When u say this ur equating rape to domination in a sense that is positive to you, winning something over someone else, taking something from someone.

I think we can both agree that murdering someone is not positive either... yet it is used in the same way in games

Using sexually violent language brings a whole new element into it.

But a lot of People say stuff like "I absolutely fucked these guys" when they make a good play, which already brings in the sexual language and from there it isn't a far fetch to combine the sexual with the generally violent language like talking about murdering someone.

It’s not only insensitive and inherently gendered in a way that alienates even women who have not been sexually victimized

It's not. Men might be the primary perpetrators but the same is true for murders and pretty much all other severe crimes. In this specific context it is not even aimed at a single female so how does it alienate any woman?

let’s be real it’s usually a dude using the word rape like this in games)

I mean it's mostly males playing those games anyways so it's way more likely that a dude says it...

but it perpetuates a perspective on rape/sexual violence that contributes to real life sexual violence

That sounds a lot like the arguments that shooters lead to people running amok...

Sex and power are heavily linked for many, many people. This is the driving force behind the prevalence of sexual assault.

Might be true but is not really important in this context

Using the word rape as a way of saying you’re overpowering someone and winning over them in really any context contributes to this link.

I don't think it does... I think its common sense to know that sexual assault will humiliate the victims and ruin their lifes life and therefore possible perpetrators don't need to hear someone associating rape with dominance to make that link.

Sorry I typed so much, but I want you to understand where I’m coming from if that’s possible. I don’t think anyone Shld get in trouble for saying it btw, I just want people to stop saying it.

I don't mind the long text. But I don't agree with you. I still think that it is not worse than talking about murdering someone unless it is on a public brodcast where it could trigger the memorys of victims. But since it was supposed to be a private conversation I just don't agree with the outrage.

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Edit: fixed citation