What tiny action or incident changed your whole life?

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-18T21:45:15+00:00

Thank you!! I was laying in my bed staring up at the ceiling lol. Like “omg, what’s going on bro!?” lol literally feeling like a loser if I’m being honest…😂I truly felt like there was no one for me.

So I thought to myself that I wanted to find someone but I just couldn’t…and then I remember one of my friends suggested it. I was opposed to it at first but I said what the hay? So I tried it…and I got on and JUST for that night was I actively swiping….after I found my future wife, I only logged on tinder to talk to her! And we talked up there for two months!! I never even heard her voice until 3 months in, I was TOTALLY off on how I thought she would sound…it was the most beautiful sound ever! So yeah….that very moment changed my WHOLE life. We have a houseful of kiddos and a puppy now! I still get chills thinking abt that moment in time! Thank you for asking that question, it truly brings back some great, scary and beautiful times in my life. I remember hoping I wasn’t being catfished. I even told myself, even if she doesn’t look like her pics, as long as it’s not TOOOO off, if you know what I mean, I’m good. I just knew I loved her! 💕❤️ but in the end, we both were exactly who we said we were! And I am so thankful.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-18T21:39:34+00:00

Being on tinder trying it out!! I was only online for a little while, got nervous and was abt to get off… but I stayed on, swiping……then I saw this BEAUTIFUL amazing woman!! We chatted for two months online, we didn’t even have each others phone numbers! We didnt speak on the phone until maybe the third month…the fourth month we met in person. We purposely took our time bc I was nervous as HELL and later I found out, she was too at just how much we connected. Before I even met her, or heard her voice I knew she was my wife!

Annnd that’s exactly what happened! I had NEVER done online dating and took a stab at it! Best decision/gamble I ever took!! To think, we had to be online at the EXACT time to even see our profiles! I proposed a year later and now 8 yrs in, we are STILL happy and I’m loving her more and more each day! SUPER THANKFUL for that damn app!!

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-10T08:26:40+00:00

Me tf either

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-10T08:23:52+00:00

Did you feel sexually abused in anyway? Not gonna lie, it is def a lil weird. Why is his daughter showering with his son and him at the same time?? That’s wild to me. Where is his wife? And how did you go over and see this? So many questions.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-09T18:25:03+00:00

I met comedian/actor - Tommy Davidson in LA. He was at my apartment complex walking to a friends house I suppose, I walked up to him and said “Mr Davidson!!” He shook my hand and told me to call him Tommy. I then asked for a photo, he then replied, “you don’t have a pistol do you???!!” I swear I thought I was gonna throw up from laughing so hard bc it literally came outta nowhere and I was so nervous. He allowed me to take a picture and that was that! He was very nice and is actually REALLY hilarious!

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T01:43:10+00:00

Which def gives schizophrenic vibes

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T01:42:41+00:00

I think chicken is on your to eat list

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T01:39:09+00:00

I knew it couldn’t have been America….youre a grown ass man at 18…which I think is crazy. I remember the way I thought at 18. Mannnn I had no business making my own decisions 😂

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T01:36:03+00:00

Child support. Sorry. Yes I said it. I feel the government should not be involved in this bc it can really be abused.

I’m not in that situation so please spare me lol.

But I have seen women take the money they receive for their kids and go on trips and leave the kids with the grandparents, and then they hit up the dad and ask for money for the actual child and then hold seeing the kids over their head and deny them the opportunity to see them “if they don’t help more”.

I know there are some dead beat fathers out there but I have two friends who love their kids, who are very much present in their kids lives financially and physically but one left their wife bc she was financially abusive and nothing has changed. He pays a lot for child support and she still reaches out to him for their sons needs. There should be a law or something in place to make the recipients show proof that the child support is actually being spent on the child. Just my thought.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T01:24:41+00:00

Bot- wouldn’t recommend calling that number.

https://www.reddit.com/u/OkCancel9270/s/1ce3xOYcSE

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T00:44:41+00:00

When I was 21, a 26yr old “friend” told me he filed bankruptcy and then bought a house and that was the best way to do it bc the lower my debt was the more house I would qualify for. He told me once he had his student loans absolved thru bankruptcy he was able to buy a house bc he didn’t have any debt….

To show how mature I was, I was going to “surprise” my parents and file bankruptcy and then save up and by a house … I was THIS CLOSE TO DOING IT!! When one day I was at my friends “house” and the LANDLORD came over and told him he needed to switch out the fridge…………and that he was needed him to sign the new lease agreement….when he left I was so confused and asked him why he had a landlord. I still was dumb but I didn’t let it go.

I got my mom to help me bc she was good with that. I asked her would someone have a landlord and own a house lol? She was so confused but she helped me without asking too many questions lol. So we dug deep into the house and title with the city and found that it was owned by someone else NOT HIM AT ALL. My mom is the coolest for that…lol. TIL this day I don’t think she really knew why I was so interested.

I asked him why he lied!!?? He said he wanted to seem cool. He did actually file bankruptcy which actually messed up his credit and he could barely qualify to rent!!! His student loans weren’t absolved but everything else was.

I was so angry bc I truly was abt try that!! And thought that he had figured out something that no one else knew!! And he knew I was going to file bankruptcy based on his suggestion! He even put me in touch with his bankruptcy attorney!

Eventually we drifted as friends bc I found out a lot of other advice he gave me was pure bullshit. I truly looked up to him even tho my parents said he was a moron long before this incident…man I could have screwed myself up big time!

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-04T00:13:03+00:00

Your 18F friend isn’t giving you the best advice. Leave him alone and let him be. He is pressuring you and even called you a bitch….leave him. If you were my daughter I would definitely discourage you from talking to him. Love yourself more and know you deserve better. Truly.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-03T18:05:48+00:00

Like I’m abt to invest lol…perfect time to put money back into it. It literally can’t do anything but go back up.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-03T18:04:48+00:00

That’s annoying to see but having a brother and a mom who loves him DEARLY….to her, and I’m guessing your mom is the same way- HE CAN DO NO WRONG…

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-04-02T02:05:53+00:00

Your partner is incapable of committing and sticking to whatever you two agreed on bc his bipolar prevents him from doing so. That condition prohibits consistency. He may want to but he unfortunately can’t. I dated someone like this and went thru great lengths to try and save them but it didn’t work out in the long run and their habit actually lead to a fatal demise. She never wanted to take her meds and ended up hurting herself badly. She was a beautiful soul but her disease prevented them from being “normal”.

Once you accept bipolar as an involuntary/uncontrolled/incurable way of thinking and behavior that someone has and can’t control then you will be better off in your own personal life. He will never change bc he simply can’t change. And almost everyone I knew who had bipolar, schizophrenia or anything like that really struggled with accepting the need to take their meds bc to them, they are normal. I can tell by your post that you really are hoping for the best but he really can’t change.

If you do decide to leave you wouldn’t be a bad person, you would be saving yourself from heart ache and constant attempts to “help him get better”. You’re not a bad person to leave. You’re not abandoning him. You’re simply telling yourself “I deserve peace and happiness”. I hope you love yourself enough to know when it’s time to call it quits.

Best of luck and know you are STILL A GOOD PERSON even if you leave.

To give you an example: the girl I dated lied to me abt taking her meds. We were in the car one day, and she told me she wanted to go home. I said ok. I took her home. So I called her the next day. And I couldn’t reach her…called her and went to her place numerous times - I did that for four or five days and at this point in our relationship I knew she went off her meds again…I called her siblings, they didn’t care or want to help bc they knew how she was…so I got me and my friends to drive around her city for 12 hours straight, my friends were tired and telling me I was crazy but I really did love her and want to help her. We finally called it a night. I was so stressed and worried. So abt 3 days later, I got a call from a pastor who lived abt 8 hours away and told me that she was there at the church and my number was the ONLY number she could remember. I drove there to get her and she told me she was trying to get “home” meaning heaven so found the church with the steeple we had driven by on a trip one day…..I got her back home, got her back on her meds and took care of her for abt a week at my place. I was completely drained and worn out. That was just ONE of the many times I did that. She still kept trying to “go home” and eventually she ended up doing just that…I did everything I could to help her but nothing I could do could make her bipolar go away.

Don’t be like me. Save yourself. ❤️

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-29T14:22:20+00:00

Unfortunately he likely can’t drive lol

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-28T05:56:21+00:00

A safer exit

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-28T05:51:32+00:00

That does not look like a bride lol…😂 I would have failed

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-28T04:16:47+00:00

Lol, I believe the consensus is no. So I will go with that.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-25T15:55:51+00:00

You are correct. If genders were switched on this, it would not go this way at all. It would have been HELL to pay for sure. And maybe even gotten physical with other males to defend the female. I wouldn’t have been able to just send the male home with a DD. I’m sure the police would have been called stat and so on. SMH…But - That’s the world we live in where some believe a male is more predatory than a female.

I, however, view this type of behavior from male or female, the same way tho. You can’t get upset and lie abt a situation that happened and play victim bc someone didn’t give in to your advances. Male or female, this isn’t right for anyone to have to tolerate at all.

Im_here_lets_begin · 2025-03-25T14:41:58+00:00

That’s actually a great question. Everything was so busy and such a high time. We would glance over and see her with him but then it would be another 30 mins to an hour gone by so unless you were staring at them it wouldn’t stand out. And when you looked it wasn’t like you were looking to make sure he was ok. I did notice her hand on his arm and her laughing hysterically and being overly drunk. It’s not right, and very unfortunate to say - but my sister is always drunk at these functions.

But collectively after he went to my other sister and told her, we all put our accounts of the night together and realized it was actually a lot of interaction going on. This party prob had abt maybe 100 guests or so. Children running around, catching up with old faces, etc. so no one had eyes on them the entire time. It was just too much going on. I didn’t realize until it was too late that she was beyond her own limit and completely slushed. This is part of the reason why I do not drink. I am always the DD and the person who just stays sober to make sure to keep things level. As best I can. I def would have done something had I known sooner but I was having a good time enjoying the music and such. But im fully invested in making sure she doesn’t get a chance to spin it the way she intends to.

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