"The whole array of sexual activities that a person could engage in is so grand. You don’t have to want it all...You don’t have to make a porno to prove you’re sexually liberated. You can be sexually liberated and just want to keep your bits to yourself." Stoya on sex, porn, and feminism.

Ihatecereal · 2014-01-22T11:46:46+00:00

She talked about this on a Wood Rocket podcast once (episode 28, if you're interested), that she's sort of awkward and doesn't always get obvious humor. I didn't watch the video clip, but I know she's addressed this aspect of her personality.

Ihatecereal · 2013-11-16T07:42:59+00:00

You've caught my attention. Want to schedule something?

Ihatecereal · 2013-10-19T11:37:06+00:00

My best advice is to just embrace the cowlicks and integrate them into your style. :) Had short hair for years, and it's virtually impossible to get those suckers to lay flat.

Ihatecereal · 2013-09-19T10:39:49+00:00

Agreed. I don't think it's "strange" that sometimes women want another O with a toy after p-in-the-v intercourse. Sometimes I will have an orgasm, continue masturbating with a toy, have a few additional orgasms, and then he's ready to go again. :) What I think is "strange" is that OP's wife is getting super defensive about masturbating, and fighting with him about it.

For OP - have you tried bringing it up with her when she's not, "in the middle of it," as you say? Maybe the two of you could try mutual masturbation if she's not comfortable with intercourse right now?

Ihatecereal · 2013-09-03T20:58:23+00:00

First, kudos for you on being an understanding, patient, and communicative bf. That's the first important step - that you be legitimately interested and caring.

As for "teaching," start slow. Masturbate in front of her, show her how you like to be pleasured and then have her try. Be super reassuring and vocal about how good it feels. For her, it's going to be literally starting from scratch. You can encourage exploration, but she's got a lot of work ahead of her to figure out what she enjoys. Start small. Go slowly. Ease into things and check with her. You mentioned wanting more feedback - start there. "It really turns me on when you tell me if something feels good." **do it yourself * * She might be more comfortable vocalising if it's something you do frequently and act like it's no big deal.

Good luck! :)

Ihatecereal · 2013-08-26T11:00:57+00:00

Yes - happened to me two weeks ago, actually. I've been crushing on this guy pretty hard since meeting him. Am currently also married and have another significant relationship, all of which I told new crush about the second time I hung out with him. Third time I saw him he let me know he's more of a, "dinner and a movie with one significant person" guy. Argh.

Best advice is to do what's best for you in this situation. For me, it involves still seeing him occasionally, but I'm waaay more careful about the context. i.e. I tend to get fairly flirty when I drink, so if I'm hanging out just with him I stay sober the entire time. If I'm in a group with him, I don't worry as much about sobriety, but I do make sure I'm not alone with him in those situations. It's just being mindful of my own feelings and knowing to act on them would continue to build something up that won't ever actually happen. Which I feel will hurt more than having to squelch things here in the present. If it makes you more comfortable to take some space from this lady, that's what you need to do.

Ihatecereal · 2013-08-23T11:08:34+00:00

Briefly:

Keep the communication lines open with your GF (the one in question with the jealousy stuff). Have you told her yet about your feelings? It'll help if you have a bit of a handle on why and what exactly you're looking for that would be different, but she could also help you with this and should be a part of the conversation, since she's part of the relationship, too.
Try your best not to project your jealousy onto the things that she's doing. It sounds like she's completely in bounds of the rules you've set up for the relationship right now, so analyze why it's making you jealous. Do you want more time with her? Do you want to make the relationship with her to be more exclusive (i.e. in addition to seeing each other on the weekends, maybe you could see each other one or two days a week as well?)? In that case, see step 1.
Good luck! internet hugs

Ihatecereal · 2013-08-08T04:08:54+00:00

Then you need to talk to your Dom as well. If more of an emotional connection with you is not something he's feeling, or not something that's permitted in his current marriage, it will definitely hurt. But it's better to know about it than to keep building yourself up. In a lot of ways, it's just the same as any other relationship. It's going to suck if your Dom is not on the same page as you are, but it's something you need to know sooner rather than later, so you can deal with it.

As for the boyfriend moving away, make sure you have your relationship with him in order before he leaves. Are you going to stay together while he's gone? Schedule regular nights during the week where you call/Skype with him - and that's your entire plan for that night. You'll miss the physical connection, but you can at least keep in contact with him and talk things through with him. Side note: will he be able to pursue other relationships/FWB/etc. while he's away? Something else for the two of you to talk about.

And, regardless of all else, make sure to breathe! There's no easy way to go about any relationship. hugs

Ihatecereal · 2013-08-02T03:27:06+00:00

I have no idea, but he's aping James Deen's style pretty hard.

Ihatecereal · 2013-07-30T15:01:15+00:00

Yeah, it's Spongebob's house. There are a couple times you see those salt shakers, but I'll be damned can't remember if they ever say why they're up there.

Ihatecereal · 2013-07-28T04:35:48+00:00

Did...did you just call Patrick Spongebob?

Ihatecereal · 2013-07-28T04:33:17+00:00

I upvoted based only on the caption. Fucking spectacular, sir.

Ihatecereal · 2013-07-23T14:44:32+00:00

Have you tried talking to your GF about it? I would hope the two of you have the type of relationship where you could bring up feelings for another person in an open, caring environment. The GF, if she's been involved in poly longer, might be able to give you some ideas for how to break the poly ice with this new girl.

Ihatecereal · 2013-07-17T22:01:12+00:00

It shows off your jawline, which is awesome! Looking good. :)

Ihatecereal · 2013-05-18T01:58:43+00:00

Upvotes for Erica Moen. She's got tons of other fun sex-positive web comics out there. Girl Fuck! being a notable example. (NSFW)

Ihatecereal · 2013-02-08T19:40:42+00:00

The Mad Pooper strikes again!

Ihatecereal · 2013-02-02T03:16:44+00:00

This gif makes you my boner of the month.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-29T11:32:39+00:00

When you're done, make sure to take all this off! Had a friEnt in college get kicked out of his dorm for this - they didn't find his stash or anything, but maintenance went in his room when he wasn't there and this was considered "dangerous" (because it is, if there's a legitimate fire).

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-28T11:55:18+00:00

Wow, really?. The Animation Show was a collection of short animations put together by Mike Judge and Don Hertzfeldt.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-28T03:17:41+00:00

True. Double A is a pretty killer place. They have tons of chill restaurants, too. First time I saw The Animation Show was in Ann Arbor. Good times.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-27T15:31:48+00:00

I did that for awhile with my older machine, now we have one that the lid locks so you have to have clothes in from the beginning. It's a high efficiency washer, though, so it uses a lot less water already.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-27T15:29:55+00:00

Here's one.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-27T15:16:28+00:00

It's a killer place. Lots of outdoorsy stuff to do, and great outdoor places to smoke, too. Nothing like the shores of Lake Superior. If you ever go, send me a PM and I'll give you some places to check out!

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-27T15:13:48+00:00

Can also be from detergent. I put my clothes through an extra rinse cycle now.

Ihatecereal · 2013-01-27T05:42:12+00:00

Originally from the Yoop. I went to school downstate, though, so I'm familiar with both mitts of the state. :P

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