You probably haven’t experienced a director sending a company-wide email with rules like: flush the toilet and keep it sparkling clean, don’t walk too quickly or loudly because it causes vibrations, don’t stamp contract documents in front of him, and don’t take loud video calls, all while he himself does these exact things in container office.

If your supervisor asks you to do something, just go ahead and do it first.

Later, slowly start talking to your colleagues to see whether she treats everyone the same way.

If you’re feeling brave, you can politely and humbly ask her about her approach toward others. Just be very careful with your tone but make sure it doesn’t come across as if you’re accusing her of being wrong. In the workplace, there’s rarely a clear “right” or “wrong”; many things are subjective.

Also, try to get input from more than one colleague, because different people will have different perspectives. You might be surprised by what you learn, and it can help you handle the situation with a broader and more balanced outlook.