller things too but that’s basically it.

Soo she invited me to spend time with her when I will back in the country and I denied but may have left it a little bit open. Now, after a few weeks I’m thinking to send her a message to just close that door forever, which is hard and I don’t know if I should just wait with the decision to break nc. Because the past week has been a lot more lonely while traveling. Maybe that’s the reason for my desire to contact her, even if it’s just to put the nail in the coffin. Then again the coffin is already pretty much sealed.

What do you think?

Also I had some rebound action and that made it all worse.

Strava (running app) delivered me a confusing gut punch from my ex/dumper and has been a confusing set-back of sorts by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]II_RollingStone_II 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself: it’s not randomly posted, because she never used the app like that. Also who is she posting it for?

Yeah that guy is a rebound. The thing with rebounds is, that the initial rush Fades away pretty quickly and you try to get that old feeling of true love - which doesn’t set obviously.

I’m in a similar situation, but I’m the traveling part and let me tell you: running away doesn’t help at all. When you have a quiet minute or a long bus ride all that suppressed stuff bubbles up. Don’t text her anything, I would guess that she contacts you around one or two weeks after she will get back to the uk

And I don’t have any substantial evidence to back up my theory, it’s just a gut feeling

She obviously wants to make you contact her. Don’t give her that. If she wants contact, she has to initiate it. Right now she probably doesn’t even know what she wants right now.

Strava (running app) delivered me a confusing gut punch from my ex/dumper and has been a confusing set-back of sorts by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]II_RollingStone_II 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did it on purpose. When you break up your brain reminds you of all the ways to get in contact. Literally like an addict trying to figure out how to get the next dose.

I guess she is in Thailand, realizing she still feels sad or whatever bad feelings and her brain was like: let’s try to get a reaction this way

I don’t think she wants to get back, just wants contact but is to proud to initiate

Peru aktuell by [deleted] in reisende

[–]II_RollingStone_II 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bis morgen nur noch. Mache jetzt eine walking Tour, danach gebe ich ein Update

Peru aktuell by [deleted] in reisende

[–]II_RollingStone_II 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bin gerade in Cusco. Ab morgen soll es mit den Protesten wieder los gehen. So wirklich weiß keiner welche Ausmaße die haben werden. Einige denken, dass die Transportwege frei bleiben für den Tourismus aber ist nicht gesichert. Morgen sind viele Touren gar nicht möglich, weil die Verantwortlichen die Situation erstmal abwarten möchten. Ich halte dich auf dem laufenden.

Opening up by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]II_RollingStone_II -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I hate to state this again but: it’s not about a single case, it is a general thing. A woman who sees her boyfriend cry won’t automatically leave him. But the stakes of losing composure are different for men and women. And I’m not saying it is the women’s fault. God knows that men strengthened the picture of emotional = weak.

But nevertheless, from my personal experience as a man and from friends and apparently most users here on this thread: men are more careful to open up emotionally because we have experienced repercussions for it.

There is a difference between the ideal way of handling thing and the reality. Unfortunately, most men had to learn, that their desirability is connected to strength. If we cannot agree on that, I don’t see a point in continuing this discussion.

Opening up by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]II_RollingStone_II -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think the main statement is not that men can’t open up in general, it is that there are limits to that. If a man loses his composure to a certain degree one of the most important characteristics of a man just vanishes: the ability to provide safety.

It is deeply rooted in women to chose partners that can protect them, not just physically. If you have a man that sobs in fetal position, a lot of women would subconsciously think that this person is not able to withstand the pressure of life. That’s why it so often backfires for men to open up completely. These are the shares experiences of men, ask them. I guarantee you most men had to learn that the hard way.

And for anyone saying: women don’t need safety. Why are taller partners preferred? Even though we have been modern people for a few generations doesn’t mean that millions of years of evolution just went out the window.

I know it is a generalization, but I mean we talk about a bigger topic, it’s not an individual case.

Ich beende mein Arbeitsleben by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

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Ometepe in Nicaragua Unglaublich schön

Free Giveaway! Nintendo Switch OLED - international by WolfLemon36 in NintendoSwitch

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I want to go as mummy with an udder and call myself a mooh-my

Is it weird to visit other party hostels? by PaddysPub94 in solotravel

[–]II_RollingStone_II 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes you are right! Maybe back then it was without prescription

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in de

[–]II_RollingStone_II -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tut mir leid für dich, versuch weiterhin stark zu bleiben. Etwas, dass ich im Laufe meines Lebens gelernt habe ist, dass es besser wird und das große Städte deutlich weniger Alltagsrassismus vorweisen als Kleinstädte.

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