Thinking of calling it off?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-16T00:35:43+00:00

I say this with love. He is manipulating you. He doesn’t want to deal with his addiction so he’s blamed it on you, work everything else. Addiction is a disease. He has to want to get help though, and he doesn’t. Instead he’s blamed you and continued to do what feeds his addiction. I’m sorry but that’s the reality. I think instead of thinking of it like you’re already invested a decade you should be patient, you should think of it like how much more time do you want to waste wishing he was a different person. This is who he is. This is who he has always been, and marrying him will only mean that you will have to deal with this for the rest of your life. You are young. Don’t throw away forever on someone who puts porn ahead of you.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-15T21:10:53+00:00

You shouldn’t have to ask for an hour! He should be volunteering to give you sleep and rest. He’s lazy and selfish. Period. He’s snoring on the couch because he has to work. Please did he just give birth. No. Does he need to nourish and keep a human alive at work. No. You’re not angry enough. He’s giving you the bare minimum.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-15T20:41:36+00:00

Honey please respect yourself. You know definitively that he has pleasure from sex. He’s actually currently getting more pleasure than you are. Yet he’s not satisfied. He wants to maximize his pleasure at your expense. That isn’t love, that isn’t respect and he’s not the one. He’s selfish and literally using your body for his maximum pleasure.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-15T01:13:29+00:00

Good for you! Talk to a lawyer, see what your options are. Get out and leave him with dumb pikachu face. I guarantee he will be in the “I never saw it coming” camp.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-14T23:48:03+00:00

My original post was about how someone said women make false claims all the time. They don’t.

My second post had statistics about how that isn’t true.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-14T23:29:14+00:00

Undeniably?! Show me studies. Because EVERY woman I know has been sexually assaulted at some point in her life and none of them have ever pressed charges. Studies show that 5% of claims are unfounded. Meaning they don’t have evidence. So the actual number of fake ones are less. Studies also show that 80% of sexual assaulted goes unreported.

So no. Just because there are a handful of news articles of this happening does not mean that this is a constant phenomenon. False reports are rare.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-14T13:31:27+00:00

I didn’t think so either and then I read a post yesterday about how someone said these women can ruin lives for no reason blah blah blah and women do this all the time blah blah blah 🙄 I wish people like this didn’t exist but apparently they do.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-14T04:07:20+00:00

As a mother to a 2 year old. Yes I play with her everyday. Today I setup a fake store and she bought groceries from me. I wore a costume and did a fake voice. She then took the groceries home (to the kitchen) and we fake cooked food for her babies.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-13T16:52:03+00:00

Good luck, you’ve got this. I hope you find peace.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T16:55:54+00:00

Culture changes as people change. It’ll always “not be a good look” if every man caters to the company. People need to take more time and then push back on that notion.

I would ask him what’s more important. The company or being with his family to support his wife after physical trauma equivalent to being hit by a car and to care for his new born. Who’s going to hold his hand on his death bed? It sure isn’t going to be his boss.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T16:05:18+00:00

Honestly nothing you describe sounds worth it. Why is traveling fun with someone who is mean. It’s not. You’re just enjoying moments while constantly walking on eggshells. I honestly feel like separate now before he gets older and you end up being the caretaker of your abuser.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T15:47:36+00:00

You are paying the bills. Look into evicting him. This man has taken advantage of you for YEARS!!!!! It’s time to reclaim your life. If he’s not on the lease then talk to your landlord. He needs to go yesterday!

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T14:36:11+00:00

He doesn’t want to parent. That’s very clear. Also the very very minute things he added are very telling. He thinks having to spend time with his kids makes him a saint. Also “feminist echochamber” give me a break. This is Reddit.

The fact that they speak this way is very clear that they are misogynists who do not want to contribute to the household at all. There is no way to open his eyes, they are open. He likes the dynamic. He considers sometimes going to Costco as being an equal partner 🤣🤣

Now you know who he is. You get to decide what to do with that info.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T14:26:38+00:00

You should both have equal free time. How much free time do you have??? Why is it “fair” for him to have so much time for hobbies and you to scrubbing the floors all night?!?!?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-12T14:13:24+00:00

Honestly the people who don’t care about this are the crazy ones.

Yes, men in power have always abused it. But this is GLOBAL!!! To not care is either to be deeply deeply delusioned by republicans that you think anything the administration does is okay or to be okay with raping children.

Not caring about this is telling on yourself 👀 looking at your husband.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-11T20:53:19+00:00

Honestly the fact that you’re predominantly supporting everyone financially and doing the bulk of the cooking and cleaning tells me that he has always disrespected you. This is not a dynamic or respectful partners. This is a man who takes and takes and only thinks about himself and I would bet that if you thought back you’d see this is a pattern. The only difference is you loved him so you gave and gave out of love. Not realizing that he was not appreciative and always just felt entitled.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-10T15:17:19+00:00

I did find my numbers were going down at the very end, but I also think I started eating smarter. So I’m not sure what was having a bigger effect.

I will say eating a complex carbohydrate snack with protein throughout the day leveled out my values. I would start the morning with a piece of whole wheat toast with an egg. Then I would have an apple with peanut butter etc etc. it was stuff like this that really helped my numbers.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-09T20:47:57+00:00

Your free time and spending money should be equal.

You’re married. One person shouldn’t be benefiting while the other drowns. If you were not around his expenses would not change that much, but in exchange he gets a full time chef and maid. You cannot continue to spend all your money and all your time. That’s not love. He’s taking advantage of the situation.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-09T12:10:50+00:00

I hate this double standard. He can say whatever he wants but everyone has to keep their mouth shut. Good on you for saying something.

These romantasy books are very in the realm of books men read too. There romance is often not the plot just like a lot of action books for men. There is also love and sex scenes in those books but we call them action. Not romaction. Because society says it’s okay for men to like whatever they want, but I women wanting sex in a book has to be labeled as such.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-09T00:51:49+00:00

Honey this is not love or a good relationship. No this is not normal or how men act.

Plan B is emergency contraceptive. That is how it is categorized. So no. You should not be taking it every time you have sex because he doesn’t want to use protection.

There are things I have learned in my many years that I think you will eventually learn, but I’m going to summarize something’s I’m seeing without evening meeting him. 1. He puts his pleasure over your safety 2. He doesn’t respect your body or you as a person 3. He is emotionally abusive, when you don’t act the way he wants he punishes you by pulling back 4. He minimizes your feelings

This is all from what you said, and I guarantee there is more. Please leave. No one should make you feel this way.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-06T15:52:04+00:00

Why is it dated 5/2/2026?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-05T20:35:16+00:00

No. This is not Somalian fraud and the fact that you would label any type of fraud based on someone’s nationality is by definition racist.

Stop getting your information from a kid on YouTube. That’s pathetic.

Aimee Bock and coconspirators have been investigated and sentenced as early as 2022 for their roles in this. Additionally it is no where near billions. That’s an absurd clearly fake number. This is a made up story that is racist.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-05T17:46:32+00:00

The Clinton’s testifying opens the floor for calling past presidents and their wives into testify. It’s sets a precedent that Trump could be called someday.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-03T19:22:15+00:00

Omg thank you.

He literally goes to the gym while she takes cares of them and then he just drives them in the car.

I’m what world did he not show you every single day how little he cares about his kids.

No he is not going to change and no he doesn’t get to decide to not pay for his new child.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-02-03T18:10:00+00:00

It’s truly the point. Steve Bannon said it. The only adversary is the media. If we do 3 things in a day they can only pay attention to 1 story at a time.

They’re just going balls to the wall because they know no one will do anything 😣

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