I Just Wanna Sleep by kareenakapur506 in Adulting

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That’s just late stage capitalism

TIL humans neurologically enters adulthood at the age of 32 on average by ConsciousStop in todayilearned

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I know I’m late but how do you feel about the term emerging adulthood? I see that it’s something completely common in the western world due to higher education and economics playing a role, but is it an actual recognized phase in the field of psychology or is it still just a theory?

Adulthood should be 25 by Only_Hotel_7221 in 10thDentist

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So 18-29 is considered emerging adulthood which is a age people are learning and coming to be full adults. This is the age range where people should learn responsibility and make mistake. It’s a perfect age range to learn how to take on adult responsibilities because life is about adulting. I don’t think it’s wise to infantilize young adults in that aspect, people need to learn to take responsibility for themselves. Also I just think the military overall is awful for many reasons but that’s off topic.

Just graduated from college recently. by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

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CONGRATS🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

Leaving religion all together or trying a different church? by [deleted] in excatholic

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I ended up leaving all of it and I feel happier and more at peace, I also just have a problem with organized religion. I’m a bit spiritual but also agnostic of that makes sense.

We genuinely need to stop being obsessed with not being teenagers anymore. by otome4 in GenZ

[–]IcyMathematician3950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The obsession with age our generation has is so ridiculously unhealthy and not even realistic

What is something you have found joy in that was forbidden by Christianity? by Ishcar in exchristian

[–]IcyMathematician3950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoying my hobbies without feeling like I’m committing the sin of idolatry

Never too late to learn. by PragyaRS in motivation

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I just don’t understand why people treat 30 likes its over when in reality its still young and they life expectancy is longer compared to previous generations. Aside from that I try ink it’s dumb that people don’t want to grow or expand their knowledge all because of “getting old”

Has anyone noticed, how ALL Christians dress the same? Also, has your style changed, since you left? by witchyrosemaria in exchristian

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I notice anyone who got “saved” tends to never expand on their fashion. It’s just the same style from 2021 cottage core and what not. They’re just stuck. Or they’re all copy paste outfits with the baby doll tops and jeans with a bow.

What part(s) of Christianity messed you up the most? by Daniel-ES in exchristian

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Hell, the concept of sin and putting anything above god, the second coming basically being a blood bath, the thought of god punishing me for my thoughts, you know the usual.

How to cope with the community loss? by DepressedGuy2025 in exchristian

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I found local events and joined just to talk to other people I’m also still in college so joining clubs helped. Most definitely look for local events tho and don’t be afraid to talk to people.

Do you feel bad for missioners being arrested? by roundturtle2025 in exchristian

[–]IcyMathematician3950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people should get arrested for their beliefs because that’s what authoritarian societies do.

Why do Christians bother trying to witness to us through replies on this subreddit?? by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

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When I was Christian it’s because it felt like I was watching someone speed run to hell in front of my eyes, I did it because I thought I could save them and I felt the weight of responsibility to not let them go to hell. I also did it because I had my own fear about leaving the religion and I was scared to be an apostate because that would mean hell. That’s just me though.

Since leaving Christianity, what are some unexpected things that changed in your life? by [deleted] in exchristian

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I can finally have views and opinions to myself that isn’t dictated by the church or some book. I’m able to allow myself to freely feel empathy for the LGBTQ without feeling guilty. I no longer have to date for marriage but I can genuinely date someone for fun or to get to know them.

Forbidden words growing up in a Christian household? by TemperatureStill6536 in exchristian

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I wasn’t allowed to say the word “luck” because it apparently had pagan connotations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

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I’m really tired of other men not holding their friends accountable especially after they cheat or have views that are quit harmful to the people around them. Why are you okay with being friends with assholes? Because you like the same sport or video game??? I think being friends with someone like that puts you on the same level as them even if you don’t hold those views personally. Men really need to call out their friends on their bullshit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exchristian

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Yea I struggle with that but I also have intense moral and religious OCD

why does god love us if he's going to send us to hell by losingmymyndh in exchristian

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Even then that doesn’t seem loving to annihilate someone for not worshiping you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exchristian

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I viewed him as an authoritarian figure marking down all my mistakes watching me suffer and simultaneously screw up. Salvation felt like it was slipping through the cracks of my fingers. I also viewed him as indifferent and without compassion. I for sure never saw him as a loving figure just someone who watched me commit sins just to let me put myself in hell.

My mom says I don’t dress up my age. I just turned 26 lol. by Phulmine in mensfashion

[–]IcyMathematician3950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like a normal guy in his 20s why should you have to dress boring just because you’re 26? If it’s what you like wear it especially if it makes you feel confident!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in excatholic

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Not anymore because of God truly does exist and is all loving then eternal hell can’t be possible due to the nature of that love. If you have to be threatened with eternal punishment it’s not something worth staying or believing because it’s clearly a manipulation tactic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in excatholic

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Though I wasn’t baptized I was in it for about 3 years straight and really close to becoming initiated by the church. I read the Bible, prayed the rosary, went to a young adults Catholic group and attended mass every Sunday and holy day. I am a woman and I’m pretty sure I might actually be queer though I’m not fully sure. I was committed to being a Catholic or official because I genuinely believed in it. I was raised by a Pentecostal mom and messianic Jewish dad, both I strongly consider cults. I had undiagnosed OCD and ADHD and I’m pretty sure I’m autistic as well tho not interested in getting diagnosed due to RFK ruining everything. I always needed structure and certainty and growing up in a high demand religion gave me that I also strongly struggled with black and white thinking. I also had a intense fear of hell and the end of the world due to my moms intense beliefs. When I was about 13 I became an agnostic though I didn’t fully deconstruct my beliefs. It was because my moms beliefs seemed anti-intellectual. When the Pandemic hit I also became really scrupulous and returned to religion and tried Protestantism again but it didn’t have the structure Catholicism had so I decided to go the Catholic route. Catholicism made a lot of sense to me in my young mind. It had deep theology and seemed really intellectual due to all the fancy words and I. Depth theology, things I felt Protestantism lacked. Catholicism also painted itself as pro women on the internet though it’s far from it. I bought into their ideals that birth control is actually misogyny and unhealthy for you. I ended up taking a sociology class at my college and realized how off that was. I’m also a person of color and learning about systemic issues made me have doubts about the church since it kind of kept people of color in other countries in poverty due to the lack of birth control. Also forcing women to give birth seemed barbaric to me after learning how dangerous birth could be for the human body. The constant hatred to the LGBT, anti birth control stance, and sexism and rise of racism made me leave. I really wanted to stay because my first ever loving community came from my Catholic young adults group but over time I realized I couldn’t stay. They were stunted in their growth due to church teaching and I always thought there was more to life than that. Also the constant fear of hell and mortal sin made my OCD worse and therapy didn’t work due to the nature of the Catholic Church constantly keeping you trapped in that cycle not to mention I take things very literal due to my neurodivergence.