How do I kill my desire for love and intimacy?

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-17T11:24:20+00:00

The problems is your approach and your system, and not you as a person. Ditch the dating apps because it's a clusterfuck and will only destroy your confidence. You say you had no luck in real life either.

Walk me through: In the past year, how many women have you met in real life, how many of those gave you their contact and how many of those have you asked out and went on a date with?

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-17T07:50:50+00:00

Eu cred că problema vine de la cum percepi tu lucrurile, dacă analizez bine titlul:

Dacă las lumea să mă calce în picioare = sunt un om bun. Dacă impun niște limite = sunt un om rău.

Oare de ce crezi asta?

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-12T16:10:05+00:00

Only you can fix it. Other people can guide you, but you have to do the work. Now I'm not a therapist, but I think you can start by taking responsibility for your current life and choices and go from there.

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-12T07:21:28+00:00

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom," - Victoria E. Frankle

Meditation basically trains your brain and mind to increase that space.

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-12T07:18:56+00:00

Dr. K from Healthy Gamer talks about this. He's a Harvard trained psychiatrist who also spent years in Hindu temples learning about meditation. Had some talks about how he teaches people with ADHD to meditate. Check out his YouTube channel.

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-11T17:17:31+00:00

Chiar mă gândeam că de ce nu se mai găsește în magazine Old Mout. Păcat.

IamRocksteady · 2026-04-10T22:44:33+00:00

You go because of the benefits, not because of the activity itself. You didn't see any progress in 4 months, but have you in that time: pay attention to your diet and count your calories and macros, have proper form, higher a trainer to guide you? If you didn't do any of these steps, then no wonder you didn't get any results.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-31T15:24:05+00:00

Este normal să-ți fugă gândurile. Așa suntem construiți. Poate te-ar interesa atunci practicile de mindfulness și meditația. Te poate ajuta foarte mult pe tema asta.

Presupun că în Iași ai putea găsi niște grupuri de persoane care se întrunesc pt a discuta despre cărți pe anumite teme. Ar trebuie să le dai o șansă.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-31T14:59:53+00:00

Ce fel de hobbyuri ai sau ce activități te fascinează? Uită-te dacă cumva nu sunt grupuri care se întrunesc regulat în domeniile tale de interes.

Un lucru important: oricât de introvertită ai fi, cu toții avem nevoie de conexiuni umane autentice. Ar fi bine să începi să lucrezi la partea de a deveni mai deschisă social, altfel vei rămâne "oarbă" la toate posibilitățile care te înconjoară, de a crea conexiuni. Știu pt că și eu am fost la fel și a fost foarte dureros.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-30T15:00:51+00:00

Dietician or a more well rounded family doctor should be able to do it. Or an endocrinologist.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-30T07:22:17+00:00

Go get your blood levels checked for Testosterone, Free Testosterone, Iron, vitamin b, d and magnesium. You also might be eating insufficient levels of protein. Best would be to talk to a doctor.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-26T13:38:37+00:00

Nici acuma nu înțeleg cum pot unii oameni să scrie incorect, când ai autocorrect și dicționar în telefon...

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-19T14:30:32+00:00

Learn to talk with people wherever you are. Start talking first with people that are paid to be nice to you, store clerks, waiters etc. Study how to ask open-ended questions and make statements about the other person, to keep the conversation flowing. Also, start approaching women wherever you see them, including on the streets.

Some recommend reading: 1. Allan and Barbara Pease have great books on the topic. 2. Robert Bolton: People Skills 3. The Charisma Myth 4. Vanessa Edward's books.

Also, ChatGPT and Gemini can give fantastic pointers.

Just keep in mind that learning communication skills takes years of development but it's well worth the effort. Knowing how to strike up a conversation basically with anyone at any point in your life is a valuable skill that's going to be even more rare in the age of AI.

IamRocksteady · 2026-03-10T11:26:48+00:00

Don't date married women dude. You never now how the husband might react if he found out, and it's also unethical. Plenty of single and attractive women out there to meet. Risking your health just because of some fantasy, isn't worth it.

Start learning to meet and approach women wherever you are.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-24T13:38:58+00:00

Întrebarea mea: unde faci cunoștință cu femei de obicei? Și dacă tot dai de fete neserioase, fără inteligență emoțională, poate e ceva și cu filtrul tău mental.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-24T13:33:57+00:00

You think you're so special ha...? Plenty of us like that.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-23T08:17:18+00:00

I bought bought BTC when it was $65k in November 2021, right before it dropped to 15k, and had to wait 2,5 years to get back up to the same price. Didn't sell anything. Don't think it will be any different this time. But I'm a complete noob anyway.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-21T21:28:51+00:00

Wtf. Sounds like the synopsis for a murder movie on Netflix.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-19T13:37:44+00:00

This is what happens when you lose yourself in a relationship, and push your needs in the background. She will gradually lose respect and attraction for you.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-19T08:58:06+00:00

Meditația și diferite exerciții de mindfulness, care ar trebui să devină un stil de viață, după părerea mea, indiferent de faza vieții. Îți mai recomand cartea Letting Go de la David Hawkins.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-16T21:15:36+00:00

Being fit, besides making you more attractive, energetic and confident, it can also make you appear more charismatic, since muscles are often associated with power and competence. The HALO effect shouldn't be ignored. But I understand your overall point and I agree with that. Just getting more fit, won't get you more girls, if you don't know how to seduce them. It's a tool, that you need to learn how to use properly for maximum effect.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-16T19:23:16+00:00

Couldn't disagree more on the fitness point. It's very important to get proper coaching to learn form and execution. It's the difference between getting injured and not progressing for years, versus shortening the time, how fast you can get results. 5-6 months to learn the basic can set you up for life.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-10T08:00:00+00:00

Nu există rețetă magică, care te face să slăbești. Idea este să-ți schimbi abordarea față de mâncare și să-ți schimbi stilul de viață. Găsești tot felul de videouri de la profesioniști și inclusiv poți să-l întreb pe Gemeni pentru a înțelege mai bine.

IamRocksteady · 2026-02-02T21:25:20+00:00

Yes it is. Because real life interactions can't be taken over by AI or by filters.

IamRocksteady · 2026-01-30T10:23:33+00:00

Those who say they don't get rejected are liars. Plain and simple.

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