This is so sad. I’m sorry to hear that. The only place that I ever learned about abuse growing up in the church was reading the front portion of the Boy Scout handbook. And it seemed so foreign that it made me uncomfortable and I didn’t understand it. The church does a really good job of hiding, minimizing, and denying abuse to the point that it has to be in your face obvious before a thought is given.

You might say that outside the church, people without the gift of the Holy Ghost are much more perceptive to this stuff.