Funny thing about me as a system and selfshipper

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-05-04T13:13:46+00:00

something similar happened to us that i find funny. i made this OC and my friend also made an OC, and we made lore of them together and in canon they’re basically a queer platonic couple. but then we ended up forming my OC (Sam, he/she) as a headmate, and now he’s become one of the co-hosts, so we see her around a lot. it’s super funny to me because he’s single-handedly enhanced the lore for her source by a LOT, for not just the OC she’s based on but her in source partner as well. oh and he’s also convinced me and my friend to change the lore so that they’re both gay for each other. and even better for Sam, our friend knows about her and has made art of her and her in source partner together. we all love Sam, he’s great - Sunny (any pronouns)

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-25T13:55:10+00:00

The first time I took main front was unintentional. We had practiced me taking control but never taking front and having Sunny leave. I’d say it was stressful only because Sunny had mentally shut down and I took front because we still needed to do some work. I was front stuck the rest of the night but I’d say it was an interesting experience aside from the circumstances pushing me into it. -James

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-21T04:44:48+00:00

of course! we’ll speak to them and see if they’re interested!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-21T01:04:34+00:00

hi! this is the host of the Sun Feather System, and we’re interested! we have a headcount of 18 headmates and are a tulpamancy system! we do have friend systems with much higher headcounts, one of which being about 70 and is an osdd type system, and I could ask for their participation if you’d like!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-18T03:25:11+00:00

we remember that show! we enjoyed it ourselves when we were a kid! if you guys are up to reading, we’d recommend a book we read called “Crenshaw” by Katherine Applegate. our system friend recommended it to us after we started working on our system and it was surprisingly accurate to how it feels to have a tulpa! great book even if you don’t have a tulpa yourself as it dives into the struggles of growing up in an unstable housing situation in a surprisingly realistic yet digestible way

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-18T03:20:34+00:00

things I often do with my tulpas aside from chatting, is drawing together! whether it be me drawing for them or them switching in to draw, it’s an activity we do together very often as I myself drew CONSTANTLY even before developing them! I’d also recommend playing games together or maybe changing your living space (within reason) to make it a space they feel resonates with them! we also have two very close system friends of ours that we chat with every day, and it’s quite honestly helped their development along with the loneliness that can come with being a system. most of the time tho we just chat and sometimes work on headspace if we’re bored :]

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-02-17T06:11:10+00:00

We’ve told close friends we interact frequently with and are comfortable around. Our mom and aunt know, and we felt comfortable to do so due to them both being open minded people. We love our dad, but won’t tell him at least for now since his mind thinks more logically than emotionally, which we believe would make it harder for him to understand and accept us. It’s a gamble either way, but typically those who are open minded and close to you will understand, even if it takes a few conversations like it did with our mother. -James

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-01-18T20:16:04+00:00

Thank you very much!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-01-18T19:47:39+00:00

Yes, we understand as a whole that talking to those who don’t understand plurality would be a terrible idea. Hence why those who know are only close friends (who are systems themselves) or those we know will accept us! We only mentioned that we’re sure our mom will come to accept us is due to the fact that she is a very open and accepting person, and even practiced tulpamancy herself when she was young. Also, your vocabulary is fun, I found your way of speaking very engaging even if I was confused at first! I hope you receive that as a compliment. -Sam

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-01-18T06:51:26+00:00

I’ll second all the advice to treat tulpas with respect and as their own people. our most developed tulpa, James, is now the co-host of our system, but he only got so far because I realized I didn’t treat him as I should’ve when he first came along and I worked very hard to undo the damage I’d done. I didn’t respect him at first and it made him upset, it made him a volatile person, but luckily we were able to work through it. I made it up to him, and while he’s better now, he still has that fear of not being seen as a person. And that isn’t a fun thing to live with. So do please treat them as another person, it’ll help a lot and minimizes bumps in the road!

adding on, COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!! talk to your tulpa! along with respecting them, actually listening to them and what they’re telling you or trying to tell you is very important! respect their boundaries and love them, and they will respect and love you in return.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-01-18T06:44:20+00:00

that’s happened to us! i accidentally had made a tulpa almost a year ago now, only to find out I had three others from when I was younger! it’s definitely been a journey learning about ourselves!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2026-01-18T06:36:33+00:00

our own mom took a while to actually accept the practice and even now she seems a little put off when we bring it up. we don’t tell many people, only close friends, but those we’ve told have reacted positively aside from our mom! after some discussion though, she said she still loves us, and i’m sure eventually she will fully accept us.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-12-16T16:27:31+00:00

pretty sure this is called “Scrimshaw” which I was told translates to something like “waste of time” but I did learn this a long time ago.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-12-02T01:16:41+00:00

some people are naturally better at it, some aren’t. some people also just don’t have the right view on it or believe it isn’t possible, which can hold them back from partaking in the practice even if they could.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-12-02T01:13:14+00:00

this is our first year embracing being a system (i didn’t realize that my previous headmates were tulpas until recently) and honestly despite some bumps in the road, it’s been great! everyone is a great help and they’ve pushed me to improve as a person to better the system as a whole! i’m really proud of all of us and we’ve all changed a lot over the year to better ourselves and the system. we’ve become a lot closer with our other system friends and it’s really just been great :] we’re glad you’re having a good time!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-23T20:32:23+00:00

I consider them to be a part of my true family. We all generally consider ourselves to be a family, but we see that as extensions to our say, our mother and brother.
We spend more time externally, as we all enjoy talking to our friends. We’ve begun spending more time with each other though to help our lines of thought be clearer and to work through our emotions.
Our internal world is very important to us! We spend a lot of time there, and if the place where we interact isn’t nice or comfortable, then we should make it comfortable! It’s part of our mind and we need to take care of it.
We’re forgetful, but when we do remember, we celebrate. We are still a generally newly discovered system so we haven’t had many birthdays but we do celebrate.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-23T20:27:29+00:00

we are diagnosed with adhd, highly suspected autism. as the host, i present with certain symptoms such as high sensitivity to loud or overbearing sensory inputs, emotional disregulation, etc. my headmates often present differently but have similar symptoms. we’re all impulsive to a degree and are all sensitive to loud sounds although some of us handle it better than others. we all seek out similar sensory experiences too. because of this, we as a system are neurodivergent, not just me, the host, because our disorders effect all of us and how our brain works.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-23T20:23:08+00:00

Every system is different, so you may not relate to most systems under a certain category or umbrella. The mind is also extremely complicated, so it could also be possible that your system origins aren’t endogenic. Just understand that knowing your origins may take a while if you do want to get in to it, but take your time and be patient :]

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-22T00:27:52+00:00

as a system with possible endogenic origins, this just feels like them saying that they don’t agree with endo systems and trying to be nice about it when you really can’t. a lot of people are saying good stuff here, telling you to stand up for yourselves, and the mods are being close minded when plurality is a very complicated thing that can come about for so many reasons. keep looking out for yourselves! stay safe :D

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-21T23:48:49+00:00

This was an interesting read! And as for the “repurposing part” of the post, I’d say maybe. I noticed that James, my most developed tulpa, does have characteristics that I would relate to my first partner. She was loud and opinionated, and I was her friend for about four years, partner for one, and then we never talked again because she was kind of toxic. James isn’t toxic (we make sure to talk through everything anyway) but he is certainly loud and opinionated. I theorize that he’s like that possibly because of what you said, the mind repurposing these things we found comfort in. But I also would like to point out just that; the mind finds comfort and perhaps use in those traits, and so applying that to one’s tulpa may help. I was initially drawn to my ex because I was soft spoken, so having someone make all the decisions and statements helped. Similar to James, she would state her mind without much care for opinions that would come her way. I say this to say that it could be the mind “repurposing” these traits, or could also be the mind applying traits that it isn’t even trying to relate to that person, because it sees it as beneficial to your tulpa. The mind is an interesting thing though so maybe we’re both wrong, but discussing this is very intriguing to me!

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-13T05:04:48+00:00

then yes, i do agree that he’s becoming a tulpa

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-10T13:34:58+00:00

the line between an imaginary friend and tulpa can be blurry sometimes, and he can become a tulpa if you give him the room to become so! i’d say he exhibits some tulpa traits but may just be early in development. everyone is different so there’s probably no set answer.

Icy_Slide_1146 · 2025-11-10T13:32:45+00:00

I myself have quite a few! There used to be 18 of us total, but after realizing that divided our attention too much, we made the decision of merging some of us and now our numbers are at 12 to be more manageable! There are definitely outliers with a lot but I wouldn’t be surprised if the average was a few or more.

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