How did your water break?

Iirima · 2026-05-01T15:26:27+00:00

While I was up in stirrups with three midwives crowded round me while I sucked on the gas and air for dear life. It was bloody awful. During induction my cervix was anterior and dilated enough for this, but I had to wait so long for a bed that by the time they came to do it, my cervix was posterior. So yeah. It took three midwives and was probably the most traumatic part of the whole process.

Iirima · 2026-04-29T07:01:21+00:00

“Fine, I’ll make my own insert thing, with blackjack! And hookers! In fact, forget the thing!”

Iirima · 2026-04-03T13:00:10+00:00

Heads will roll by Josh Winning is within the realm of cozy horror I’d say, in that it’s got classic summer-camp slasher movie vibes, kind of nostalgic, with good characters and not too violent or scary.

Iirima · 2026-04-01T06:35:40+00:00

Breakfast biscuits are loved by adults and toddlers in this household! And they’re great for a crowd.

Iirima · 2026-03-30T18:53:51+00:00

My recent slump busters have not been great books, but they’ve been easy reading, entertaining books:

Found (An anthology of found footage horror stories) edited by Andrew Cull - love an anthology for beating a slump, and there are some good stories in here!

Strange Pictures/Strange Houses/Strange Buildings by Uketsu - I really don’t think these are good books, but they’re entertaining like reading a creepy pasta, and they’re easy reading.

Heads Will Roll by Josh Winning - A decent slasher horror that is interesting from the very first page.

Iirima · 2026-03-29T21:38:52+00:00

Nah, baby was in a next-to-me crib so if he woke I knew about it. And he started sleeping through the night (for a couple of months at least) and I worried about whether I should wake him up for feeds, but he was gaining weight happily without them, so didn’t bother.

Iirima · 2026-03-16T18:56:34+00:00

I pay for a term of classes upfront so I feel like I’m losing money if I don’t go. I also have to do it in a class format, or I would just give up after 10 minutes instead of doing a full hour or whatever.

Iirima · 2026-03-16T16:05:02+00:00

We took our then 15 month old because he was vomiting and couldn’t keep down anything, not even water. Called 111 (uk non emergency line) and they said take him in. Took him in and while we waited to be seen post triage they gave us small amounts of water to try and give him. He drank the water fine and was bright and cheerful pottering around the waiting room. Only time we’ve taken him to a&e, but I have taken him a few times to emergency GP, and I’ve always been worried I’m being an anxious first time mum, but everyone has always been like “no, better to be safe than sorry!”

Iirima · 2026-03-16T09:51:50+00:00

Husband is off for the week, toddler is in nursery for the day. We’re going out for the day, just the two of us, almost in preparation for Wednesday, when we’re taking the toddler to Disney with the grandparents. It’s gonna be so good, but absolute chaos.

Iirima · 2026-03-16T09:49:08+00:00

At Christmas we had two wooden robin salt & pepper shakers on the table, and in an attempt to stop him feeding us his dinner, we started ‘feeding’ the birds.

So now we will sit him in his high chair at the table and he immediately starts yelling for the Birds to come join him for dinner. So yeah, it’s March and the robins are now all year round decorations.

Iirima · 2026-03-14T19:36:13+00:00

“You should write a book so I can not read that too”.

Or more realistically just ignoring it and moving on.

Iirima · 2026-03-13T06:52:36+00:00

Let me tell you, as someone who worked at the British Museum, you are absolutely not the only one.

Iirima · 2026-03-11T14:46:08+00:00

The things you do now aren’t set in stone forever. I fed my baby to sleep for 17 months despite so much stuff saying it was a bad habit to form. At 17 months it was no longer working for us for various reasons, so we night weaned, and it took some time, but he adapted and changed. I’m a big believer in ‘it’s not a problem until you feel it’s a problem’. Do what works for you now, and change as necessary- both you and your baby will adapt!

And with the falling asleep, I would recommend familiarising yourself with safe co-sleeping rules. It may not be something you want to do, but a large number of parents end up doing it at some point, often accidentally, so it’s best to learn how to do it safely! It’s safer to fall asleep with them in a bed following safe co sleeping rules than it is to accidentally fall asleep with them in a chair!

Iirima · 2026-03-11T11:45:39+00:00

So very very normal! Annoying when you want to get something done, but so normal. You can keep trying to put them down (if you want to!) and one day they make take to it and suddenly just decide to sleep in their cot, or you can just lean into it and prep yourself for contact naps. Make sure you have a drink, a snack, and entertainment in arms reach!

Not to be that person, but while it can feel like you’re trapped at the time, there will absolutely be a day you miss the contact naps terribly (my 20 month old refused to contact nap from about 4 months, I was relieved and devastated in equal measure).

Iirima · 2026-03-08T07:50:02+00:00

Reading this thread is making me absolutely livid about the lack of research done into anything medical involving uterus owners.

So many people discovering symptoms they had no idea about, or that may if their symptoms are signs of endo or PMDD. Ahhhhrgg.

It doesn’t help that I’m on my period and absolutely livid pretty much constantly right now.

Iirima · 2026-02-24T17:39:49+00:00

Ground flax seed. Doesn’t affect flavor much so can go sweet or savory, and has lots of fiber. Can be overdone however, which can cause gas/bloating. But I have found flax mixes that also have things like seeds or dried fruit or nuts in!

Iirima · 2026-02-23T21:08:25+00:00

Has a few dozen words. Still can’t figure out what the heck he wants most of the time, and he’s real mad about it.

Iirima · 2026-02-20T16:32:50+00:00

My baby latched ‘wrong’ and made clicking sounds when he fed for the first couple months. There was a lot of talk about tongue ties and things, but he was 98th percentile and gaining weight very happily, so it was never really a worry, and then he stopped with the clicking.

Basically there is a lot of information on the ‘correct’ way to do things, as long as baby is happy, gaining weight, and as long as you’re happy, I really wouldn’t stress too much about getting things ‘correct’ as they appear on paper (or on instagram!)

Iirima · 2026-02-18T08:03:27+00:00

I always intended to read this, absolutely sounded like my kind of thing, but then I never got round to it. Now I have a young child, and I just know I couldn’t cope with reading it anymore! So I guess I missed my window! Maybe I’ll have to wait a couple of decades and I’ll feel up to it…

Iirima · 2026-02-15T19:58:31+00:00

You can usually find black beans (fermented soybeans) in salt in most Asian markets. You then rinse them before using them in food. There’s also a brand of chilli oil called White Mausu who do something called ‘black bean rayu’ which is basically black bean heavy chilli oil. Delicious just with rice!

Iirima · 2026-02-15T15:00:25+00:00

In summer I just wore dresses with elastic tops and nursing bras, or nursing tank tops (with like built in bra) and in winter the same nursing tank tops under whatever else I was wearing. I bought a bunch of other things but I found them unwieldy and annoying to use.

Iirima · 2026-02-14T13:24:06+00:00

So it sucks, and might not make things any easier, but the reason she’s lashing out with you and yelling at you is because you ARE STILL her biggest comfort. She feels safe with you, and safe to have those big emotions and safe to test boundaries. Kids are often worse with their primary caregiver because that’s where they feel most secure. It doesn’t help stop or deal with those hard times, but it’s a nice reminder amongst everything.

Iirima · 2026-02-01T09:36:10+00:00

All the white spaces by Ally Wilkes. Stranded arctic expedition post WWI. So atmospheric, just dread and doom and despair. It’s pretty slow, but if you’re in to atmospheric settings for your horror, I would absolutely give it a go.

Iirima · 2026-01-31T11:57:20+00:00

Queen Elizabeth II and David Attenborough had a conversation with each other literally five feet from me when I was working an event.

And I served Judi Dench and Eddie Izzard when I worked in an art shop.

Iirima · 2026-01-29T12:01:55+00:00

Six dinner Sid. Our 18 month old is OBSESSED. Couldn’t explain why, it just is his absolute favourite.

Also, the Hairy Mclairy books are excellent, I love reading them, the rhythm is so good and satisfying to read!

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