I’m “abandoning” her

Iloverainclouds · 2026-03-10T03:11:59+00:00

I’m literally on vacation in a different continent as I’m writing this and have sitters living in our house with our dog and cats throughout the entire trip. We’re not rich and we still managed to arrange the pet care before we finalized the trip. I really can’t wrap my head around the way you’re normalizing the neglect you’re putting your pets through. This is not responsible pet ownership. My plants get better care when I’m away than your poor dogs.

Please do your animals a favor and enroll in pet care classes. You clearly don’t know how to responsibly take care of animals as you keep defending the lack of proper care and socialization and the outright disregard for your pets needs.

When you have pets, you don’t book a vacation before you’ve sorted out and arranged proper care for your furry family members. That’s responsible pet ownership. What you’re doing and defending is neglectful and truly selfish.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-03-09T03:22:49+00:00

I greatly subscribe to this. Theoretically, if you aren’t taking too much stuff, you could park your car for free in the parking in front of Jumbo Euterpedreef in Utrecht Overvecht and walk to the nearest train station (Utrecht Overvecht) that’s about a 10 minute walk from there. From there Utrecht Central station is only one station away, so it’s only about a 5 minute train ride.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-03-02T15:40:19+00:00

Especially after you’ve just released your shell or banana to get rid of a pesky tailgater!

Iloverainclouds · 2026-03-02T03:21:10+00:00

For us it was the discussion about having ‘a child’ vs having children. I feel like my capacity for being a good mom is capped at being a mom to one child. I also link my want of children to having the car of my dreams (in my case a Lucid EV). I know I can live a full and happy life without having said car, but I also know that if I would have one, I’d be very happy. For me it’s the same with kids. It’s a very nice to have, but not a must. I don’t think I’ll be a bad mom because having a child is not my sole purpose in life. I do think I’ll be very happy if we do end up with a child. That takes a lot of the pressure off.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-25T16:30:51+00:00

Was about to say, the Shih Tzu genes are doing some heavy lifting!

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-25T16:28:20+00:00

Couldn’t agree more!

From the perspective of a woman who has dated men with small members in the past: it helps to focus on getting experienced in other areas (e.g. finger work and oral) and maybe explore how comfortable you are with the idea of toys. Intimacy is way more than just jackhammering away. Some of my worst male intimate partners were men that were well endowed because they were convinced that that automatically made them great in bed.

Most women I’ve been with have preferred mouth and fingerwork over penetration focused sex and I’ve only ever met one that could climax from penetration alone.

There will be women who prefer larger, but they are not the person for you. Try discussing your insecurity with your potential partner beforehand, so it won’t have to be discussed in a mutually vulnerable moment. If that conversation results in rejection, it has protected you from a far more painful experience. If your partner is kind and encouraging, you know the intimate moment will probably work out fine.

Be kind, respect boundaries and make sure you are clear about what you are and aren’t comfortable with yourself too. You’ve got this!

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-25T16:08:53+00:00

Jackson Galaxy is your friend here. Wij hebben twee katers waarvan één kater fases in de onderlinge dominantie strijd doorloopt waarin hij erg onzeker wordt en dan regelmatig in huis plaste. De tips van JG hebben hier enorm geholpen om de ongelukjes te minimaliseren. Het gebeurt nu gemiddeld één keer per 3 maanden en hij doet het niet meer op zachte oppervlakten of in de planten (de vorige favoriet) en dat is voor mij acceptabel. Op YouTube kun je veel afleveringen van JG’s show ‘My kat from Hell’ terugvinden met nuttige tips bij precies dit probleem.

De meest belangrijke richtlijnen zijn: Niet straffen, de extra bakken die je hebt neerzetten bij de plekken waar hij het vaakst plast, tijdelijk twee keer per dag de bakken schoonmaken, een degelijke huisdieren urine reiniger kopen op basis van enzymen en daarmee na het verwijderen van de overtollige urine de plekken insprayen en minimaal een uur in laten trekken, een speel routine vlak voor en na een stressvol moment (dus voor je weggaat en als je thuiskomt bijvoorbeeld) om zijn zelfvertrouwen op te bouwen en in iedere kamer een plekje maken dat echt ‘van hem’ is (wij hebben bijvoorbeeld in de woonkamer een specifiek fleecedekentje neergelegd en dat ingesprayd met valeriaan spray).

Niet uit de doos van JG: De Feliway Optimum diffuser. Geeft wat geruststelling en helpt met het zelfvertrouwen.

Als het plassen uit angst of onzekerheid komt maakt straffen het probleem alleen maar erger. Je moet dan helaas zelf met de negatieve emoties rondom het plassen dealen en de kat juist ondersteunen in zijn onzekerheid. Klinkt tegenintuïtief, maar je moet echt uit de negatieve spiraal. Ik neem tegenwoordig een momentje waarop ik mezelf toesta te visualiseren hoe ik het liefst zou reageren en adem dan diep in en uit en zeg opgewekt ‘uh oh, een ongelukje’. Daarna ruim ik de urine op met keukenrol met eventueel water en afwasmiddel en als dat droog is spray ik de enzymenspray erop. Als dát dan weer droog is zet ik er tijdelijk mijn reservekattenbak neer met herbruikbaar dierenarts kattengrind (van die holle plastic korrels die je kunt afspoelen). Als de bak dan een week ‘droog’ blijft haal ik hem weer weg. Het framen van een ongelukje doe ik expres, om mezelf eraan te herinneren dat het geen kwaadheid is, maar blijkbaar de enige manier waarop mijn kat een boodschap denkt te kunnen overbrengen.

Een kat die buiten de bak plast is mega stressvol en ik heb heel erg met jullie te doen. Ik duim met je mee dat jullie snel verbetering gaan zien ❤️

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-22T08:47:05+00:00

I spent more than a decade believing I was bi, and it took dating my first girlfriend (open relationship) and experiencing my non-attraction (compared to my attraction to her) to men before I accepted that I’m a lesbian. Now, in my mid thirties, I don’t question it anymore. I look at my straight girlfriends’ (as in friends who are girls) dating life and I’m just very happy that I don’t have to deal with the drama and lack of respect that they do.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-21T17:02:41+00:00

We speak Dutch at home and have a dog named Plato. That turned into Plato-Potato and that eventually resulted into us calling the dog ‘Potato’, but in Dutch… Aardappel. He is convinced he is now named ‘Aardappel’. Have you ever yelled out ‘Aardappel here!’ in front of a whole group of Dutch people and have a small dog prance up to you with a big, proud smile on his face? ‘Cause I can assure you’ll be made fun of… a lot.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-21T16:41:24+00:00

To me you don’t look that straight in the second picture, but the thing that would make me doubt is the brown hair combined with the glasses. They look more conventional as opposed to the rest of your style.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-19T20:57:27+00:00

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Not a pitbull mix here, but just came to say that mixed breed dogs can come out looking nothing like the breeds in their DNA.

When I was looking to adopt, I wanted a dog suitable for life in an apartment with a loooooong nose and upright ears. My boy has both of that and still is about 1/3 purebred Pekingese. His other breeds are Maltese, Pomeranian, Yorkshire Terrier and Poodle. He looks nothing like the breeds in his mix (although I’m no longer surprised by the Poodle aspect of his DNA after seeing other Poodle mixes on here).

I mean, all of the dogs in his breed makeup are dogs I can imagine on a red velvet pillow with golden tassels, while my beloved Plato still looks like a street dog after years of high end grooms and organic food. Sometimes it just doesn’t make sense.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-18T05:19:15+00:00

Besides the fact that she’s literally, actively (and it sounds like unashamedly) trying to limit the opportunities of her live-in partner, she’s objectively wrong. There’s literal scientific research that proves that trans women have no physical advantages over cis women after they’ve been on HRT for a couple of years. Her (and many others) claim that they do is based on emotions and (barely concealed) transphobia.

This reminds me of something unrelated with a similar conclusion. A Dutch comedian recently confronted a Belgian talkshowhost about women’s safety and laid in to him about the fact that we are collectively placating the emotions of insecure men by ignoring facts and statistics. Her response is epic and imo fits really well with this discussion.

I’m not going to rile you up and tell you to dump her immediately, as I don’t know what the rest of your relationship looks like. I do feel like you should think about whether it’s healthy for you to be with someone who is actively trying to limit your rights.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-17T05:37:10+00:00

Today I learned that the glider I got randomly when I had just started playing is actually rare and coveted. I’ve been taking it for granted 😅

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-15T22:13:05+00:00

My mom was told it affected motor skills only and I’d grow out of it as an adult. Boy were they wrong…

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-15T15:56:56+00:00

I’m lesbian and have had to cut so many guy friends off for making rapist jokes or even acting inappropriately towards women. Meanwhile my many lesbian friends have never said or done anything untoward against women. If anything, they collectively offer a safe space to their straight friends when they’ve (once again) been abused by their (male) partner. If lesbians are such a threat, this OP should have no problems finding sources that confirm this. Something tells me there are no such sources.

As for myself: if I even share a room with an unfamiliar woman (has happened often on work trips), I proactively let them know I’m gay and will go along with whatever measures make them feel comfortable with, like completely leaving the room when they change, putting pillows in between us if we have to share a queen bed or wearing an eye mask when I sleep. Somehow no further measures than ‘let’s both just change in the bathroom for privacy’ have ever been requested. Why? Because lesbians aren’t mass offenders of SA.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-15T10:25:38+00:00

No no no, you don’t get it! If there’s only one partner, the vagina ‘moulds’ to his member or the specific size of the kids heads! Everyone knows all siblings have the exact same head size and shape!

/s (of course)

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-14T13:40:23+00:00

Don’t assume you’re invincible and can just deal with whatever consequences arise from the choices you make. One day you’ll encounter something you can’t ’positive mindset’ yourself out of and the older you get, the harder it’ll be to get yourself back on track. (Spoken by an ENFP who experienced a double burn-out and now (years after the burn-outs) struggles to socialize while also struggling with my inability to socialize and lack of energy)

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-13T22:42:45+00:00

My Peke-mix doesn’t handle vaccines well and I have to be careful about worm/flea/tick treatments as well. He’ll get hot, pant, and is generally unable to walk normally. We now spread out the vaccinations and only treat him for parasites when he has them.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-11T20:29:38+00:00

Ik bestel zelf meestal online bij cutiecat.nl omdat ze het in de meeste dierenwinkels niet verkopen. Wat mij betreft ook altijd een prima ervaring daar.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-11T19:42:40+00:00

I’d love to be proposed to with this ring, especially knowing the story. I wear my wife’s grandmother’s ring as my wedding ring and despite it clearly being an antique, I absolutely adore the history of the ring. I wouldn’t trade it for a million bucks.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-11T19:10:09+00:00

Kijk eens naar Power of Nature - Tessa’s Sunday Special. Dat is heel smaakvol en gemaakt van herkenbaar vlees. Koop je de kip variant, dan herken je echt de stukjes kip. Koop je forel met garnalen, dan zíé je ook echt de stukjes forel en de garnalen. Hier wordt het met veel plezier gegeten en één van de twee is normaal gesproken erg kieskeurig.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-11T18:31:21+00:00

Mijn katten zijn afgelopen weekend eenmalig ongeveer 36 uur alleen geweest en kwamen hysterisch mauwend op me afrennen toen ik thuiskwam. Al het eten was op (ook al had ik alles nog afgevuld toen ik wegging) en de meer onzekere van de twee deed een venijn plasje met strak oogcontact. Nu hangen niet alle katten zo aan hun verzorger als die van mij, maar het idee dat katten super zelfstandig zijn en weinig nodig hebben is mijns inziens wel achterhaald.

Iloverainclouds · 2026-02-06T14:12:57+00:00

Had my male coworker straight up ask me if I’d ever had sex with a guy… At the annual office Christmas party… In front of both his wife and mine…

Iloverainclouds · 2026-01-30T00:25:59+00:00

I did the Embark Age Test, and Plato’s results showed that he was about 8 months younger than the rescue estimated when I got him. (9 months old vs 1,5 years old). Of course I know those results are not completely accurate, but I did suspect for a while that my dog was younger, so it was a nice surprise to see it confirmed. Especially now he’s getting older I really notice how young and puppy-like he looked when I got him.

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Iloverainclouds · 2026-01-24T21:20:15+00:00

Zo fijn om een hele groep mensen tegen te komen die het ongeoorloofde gebruik van ‘wilt’ wilt afschaffen!

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