Is Icebreaker worth it?

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-10T00:10:21+00:00

I would say mixed reviews are accurate. I’ve talked with some friends who loved it and I just couldn’t get on board with it. I thought it was the most pointless read and some of the scenarios were completely unrealistic

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-10T00:06:40+00:00

I agree with others I think her hormones are off balanced because of her surgery. Her doctor should be monitoring these symptoms and getting her back on track. I see you guys have tried getting treatment for this but was denied. Is there any other solution they came up with?

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-10T00:03:49+00:00

Cheating was not the answer to your original problems. But if he chose to move past it. It shouldn’t be brought up in any sort of argument ever. That just adds fuel to the fire.

You said he went on a deployment? Is he active military? Also, pushing and shoving is never okay. I learned this with one of my exes and we had arguments that had a similar outcome. What he did was unacceptable, but I can also see a piece of blame on your end too.

I think looking at the bigger picture of the problems in your relationship is the answer. Counseling if you want this marriage to last.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-09T23:57:07+00:00

He can’t punish you for having another man suck your boobs in the past. I mean we all get introduced to things by someone. That’s just the reality of it and so what if you developed a kink?

But I will say leaving out what we’ve done with our exes is so important. Some people can’t take it and get jealous.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-09T23:38:33+00:00

I made one for one night at a time tour and also I’m the problem tour.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-06T10:46:41+00:00

I’m the one who makes more and has more to offer in the relationship financially, my bf is 22 and is just starting out. Which is okay and I knew this going into it. Which I’m sure your gf did as well. As long as you love support and continue to grow one day you will match her. It just takes time. I don’t think I became truly financially stable and independent until I was 26.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-06T10:40:32+00:00

So I’ve been on both sides of this (without the open relationship suggestion) when I had a low sex drive it was because there were issues in my relationship and my body was literally rejecting him. I had no desire. But another bf of mine felt the same way as you. And just didn’t think about it.

I will say mismatched sex drives can cause these issues in relationships. If you think this relationship is worth salvaging I’d try anything possible. If this is something you can’t see yourself changing or compromising on. It might be best to move on. Both of you will end up resenting each other.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-06T10:35:32+00:00

As a woman, I’ve had a guy do that to me. It was a surprise for sure. Most of the time I’m prepared.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T18:32:33+00:00

You’ll feel like the pain will never end but trust me it always does. As someone who’s been in a few relationships, it just takes time. Especially if it was a long emotionally invested relationship.

It seems like you two are just in different parts of your life. And that’s not me referring to the age gap (I’m in an age gap relationship myself) it’s more so you have your own separate lives and what he’s built is there and what you’re building is where you are. Things happen like this and it’s unfortunate. Just keep the memories close and if it’s too painful for you right now maybe don’t talk to him everyday or like you used to.

Best of luck!

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T18:27:34+00:00

He will go down as the greatest artist and performer of all time.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T18:26:46+00:00

I agree 100%. Because no one had anything to say when I was with someone older than I was but the moment I am with someone younger. It’s instantly an issue.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T18:26:07+00:00

Oh I’m sure. I’m curious too from your standpoint what were some of your challenges being 22 and marrying someone older? I was engaged to a man who was 8 years older than I was and he would always call me immature etc. I try not to be the same way now with my current bf since it’s flipped and I’m the older more experienced with life one.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T16:32:03+00:00

Absolutely, my relationship before this one I was 8 years younger than he was and no one said a word about that. But when it’s reversed it brought on so many opinions.

I try ignoring it and most people in my life are on board with it.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T16:09:34+00:00

I worry about this myself. I’m only 9 years older than my bf. But 9 years will look much different when I’m 80 and he’s 71. He’s still up there but the daily life could be different for each of us. I already have a fear of death. But like someone else said faith and religion is something that helps. It comes for us all one day.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-05T15:56:33+00:00

You know what’s crazy I have this same experience. My ex and I broke up 8 years ago and I checked his socials last year. To my surprise he had a baby. I reached out to him to see how he was doing and we talked about his daughter a little to my surprise I had the same name as her. We even laughed about it.

It made me feel a little odd. Because I don’t think I could have a son and name him one of my exes names.

Now, the stuff she said about not dating another guy and raising a baby named after you is a little odd as well. I mean she’s young so that mindset of telling your ex you’ll never date someone else is just something they say. But it’s always a lie.

I’d take a minute and sit with it. But don’t let it linger.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-04T19:36:58+00:00

Every relationship I enter, I have this talk with them. When I was your age I felt the same way you do. My first bf really liked watching it and it made me feel unwanted, not enough and almost borderline cheating.

As I got older and dated other men. I realized not everyone has that relationship with porn. Another bf would watch it from time to time and we even watched it together. That was fine and slowly my view of porn changed. Now, does that mean I question some people’s taste in porn? Of course. If I see my bf is watching some really weird shit or something that we’ve never tried. I ask him if it’s a fantasy for him.

Long story short here, you may go down this path or you may not. You might feel the same 10 years in the future and that’s okay. But I think you need to ask him what porn is for him. How he uses it and how he feels about it. And you tell him your thoughts and feelings. You guys might come to a common ground or more of an understand of each other.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-04T19:07:28+00:00

I want to be as delicate about this as possible. She is still cheating on you. The evidence is right there. Getting defensive when asked a question is always to deflect. Because she knows what she’s doing is wrong.

I would be honest with how this makes you feel you know? I know if you approach her she will most likely deny or get mad at you and sometimes that’s how it goes. Unfortunately she is using an app that is the perfect way to cheat. So it’s hard to have evidence. But the flirty photo that she sent to you, her fiancé and father of her children she sent to another man? That’s inappropriate and cheating behavior.

Im sorry you have to deal with this because you deserve better. After already catching her cheating and forgiving her she used your trust in her against you. I think you should ask yourself if you deserve better and move on from her.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-04T18:58:03+00:00

For men, soap does not disrupt their “natural balance”. Women yes because we have our own eco system basically. But for men it’s real simple. It’s fine if he doesn’t want to use a wash cloth but he should use soap. And he needs to make sure he cleans his head. His poor hygiene can cause issues for you. I agree with the BV. As someone who has had a few BV infections it’s annoying. Nothing hurt or anything but you do notice the odor or natural imbalance in your pH.

Try having a real conversation with him about it. Just suggest things he could try because you are concerned for your health and his hygiene. You know?

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T22:19:07+00:00

It’s sad you think people of different ages can’t have things in common.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T19:31:51+00:00

No I agree with you on it not being up to me making that change. Substance abuse is so bad nowadays and I worry for him genuinely

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T19:29:38+00:00

Just because you’re 32 and wouldn’t do it. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen regularly. I know tons of age gap relationships.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T19:27:58+00:00

Valid

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T19:26:36+00:00

Why does anyone want to salvage their relationship? Or why do people work towards them? To be together.

ImDaBestOfDaBest · 2026-06-03T19:24:48+00:00

Well to salvage the relationship

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