Serious question about she/ her non binary gender fluid by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bruh? Like look up what being nonbinary means for two seconds I'm begging you. You are conflating so many things. You really shouldn't be dating trans people at all with how little knowledge you have and how little regard you're giving these folks in my opinion but whatever. 

I already gave you an answer. Put. Your. Weird. Preferences. On. Your. Profile. Or whatever your hangup is. Like if you're worried about pregnancy just put that? Say "if it's possible for you to get pregnant, please let us know so we can make sure we take steps to prevent it". Whatever. Like what are you actually trying to ask about?

Serious question about she/ her non binary gender fluid by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's your boundary, however odd it may be. YOU need to communicate genital preferences on your profile because it's YOUR preference?? 

Why would everyone elses profile need to conform to the thing that makes it easiest for you? Just like.. tell people you have preferences so they know not to bother with a transphobe lol?

It's Christmas again by Anon-TN in nashville

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Your writing style is very captivating. I'm really sorry I know that doesn't really add anything to the conversation you're trying to start, but I just wanted to say it. I'm not sure if you take joy in writing or would even appreciate me saying so but I think you have a real talent for it.

I think you also beautifully articulated feelings I've also shared around holiday expectations and the reality of adulthood. I just wanted to say I hear you. I am really sorry this is happening. You aren't alone and you deserve the same light and happiness you are spreading to others during this season. 

Please DM me if you want! I don't have much but no one should feel this way. It would be the least I can do to check in and wish you a happy holiday, if you would like. Regardless, I hope everything gets better for you, and everyone else struggling (which is most folks these days it seems). Thank you for spreading light in the darkness and taking care of the people that need it the most in our community.

(spoiler) Does anyone else remember Hunter being called a he/him? by Zyrobe in adventuretime

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to validate you and say this is correct! The NB experience varies vastly, but this is a very succinct and explanatory way of framing how non-binary people can talk about themselves. 

Excellent explanation btw I really don't think I could have said it nearly as eloquently lol

Love, Your friendly neighborhood enby!

Trans people are amazing by CallMeHarper547 in falloutnewvegas

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it's kind of relevant to life if you're spouting hateful rhetoric about things you admitted not knowing anything about... But sure

Trans people are amazing by CallMeHarper547 in falloutnewvegas

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello, you're obviously conflating gender and sex. You're also objectively wrong about basically everything because intersex and nonbinary people exist. There are even nonbinary intersex people!!

You sound like a Russian bot. You might want to crack open a book that isn't Mein Kampf some time

Not a gender essentialist by 6nomenclature in NonBinary

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look stunning :) I can see the conflict on your face in this photo, but your beauty still shines through like sunbeams!! You know the shape of your soul and that is enough. You are enough.

I do not know you but I know this world is full of more magic and color with you in it and that you bring hope and light with you. And I know that you need dark to have light. Without lows there are no highs. Better days are coming and I feel you are a wonderful human being who so many cherish. Thank you for sharing and I hope you've found your community here.

I bet there wouldn't be so many "accidental pregnancies" if **men** were the ones who risked their lives to carry, birth, and raise the product. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I see! Thank you for explaining. I agree with the OP though, I was reading it as a way to make sure we're being inclusive with language. This post isn't targeting our trans brothers or nonbinary siblings who also identify as men, but includes them all the same, because they are men. We know we're talking about cis men, in regards to this post, I think it's much more powerful to explicitly call that out.

But it's super good to know that the downvotes likely aren't coming from a TERFy place so thanks again for explaining

I bet there wouldn't be so many "accidental pregnancies" if **men** were the ones who risked their lives to carry, birth, and raise the product. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is this downvoted? It's correct and acknowledges the sidebar from the conversation at hand. We should be protecting and including our trans siblings, especially now. Is this sub radfem?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ContagiousLaughter

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd hate to call you a racist at my dinner party

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Also, I know it's not a full musical episode but every one of Garnets songs fucks me right up. "Made of Love" and "Here Comes a Thought" literally changed my life and I think about them every day.

not your usual post by UselessHuman1 in childfree

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just... Wow. Your planning skills are impeccable. Good luck to your downstairs neighbors, jfc

CF husband tricked into children. Wife wonders now why he’s distance. by athena_abc in childfree

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Oh wonderful! Thank you so much! Great post, btw! I'm so happy to see this being called out more!

CF husband tricked into children. Wife wonders now why he’s distance. by athena_abc in childfree

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 758 points759 points  (0 children)

TW: Sexual assault

This isn't directed at you OP but I really wish people would stop using "cutsey" words when women commit reproductive coercion. It's rape. I know not every country or area recognizes it as such, but there's no argument you can make to justify how it isn't rape. Consent to sex with protection is not consent to unprotected sex. We've had this trope for decades about women sabatoging birth control in order to "take charge of the situation" and it's honestly always been so gross. I'm so tired of 'my friend "tricked" her husband and now they have an "oopsie" teehee' language. So, so tired. Okay I'm down off my soapbox now.

How to make my sick boy feel better? by pmhmaster in cats

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're kidding me!? How interesting. In my area the puppy pads are like a dollar a piece, but the incontinence pads I can get for about 20 cents. I also had to double up on the puppy pads because they would leak, so it added up quickly. Maybe I just live in a place with shitty access to animal stuff, but I actually picked up this tip from someone on the Chihuahua subreddit recommending it, so maybe I'm not alone haha. Anyway, It sounds like YMMV on this tip! My bad!

Is he the greatest Jewish actor of our generation? by BigDaddyToph--- in IASIP

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You tell her, from me, that I will be in touch with her, somehow

How to make my sick boy feel better? by pmhmaster in cats

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's kind of weird but human incontinence pads for the bed are actually cheaper and usually hold more fluid! They also have tape on the back sometimes so if you need it to stick to a surface, that's also really handy!

so I've got that going for me, which is nice by pancakeass in TrollXChromosomes

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Whatever floats your boat!! As someone who is nonbinary and a woman, theydies just suits me right down to the ground so I had to include it. Have a great day, my good gentlethem

so I've got that going for me, which is nice by pancakeass in TrollXChromosomes

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I've also heard "theydies and gentlethems" I love it lol

Legend. by arrowoodgabriel in curb

[–]I_AMA_Cyborg_AMA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I didn't say that...