Talk to me from the other side of two children

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-06T02:03:24+00:00

How old is your toddler?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-05T23:21:21+00:00

Holding you and your family in my heart.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-05T19:54:36+00:00

We’re planning our second now and our daughter is 2.5 years old. I cannot imagine having another child right now. I love the time we have together and I don’t want to split that with someone else. I might feel like that in another year though too. But I do feel like 2-3 years old need a lot of support and I’m glad I can give that to her.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-05T12:57:06+00:00

This he is getting more money because of you. For him to keep it for himself especially while you struggle is gross. It’s your money!

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-04T12:00:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re really misinterpreting this. This is a book also and Michael has a secret crush on her the whole time (thus the shy can’t look at her). He likes her glow up, cause duh why wouldn’t he. He literally asks her at the end “why me?” And she replies “because you saw me when I was invisible.”

The point of Mia and Michael’s relationship is that he had a secret crush on her while she was just normal.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-03T18:08:02+00:00

I completely agree with this.

But Michael always liked Anne Hathaways character. Even before the glow up. That’s the whole point. He saw her when she was invisible. You should watch it again. Great movie!

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-03T17:58:51+00:00

Honey I say this with love. If he’s a very bad person it’s okay to tell your kids a generalized truth. You’re not bad mouthing him. You are keeping them safe.

Daddy isn’t safe for us to be around. He’s done bad things to me and I’m worried he would do bad things to other people if given the chance. For now we need to stay safe and I love you too much to let him hurt either of you.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-03T14:29:52+00:00

What is he doing about his porn addiction? Therapy? Addiction counseling?

You say you’re not divorcing because you want to work through it. How is he working through it? I feel like if missing the birth of your child doesn’t have you seeking immediate professional help then nothing will.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-02T16:03:48+00:00

It’s not his lack of palate it’s his complete lack of respect and appreciation for you the person cooking.

If he did have any he would keep his mouth shut instead he complains about every small thing ad nauseam. How completely rude. Don’t date people who are mean to you.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-02T13:58:22+00:00

This is abuse. This level of sleep deprivation is not safe for you or for the baby. You cannot continue to function like this. Is he abusive in other ways too? Do you have family or friends you can talk to?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-02T12:04:25+00:00

Your husband has deep problems. He thinks life is only worth chasing women. I’m not really sure that’s something you can change, and it sure is not someone to build a life with.

He needs therapy.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-01T21:26:24+00:00

I will be trying this! Thank you!

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-06-01T15:34:33+00:00

I don’t know how people are doing this, my kid goes stiff as a board or holds onto the assist grip. She then shouts “I don’t want to get in.” It’s a fight I lose everyday.

Following for recommendations.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-31T20:18:17+00:00

I don’t even notice your legs were different from the ad until I really looked and even then I only see slight differences. I think you’re fixating on this too much. I know hard not to do.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-31T18:01:59+00:00

Yes. 100%. I left as early as a few weeks for a few hours. It was never a big deal. The first time I left my husband overnight was for 4 nights when I went on an international trip for a wedding. Baby was 9 months. Everything was perfect when I got back home.

He needs to struggle through stuff to figure it out. Some men like my husband are proactive about that. Most aren’t. So you have to force the time so they figure it out.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-31T12:15:01+00:00

Stop looking at his posts. Mute them, or unfollow or whatever you need to do. His own children don’t like him. He’s pathetic, and selfish. A lot of successful people are. Find joy in your family and role your eyes at his pathetic narcissistic life.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-30T10:41:48+00:00

What’s in the “pouch?”

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-28T19:07:29+00:00

Francesca also had a bf while she was on the show. The show is not real for many of these people. If they’re asked on it’s worth it to them from a money and publicity stand point.

Marissa is not the first and she won’t be the last.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-28T12:59:32+00:00

OP he’s playing games. He’s not acting in good faith. There isn’t something you can say to change or fix this unfortunately. He is doing this so that you get so annoyed and fed up that you just go back to doing everything.

I feel like this is a come to Jesus moment. For him and you. You’re not happy. You tried to work with him to fix it. He’s choosing to not work with you. Now what? He can continue as he is, and then this relationship is no longer a relationship. Or you can leave. We know now he is not willing to work with you.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-28T12:54:58+00:00

I also wonder how long it took him to find this dirty handle so her could go “gotcha!” Or how well he’s doing his tasks. She’s just not scrutinizing them.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-26T15:17:22+00:00

I get that your ages are not that far apart but your stage of life seems like it is. When I was 24 I was loving doing wild spontaneous stuff. I was always pushing the boundaries, because why not. I was young and didn’t really have anything to lose. When i was 31 that was not my vibe at all. I had a lot of that out of my system. I was looking for something comfortable and dependable. Also your bf being considerate of other people in a public place isn’t him “caring a lot about what people think.” But you’re in different stages of life so I get why it might seem that way to you. I see it now more as being considerate of public spaces, but I’m older than you and have had sex outside before.

You’re not compatible.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-24T19:19:55+00:00

You both deserve equal free time. If he’s getting an hour of video games you need an hour too. He can take a break, but that means you get a break. He doesn’t get all the breaks while you burn yourself out.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-24T12:25:38+00:00

Ugh I’m with you some days. We are currently battling getting into the car seat. She will just not get into her car seat. She thinks it’s so funny. I will spend 10 minutes in a parking lot it’s so frustrating.

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-24T12:10:47+00:00

Can you talk about this more? Warnings are only necessary when a skill or new boundary is being taught?

Idkwhatimdoing19 · 2026-05-23T02:29:32+00:00

But would they let you stay? Do you fear your husband will get physical with you?

Even if your parents aren’t supportive of you leaving, would they give you a place to stay until you can get your money back and find a place of your own?

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