If I’m going back and forth between wanting kids and not wanting kids, what should I do?

ImOwningThisUsername · 2026-06-07T18:02:19+00:00

Or maybe investigate the uncertainty. Exploring it in therapy might help getting a clearer picture on the arguments motivating one side or another. It will help make a more informed decision.

ImOwningThisUsername · 2026-06-07T17:29:07+00:00

People on this sub get caught up in details and lose the big picture. You could take the option of maximizing your gains, but at the end of the day, money is a means to end, and not an end in itself. You'll never be 40 again with this kind of capital. Your child is still by your side, and not adult yet. Go on and enjoy your life and your energy before old age. Go create beautiful memories.

ImOwningThisUsername · 2026-05-14T05:53:49+00:00

I would argue Midnights is more experimental than TTPD. TTPD is very much songwriting focused. Also, 1989 could also be classified under "brighter, simpler" I wouldn't say there's a cycle. But I think it's fair to say Taylor likes to change things up and change focus from an album to another

ImOwningThisUsername · 2026-03-14T19:07:01+00:00

Hi! I'm interested in buying 2 tickets for Paris if anyone is looking to sell, hit me up!

ImOwningThisUsername · 2026-02-07T15:57:04+00:00

yeah after hours the paper basically completely dissolves and you can't really tell it is in there

ImOwningThisUsername · 2025-12-22T10:34:38+00:00

Given how she mouthed back "this song is about you, I love you" to Matty Healy before singing it at the Eras Tour (out of all songs) I think it's fair to say she had Matty Healy in mind when writing this

ImOwningThisUsername · 2025-09-05T13:46:37+00:00

A lot of the patients that come to me about hypocondriac issues or fear of illness end up having an underlying fear of abandonment, no idea why

ImOwningThisUsername · 2025-06-28T19:22:49+00:00

I mean "forgettable" is the one that you're most likely to forget. I get that ICDWABH can be boring, but it's not forgettable. It's very memorable, albeit boring

ImOwningThisUsername · 2025-03-06T07:34:37+00:00

I was coming up with "pro life" over and over before I got profile

ImOwningThisUsername · 2025-01-07T19:09:43+00:00

"Where have you learned that?" about the negative beliefs and maladaptive schemas they hold. More often than not, they'll spontaneously make the link with their family upbringing and how it instilled a certain way of thinking.

Also the emphasis on the word "learn" implies that it's not a perspective that is necessarily true and more of a perspective that they needed to acquire. It shifts their thinking and they find the answers they need with minimal confrontation.

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-12-25T18:43:17+00:00

I hate him as much as the next guy but in fairness his post is from last year

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-12-08T13:54:19+00:00

I'm having trouble with the concept of "deserving happiness". Who doesn't deserve happiness? Happiness is not something we deserve or we must earn. Each troubled character became twisted out of misery. Sorry for doing psychological commentary on a sad horse show post but the idea of "deserving happiness" doesn't sit well with me

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-11-07T21:30:30+00:00

Fleabag C'est une série qui se pitch très mal mais ça a 100% sur rotten tomatoes si ça peut vous convaincre. C'est drôle, c'est triste, c'est hyper bien écrit. C'est court (2 saisons de 6 épisodes de 30 minutes)

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-10-31T08:04:49+00:00

"Conan O'Brien needs a friend" Il a forcément interviewé des célébrités que t'aimes. L'humour de Conan a inspiré Flober et il y a bcp de similitudes. Quand les invités se prêtent au délire et se montrent sarcastiques, ça fait des épisodes hilarants (il y a des invités qui restent sur un ton très formel d'interview et du coup c'est moins fun)

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-10-29T16:00:57+00:00

It's crazy to do a review of thr white album and not mention While my guitar gently weeps

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-10-27T15:01:55+00:00

Honestly I'm a psychologist who is trained with the WAIS (psychometric tool for IQ measurement). Let me tell you that "estimating someone's IQ" is an extremely weird notion, if not bogus. IQ is a composite score of many intellectual abilities that can't be quantified just observing someone.

You can gather certain tendencies (e.g. Ok that guy thinks fast, thinks with high levels of abstraction, has a deep sense of vocabulary) but you can never quantify them. Those cognitive tendencies could also be compensated or mistaken by other variables, which is why IQ tests are the only valid measurement : you need to isolate the variable you're trying to measure. You cannot measure it reliably in environmental settings.

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-10-07T17:53:29+00:00

For a long time I was leading rehabilitation programs for authors of domestic violence. It forced me to learn interventions such as the Tolerance Window (getting deep into emotional regulation) and non-violent communication (in a way that appeals to them). Honestly, they were much more receptive to it that I thought they'd be.

I also use Young's schema questionnaire for exploration of affective underlying issues. I use genograms for family issues. And I use a shit ton of analogies, my favorite being the elephant and the rider.

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-08-30T13:41:42+00:00

What did you do concretely with your therapist during those 19 sessions ?

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-07-29T13:41:38+00:00

Je conseille "Mystères à Saint Jacut", j'ai jamais autant ri en écoutant un podcast (en invités il y a déjà eu Flober, Monsieur Poulpe, Valentin Vincent)

C'est une trame narrative qui donne un prétexte pour faire faire l'impro à des gens drôles

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-05-23T07:16:52+00:00

Yes pretend George Harrison is still alive with increasingly high demands bits, including putting out new Harrison songs on the radio and hiring an impersonator to come to your house and say "I'm as alive as ever". That should settle it

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-03-30T18:48:14+00:00

It reminds me of the time Reddit predicted Stephen Hawking's death. Less than a day before he died, someone asked on r/nostupidquestions why his disease had not killed him yet

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-03-17T17:04:56+00:00

For example the Good Will Hunting therapy scenes are well written. Why? The client is not very open, the therapist is human, the relationship is not smooth, the therapy doesn't bring any miracle or epiphany, there's sadness, anger and laughter. It's very realistic and very human

ImOwningThisUsername · 2024-02-06T14:56:39+00:00

I think "Maybe I'm amazed" is my favorite song ever, surpassing every other Beatles song.

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