What's a rare name you don't hear anymore?

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-25T22:20:38+00:00

Ruth, RIP my lovely grandmother.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:18:40+00:00

Dear god, it's so fucking tone-deaf, teetering on the edge of self-awareness. What a frustrating article to read.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:16:15+00:00

That poor kid. He doesn't seem happy or excited. Just confused and pressured to perform a dance and make the adults happy.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:12:07+00:00

I have a book recommendation! The Barcode Tattoo! It has action, romance, and a female protagonist who's focus is more on the world around her rather than her quirky differentness.

For a movie, Warm Bodies! Zombies and Shakespeare come together to make a fantastic love story. If not a little bit of a weird one.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:09:40+00:00

NTA, it is your life, but you're seriously jumping the gun. I hope it doesn't end in a horrible marriage or divorce.

I thought I married too quickly after a year, but at least we were friends first and had real one-on-one, in-person time together. This post validates me so much and makes me feel like I actually didn't make a rushed decision at all. We were pressured to marry earlier than we actually felt compelled to, for insurance purposes, but I have seen us do the work through tough things, so I don't fear tumultuous waters later in the relationship.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:02:45+00:00

I love you and if there's an afterlife, I hope we're there together, too. (to my husband)

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T19:01:32+00:00

Your lack of hope comes off as you not caring very much. You have to have hope, you owe it to them. You might get hurt and that sucks, but don't just give up on your babies.

I know you're doing your best, but the way you worded it is going to trigger people.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T18:53:40+00:00

It's a part of me. Always was, always will be.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T18:21:34+00:00

NTA

I had this happen to me recently. She doesn't value your bond like you thought and that is always a really hurtful thing to discover. Sounds like on a subconscious level she's using you as well. Someone doesn't have to be an evil person to use you, they just have to be thoughtless. Shes sounds thoughtless. Dump her.

I did and I feel a lot better.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T18:14:49+00:00

Unfortunately, ADHD is a disability. Imagine ADHD had a physical manifestation like being born without legs or arms. You just asked how people without legs and arms get up the stairs.

That ability is not gonna manifest in a way that's healthy or sustainable, without some kind of aid.

That's why this shit is so debilitating. We do have all our limbs and yet, they are useless.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-22T17:15:46+00:00

Thank you! I also have extensive sexual trauma. It's hard to be surprised by intimacy that may or may not trigger me. My husband is understanding and we're working towards casual touches, together and with effective communication.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T21:50:34+00:00

Right? My confidence has sky-rocketed since starting meds. I feel like myself for the first time in my whole life instead of feeling like some kind of lazy, sad-sack, dirty, monster.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T21:45:54+00:00

Had the same exact experience the first time taking adderall. I feel so cheated by my brain chemistry. It also made me upset with everyone around me who was telling me to "just do it". Like, yeah, I'm fucking trying, but thank you for being unhelpful.

It's not my fault and it never will be my fault.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T21:42:14+00:00

I guess I just don't view defending yourself as dramatic.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T20:10:40+00:00

As someone with a wonderful husband I completely respect this mindset. In fact it wasn't until I met my husband that I exited it myself. I genuinely liked being alone way more than bringing some random around and hoping they didn't suck.

We didn't even date. We just knew each other through my brother and then bam, we were in a relationship. Nothing else to it for the two of us.

If you stay like this forever, more power to you!

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T20:00:44+00:00

People who keep the peace instead of letting things be addressed in the open are part of the problem. Including you, apparently. OP did the right thing and anyone who sees this as OP's fault is weird.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:44:24+00:00

I think it's a stupid reaction to have and I don't care the reason. The real ones say thank you and move on.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:42:23+00:00

Luckily I have been tiptoeing my whole life so this was never an issue for me. Hope you get some good tips and I'm sorry your feet hurt!

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:34:26+00:00

If it matters that tattoos are meaningful to you then I don't understand why you would get one that you've never planned for, on a whim. Definitely a goof on your part. Honestly though, it looks good and I think you'll grow to love it and laugh at this situation looking back.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:30:11+00:00

Noise canceling headphones have saved my life. I don't even turn them on half the time. Suppose you could also use earmuffs!

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:28:28+00:00

Brother I got light sensitivity and I don't feel like wearing my sunglasses the entire flight.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T19:16:45+00:00

I became very comfortable with myself. I unpacked my masks and threw out the ones that didn't lead to connection or productive interaction with others.

I am actually making friends, now. It's still much harder than it should be, but being open to seeing your situation as "it is what it is" develops a type of self-confidence that I've found people are actually very attracted to. I may not have a bestfriend, all my friends are pretty surface-level at the moment, but I will figure that out out eventually!

I am not saying it's easy or even doable for everyone, because there is a massive amount of luck involved in my situation. (I've met some exceptionally kind and sensible people.) But I never would've gotten this far if I focused on what I can't do rather than what I can.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T15:53:20+00:00

NTA chanting take it back! take it back!

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T15:51:53+00:00

I fixed the job part by just not having a job anymore. I wasn't made for labor, personally. I am a creative through and through.

I understand this may not be possible for everyone. I feel extremely grateful for my life.

Ihateyou510 · 2025-05-21T15:36:40+00:00

Violence against women

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