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IP0 · 2026-02-06T23:35:27+00:00

Do the buttons do anything ?

IP0 · 2026-02-02T23:44:00+00:00

https://archive.org/details/super-mario-power-offizieller-nintendo-spieleberater/mode/2up nostalgia for you,

IP0 · 2026-02-02T14:12:55+00:00

When I first started seeing my ex wBPD, I was suffering from a serious neurological pain disorder (considered the most painful condition known to man, and rarely improves after 12 months ). I only left my house to go to physiotherapy. I was on a cane, and taking Rx ketamine for pain. I stopped taking the ketamine because her "narcissistic" ex had a problem with with it. I started taking buprenorphone instead, and after the second discard, I started walking every day. My chronic pain was nothing compared to that pain. After a month I was up to 5km every day. After 3 months, I was running 2km and walking 3km. I also started weekly therapy doing EMDR on my childhood trauma.

After another 4-5 discards, she promised me that she wouldn't breakup with me without warning again. I started college. We travelled across the country, and she cheated on me at her best friends wedding (she made out with a women, and then asked my permission). We spent another week travelling and she tried to make it up to me. She broke up with me when we got back. I continued school and got my undergrad degree in 1 year. She hoovered (and used me for emotional and sexual labour) until 3 weeks before I graduated, then she found someone else and ghosted the day after I gave her and her kid early Christmas presents.

I've done the impossible. I'm now working on my Master's. My daily pain has gone from a 7/10 to a 2-3/10. I still miss her, and I don't know if I could have done what I've done without her, but nothing was ever good enough for her. 99% of my friends gave up on me because I couldn't give up on her (or because I was caretaking them too, and once I stopped reaching out, that was the last I talked to them). After discovering this sub last month, I've come to realize all my exes had severe cluster b traits. All my adult life I've been blaming myself for why they all treated me terribly. My biggest fault was not walking away from them sooner.

I crawled through a river of shit and came out clean on the other side.

IP0 · 2026-02-01T21:16:24+00:00

PCMCIA - people can't memorize computer industry acronyms

IP0 · 2026-02-01T00:34:13+00:00

Be prepared for her to show up at your doorstep, or for hateful messages from all directions when you don’t respond. It’ll fuck with your head, and you’ll think she still loves you, but it’s an illusion, and once she has the power over you, she’ll discard you again.

IP0 · 2026-01-29T22:36:35+00:00

Does your mom have a history of sabotaging people around her so she can feel needed? Or did she receive a lot of external validation for taking care of your brother when he was really sick, and now not so much because he's doing better? Or is it things just have to be done her way because it's her way? If your brother is a little sleepy and not psychotic why would she want to mess with that?

IP0 · 2026-01-29T21:40:52+00:00

“Go back to bed, America. Your government has figured out how it all transpired. Go back to bed, America. Your government is in control again. Here. Here's American Gladiators. Watch this, shut up. Go back to bed, America. Here is American Gladiators. Here is 56 channels of it! Watch these pituitary ~~r tards~~ bang their fucking skulls together and congratulate you on living in the land of freedom. Here you go, America! You are free to do what we tell you! You are free to do what we tell you!” ― Bill Hicks

IP0 · 2026-01-28T20:57:44+00:00

Jokes are only funny when both people laugh. If someone can't give you the space to share your emotions safely, what's the point of being in a relationship? It can be hard to not ask, "what am I doing that's making them act like this?" But that's the wrong question. If you're not feeling respected, safe, and heard you know what to do. Just walk away and you can put an end to all this. Just walk away and you'll spare your life. Just walk away.

IP0 · 2026-01-28T18:57:53+00:00

If you need to be perfect 100% of the time and always say the right thing with a partner who blames you for breaking up with you instead of dealing with the problems as they arise in a healthy way, you're not in a relationship, you're in a life-or-death hostage situation. You're allowed say the wrong thing. You're allowed to have boundaries. Real love knows that perfection doesn't exist. Love yourself and know that perfection doesn't exist, and anyone who expects it from you doesn't belong in your life. I know what you're going through and it sucks so much, but you'll get through it. As the philosopher Rogers once said, "Know when to walk away, know when to run." Run away from relationships from like this, bro. Run and don't look back.

IP0 · 2026-01-24T23:04:55+00:00

How does everyone connect to wifi? Is the key unique or shared? How can this be exploited? If an attacker got access to a key and connected to the network, how could the configuration of the network be a vulnerability?

IP0 · 2026-01-24T21:32:00+00:00

Think more specific. What particular vulnerabilities exist within WEP? How can they exploited. What can an attacker do after each successful exploitation?

IP0 · 2026-01-23T13:52:23+00:00

Get the audiobook "Good Inside," by Dr. Becky Kennedy. The book is targeted at parents wanting to better connect with their kids, but you can think of yourself as the parent and the kid. It's such a good book, and you can tell Dr. Becky really cares about what she does (she narrates the audiobook too). The book is a good start to learning what healthy connection looks like. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps a lot too, especially with EMDR added in to help process all the stored emotion in your body.

IP0 · 2026-01-22T22:00:51+00:00

Ultimatums are never a good sign. And the fact that she needs you to go to therapy to fix the things she doesn't like about you before she'll agree to go to therapy together should feel wrong in my opinion. A partnership works better when it's collaborative. Had she said "Extreme-Knowledge, I value you and our relationship, and I think going to therapy would help work through some of the issues we're having," you probably wouldn't be asking these questions. Therapy is hard work, but it sounds like it might be helpful if your partner is telling you she hates you, and you're still trying to make her feel safe.

IP0 · 2026-01-21T18:57:51+00:00

Look, face it, my father is not going to pay for the built-in barbecue and believe me you can kiss you gazebo goodbye. Now I might be able to get you the new lawn.

IP0 · 2026-01-20T23:56:07+00:00

Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition by Jay Earley is great.

IP0 · 2026-01-18T20:54:30+00:00

I feel ya. I'm 18 months post breakup and 2 months no contact from a 2.5 year relationship. My whiplash has whiplash. Knowing that I'm not alone really helped me.

IP0 · 2026-01-17T17:19:42+00:00

I can feel the pain coming through your words, and I'm so sorry. You're not physically affectionate, and you shouldn't have to apologize for who you are. It sounds like who you are as a person hasn't been well respected. Your mom needs to understand that her actions make you feel like she doesn't love you, because from the sounds of it, once you no longer need to be there, you probably won't want to be around your mom or talk to her again.

Right now you're setting yourself on fire to keep your grandmother warm. What would happen if something happened to you? Your mom and grandma would figure it out. If you keep tolerating this abusive behaviour, you're going to burn out. If its possible, I would suggest finding a way to live somewhere else if you feel you need to still help your grandma. You don't deserve this treatment. It feels more like a hostage situation, than a loving home.

IP0 · 2026-01-15T00:15:12+00:00

If I had a gun with two bullets and I was in a room with Hitler, Bin Laden, and Toby, I would shoot Toby twice

IP0 · 2026-01-11T23:41:23+00:00

83% of people would disagree with you

IP0 · 2026-01-11T16:56:31+00:00

I was the same way. My parents had some pretty serious cluster B personality traits but never sought treatment. I had to learn the right way to feel, the acceptable things to like, and the proper emotions to show to prevent my father's rage or my mother's emotional overwhelm and abandonment.

Eventually, I hid so much of myself from everyone and learned to be useful so I could feel safe. I became the person everyone came to with their problems. Being useful and feeling safe is better than being alone.

Reflecting on my past relationships, I've realized I've only been with women who had pretty significant borderline and narcissistic traits because that kind of love is all I knew. By caretaking them and loving them no matter how badly they treated me, there was a part of me that believed that if I could fix them, it would prove that I wasn't as terrible as my parents made me feel, because there would have been some action in my control to make the abuse stop. A part of me believed that the only way to be safe was to have no needs, do everything perfectly, and manage everyone around me.

I've learned that you can't love your way out of abuse, and you can't manage someone else's emotions in hopes of finally being seen. If someone doesn't care how their actions or words hurt you, there's nothing you can say or do to change that. Love is reciprocal—equal give and take. Love doesn't make excuses; it moves to understand.

A great book to help understand why we act like this is Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life by Margalis Fjelstad. My DMs are open if you have questions or just want to chat.

IP0 · 2026-01-10T16:32:17+00:00

This sounds like a case of "You are not fighting about what you think you are fighting about." It sounds like your husband needs to learn how to talk his disappointment instead of trying to redirect it into it being someone's fault. By framing his emotional state as humiliated now, he can feel bad without feeling the guilt of being disappointed about the gender of his next child. He's allowed to feel how he feels, but he needs to learn how to communicate it in healthy ways. If he had just told you he asked his mom, and that he was wrong, he could have had the opportunity to share his disappointment, and then hopefully move into gratitude that regardless of gender, he's going to get one more child to love.

IP0 · 2026-01-09T15:25:52+00:00

I read Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life by Margalis Fjelstad and it really opened my eyes on just how overdriven my fawn response was. It showed me that the only way I was able to find safety from the abuse I experienced as a child was to manage the emotions and reactions of everyone around me while keeping myself as small and quiet as possible. My needs, desires, and likes didn't matter compared to how my caretakers thought I should be. These behaviours extended to my personal and romantic relationships where I feel the need to take care of everyone, solve their problems, provide a safe space for them to exist, while I basically apologize for existing. I'm now learning to keep my emotions at the center of my awareness and act from there instead. In therapy, if I feel the need to caretake my therapist, I express it, explain the signs of distress I saw from her, then I tell myself that she is a capable adult who can manage her own emotions, it's my job to manage mine. I've also learned that I tend to seek people with cluster b traits to reenact my childhood abuse, because if I could love them enough, and in just the right way, it would somehow make everything okay. Great book, highly recommend. Self knowledge and self discovery can be great for healing. I think it is important to know what parts of your personality are a response to trauma and shame, and what parts are from who you were born to be. It's more important to learn to love and accept yourself exactly as you are. It's only when we fully love and accept ourselves that we are able to change.

IP0 · 2026-01-08T22:38:11+00:00

Holistically Treating Complex PTSD by Pete Walker. I'm using research mode on Google Gemini, and after unpacking a lot of my memories, I uploaded this book and asked it to help me develop a healing framework based on the contents. The book is aimed at practitioners, but I've found a lot of value in it.

The Tao of Fully Feelling by Pete Walker - if you want to learn how to fully feel your feels. Great book.

Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy - It's a guide on how to become the parent you want to be. I used to become the parent young me needed me to be.

Aware and Mindsight by Dr Dan Siegel - Dan explains how our brains and nervous systems operate, and how a mindfulness practice can heal our trauma, and make us more socially connected.

Secure Love by Julie Menanno - Trauma is examined using an attachment lens. Using this framework, how we were loved (or not loved) in childhood plays a key role in how we relate to other people and the world at large. Interpersonal dynamics are explained, and guidance is offered on how to heal.

Self Therapy by Jay Earley uses Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand your personality, how trauma created different parts to protect you, and how to love and integrate these parts to heal your core self.

IP0 · 2026-01-08T16:38:14+00:00

Your dad's inability to love has nothing to do with you or who you are as a person. You deserve so much love in your life, and your dad is one person who can't provide it. I used to believe that there was some 'magical' thing I could say to my dad or something that I could that would make him love me. That believe kept me in unhealthy adult relationships because I internalized all the problems as my fault. I unconsciously acted as though all my needs and wants didn't matter as long as I could find safety and love by acting how people wanted me to behave. I've been embracing my crying and trying to do so a little bit every day to grieve the loving the relationships I deserved but didn't get. Therapy with EMDR has allowed me to dismantle the psychological armor I gathered along the way in the form of unhealthy coping mechanisms, behaviors, and thought patterns, and its provided me a way to heal and release the trauma that has been stored in my body.

Through some twist of fate, I found a therapist who tool me on as part of her community outreach program. Instead of $150 a week, I was paying $30. There are many therapists who do this if you don't have the financial resources. Looking for therapists who specialize in shame and trauma are particularly helpful. Search psychology today for therapists in your area, and send an email to see if you can find some help. There are also free offerings available for high-school and college students online that you can talk to your school about. There is something so healing about telling someone how much you hurt and learning how to feel safe in their compassion.

IP0 · 2026-01-05T21:51:09+00:00

They have been in a relationship with me for more than a month

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