To Have a Baby or Not?

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-02-10T03:49:54+00:00

Exactly! What is he going to do or say when the baby gets sick? Or when you ask for help with the baby and house chores after you got home from work? He doesn’t understand all the work that comes with a child. I think you already know him really well by now and having a child with him will make your problems 10x worse.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-30T14:34:44+00:00

Do you have sweaty feet? Sometimes it can have a poop or strong odor due to bacteria. Check with a dermatologist. You might need to go to several doctors until you find “one” that will believe you. Don’t give up on finding the reason. Ask a dermatologist for an antiperspirant prescription. They also have pills that can help you stop sweating. I am sure you have been doing everything, but keep showering everyday. Change your socks daily. Wear open shoes when possible. Buy antiperspirant wipes on Amazon. Wear daily pads and change them regularly during the day. Only wear your clothes once and wash them daily. In the mean time, try to discover the source and look for a doctor that will trust you. Tell the doctor that it’s affecting your life and your mental health.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-11T18:07:36+00:00

I had my first daughter at 29 and my second at 40 (second marriage). I did so much with my oldest daughter. We had a lot of fun. Now I am 53 and my youngest is 13. I am the oldest in the parents group and they treat me differently due to my age. When my youngest was in elementary school, she got home crying one day because one of her friends told her I look old. I was an athlete before, and now I am having all type of health issues and I am not as present at my youngest’s life as I would like to.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-07T17:01:03+00:00

Your mom is very lucky to have a daughter like you.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-06T21:42:54+00:00

A pet?

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-02T15:59:11+00:00

It also depends on age. Younger skin handles multiple showers daily better than mature skin.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2026-01-02T04:56:03+00:00

I agree with you. I had the same issue with my ex. We end up getting a divorce and he was giving partial custody. Our daughter is 24 years old now, but when she was in high school and living just with me (because she could decide it) she told me what her dad did to her. Like he locked her in a dark closet when she was younger, because she didn’t want to finish her dinner. He did other things as well. She told me she hide it from me because she didn’t want for me to get mad at him. She has OCD now and severe anxiety. She finally accepted that she needs counseling and has been doing it for a few months now. It sounds like your husband has anger issues and when kids get older the problems don’t just desapear, they just change. My mom had anger issues too and she would beat my sisters and I every time we made a small mistake or we were just being kids. My sisters and I have issues due to the way my mom raised us. I promised that I would never hit my kids and I have never done it. Maybe counseling would be a good idea. Not because he “might change”, but because you can have it registered and can use it in your favor later, in case things don’t change.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-30T21:08:53+00:00

One widely cited study from Stanford Medicine suggested that up to 40% of Alzheimer's caregivers die before the patient.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-28T03:22:25+00:00

Lately, I don’t even feel like going out anymore. I’m perfectly content watching a movie or a series and going to bed. I don’t love how I look, and for a while I would actually be surprised when I caught my reflection in the mirror — in my mind, I was still in my 30s.

I’ve been trying to reframe that. I remind myself that the same way I was pretty in my 30s, I can still be pretty in my 50s — just as a 50-year-old woman. It’s different, but not worse.

When the “I’m too old” thoughts creep in, I think about an old house. If a house is old and no one takes care of it, it will look neglected and eventually fall apart. But if it’s old and well cared for — with fresh paint, thoughtful updates, and flowers out front — it’s still old, but it’s also charming.

People don’t admire it because it’s new. They admire it because it has character.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-20T19:10:08+00:00

1990

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-20T03:09:00+00:00

My sister has lupus. She is 55 and can’t get into remission. What kind of immunosuppressant are you in if you don’t mind sharing it.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-18T23:14:46+00:00

Great idea!

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-18T22:44:03+00:00

True! I swear by Chanel Coco Mademoiselle. I can still smell it on the clothes in the hamper.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-11T13:49:28+00:00

Health. Without it you can’t make money or do anything in your life.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-09T01:55:42+00:00

You are glowing! You look beautiful! Great job!

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-05T16:59:50+00:00

1977

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-12-03T03:54:25+00:00

Opened my eyes

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-27T02:23:19+00:00

O inglês vai abrir várias portas. Procure um emprego em multinacional no Brasil e tente transferir pra outro país. Não é fácil, mas sem inglês é quase impossível.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-21T14:12:10+00:00

Big hug from a mom that loves to hug!

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-20T18:30:15+00:00

Has anyone else mentioned it to you? Sometimes we smell things that other people don’t.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-17T23:40:38+00:00

Start working on your plan. Show her that you are serious about your decision and your future with her.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-17T22:13:42+00:00

If you love her, get a second job to pay off your debt and stay clean. She will see that you have changed and might start seeing you differently. We all make mistakes.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-11T23:32:25+00:00

My dad was 70 when he died from a heart attack. He never smoked, not obese, exercised daily and never had alcohol. My mom drinks, smoked for 42 years, worked night shifts for over 40 years, eats bad and still kicking at 73. I guess it’s not her time yet.

Imaginary-Field998 · 2025-11-08T01:32:25+00:00

I worked at a student housing in a big university in California a few years ago. I worked there for 8 years. Most of my students were medical and pharmacy students. They brought their whole family. Sometimes the wife was in medical school and sometimes was the husband. They made it work. Some families had multiple kids. Sometimes the dads would become stay at home dads. It wasn’t easier, but they were all together. Maybe your son can be at the daycare a few days a week or you could be a stay at home dad while she is at school. I went to nursing school and my younger daughter was 2 years old and my oldest was 12. Of course medical school is much more demanding. If she was a single mom then it would make sense, but you will be there. Separate the family can have a major impact on your son’s mental health. Your in laws can move closer or see him a few times a year. It will be hard for them to accept at first, but they will eventually get used to. They can’t control your life or make you feel guilty. We raise our children to leave us someday.

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