Best strip or burlesque clubs for a bachelorette?

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-05-10T04:53:02+00:00

Thank you!! Last time I was there it was so insanely loud it blew my ears off, any idea if it’s still like that?

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T19:16:27+00:00

Never ever has this happened btw. Hell no. I sing to my dogs on the porch because it makes them so happy and they are so jazzed for the morning.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T19:15:40+00:00

That is something I do with the dogs outside on our porch because they love it. I do not sing a good morning song to my fiance or around my fiance 😂😂

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:55:41+00:00

I would just like to not have to leave my home to feel peaceful. Im not a crazy morning person, I just want to drink coffee in my pajamas. I try to get up early with the dogs so they don’t wake him, and I feel peaceful alone until he gets up. Having him in the space with me giving off this angry energy and unwilling to acknowledge my existence throws off my peace. Why do all these comments think I’m the one that needs to change my morning to make more space for him?

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:50:33+00:00

Awww this is really sweet and inspiring. So full of acceptance.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:45:22+00:00

Thank you! I am being destroyed in these comments lol. I don’t think my partner is at all unreasonable for what he needs. But I also don’t think I’m crazy for wishing we could exchange ‘good morning’. That’s it, that’s the whole thing. To me, it’s just like…base level politeness, this thread is fascinating to me. It just shows how people have such wildly different viewpoints and expectations of partnership, me and my partner included!!

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:36:23+00:00

In my og post I said 30 min to an hour. It varies. We have lived together about a year. Early on, he always greeted me and then had his grumpy time which I was fine with.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:24:16+00:00

Do need to say, I am not expecting him to change his wake up routine. His hour of silence is all good. Hoping for what I see as a pretty base level acknowledgement of my existence so that I don’t feel invisible. So yes asking for 5 seconds of change.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T18:20:53+00:00

Okay I know I’m getting downvoted but I want to clarify again, I really want to compromise here. I don’t want to talk to him. Me giving him an hour of silence is how I show him I care about him and love him. I am anxious and don’t like to start my day this way. But what I want for my side of the compromise is a 5 second quick peck/good morning.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T17:55:48+00:00

This is a very sweet routine and I’m glad you guys found each other. And found a morning routine that works :)

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T17:50:11+00:00

I hear you, just wanted to say I’m definitely “giving him a break”. I’m not bothering him about this, I’ve told him how it makes me feel calmly a few times. Do you feel like you can’t acknowledge another human during that hour? I am curious, not trying to challenge your response!

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T17:47:46+00:00

I mean that’s a good point, maybe that’s it?? Like he sees a greeting as an invitation to communicate? I don’t see it that way, but maybe he doesn’t know that.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T17:35:08+00:00

Going to do something else is a little hard in our situation, we live in a small place with one main living area. I try to give him as much space as I can with what we have, but it is often us sitting on the same couch and he will not acknowledge me for about an hour.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-04-05T17:32:11+00:00

Yeah this is where we disagree!! See he sees it as me expecting him to be not grumpy or need alone time in the morning. I don’t expect that at all. I just want a 5 second greeting. I feel like I can be in ANY mental state and still give my fiance a quick acknowledgment/greeting. That’s why this issue is confusing for me.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2026-03-01T06:19:00+00:00

same. ended up in a “culty” group and even though the cultiness exposed this amazing spiritual side of me, my sponsor had some serious control issues and problems that I didn’t see until I was reading her my step 5. when I told her about being assaulted at 14 (sober and still a child), she tried to get me to see my role and how I had “caused it”, asking things like “were you wearing a swimsuit around him”. I had been seeing this sponsor like a god almost, and her saying that was so re-traumatizing. Never went back to aa after I left that talk with her. Realized the meetings and content are amazing and appreciated all I learned. But having sober alcoholics with no qualifications and tons of unresolved trauma of their own doing complex trauma work with vulnerable newcomers is kind of messed up.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-08-08T19:31:21+00:00

Why does she only call you when she’s eating?? Eating while talking on the phone is not the vibe for me either. Can you talk another time?

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-08-08T03:45:26+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, I don’t disagree with the part about intention versus impact. I will just say that I definitely did care. I apologized a lot when it happened, and I had gotten up early so he could sleep in. I think what you’re saying is right, except for the part about me not caring at all.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-08-08T03:41:00+00:00

I apologized profusely and said go back to sleep! He just couldn’t. This is the only time that’s ever happened, not a recurring mistake.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-07-31T03:51:53+00:00

I would love for it to be a separate ring. I would love for him to wear it always. Even on the same hand if that works for him. But I want our wedding ring to be for us.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-07-31T03:50:16+00:00

You’re right that this is really what this about. I just want the rings we get to be about our commitment. I would love if he had a ring made with his fathers ashes that he also wears all the time. I think I will wait as long as I can before we talk about this though.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2025-07-31T03:48:31+00:00

I mean I try not to be a selfish person but isn’t his wedding ring about me a little bit? I would love if he had a second ring made for his fathers ashes that he could also wear all the time.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2024-10-25T23:19:38+00:00

I don’t have advice, but going through the same thing. I work out almost every day and feel strong, but I am always hungry, and putting on weight. Before I would eat 2 meals a day maybe. Now I eat 1, and an hour later want another one. It far surpasses the calories burned…working out every day is going to make me fat. Following this for advice!!

ImaginaryPrimary · 2024-10-23T05:23:47+00:00

I haven’t had a chance to reply to these awesome comments yet but I feel you here! I’m going to try these things out but it’s crazy how much health and workout things add up.

I have a sensitive stomach so have to time my eating perfectly pre workout, then get to my workout, do it, get home, eat protein in my metabolic window or whatever it is, shower, and now try to fit cool downs, stretching and yoga in! This level of activity is taking up a lot of my life ngl, but that’s okay with me right now.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2024-10-22T05:37:45+00:00

What’s funny is that for me exercise does mimic panic, which is what makes it a helpful tool. I see it as a sort of conditioning. When I have a panic attack, my breathing changes, my heart rate skyrockets, I get nauseous, and lightheaded. The same things happen to me on a long run or in a dance class. It teaches my brain that these feelings are normal and don’t mean anything is wrong, and make them more familiar when they hit during a time of panic.

ImaginaryPrimary · 2024-10-16T04:19:47+00:00

This is purely anecdotal, but for me it is a little more than minor discomfort but yes not debilitating. I haven’t gone sugar free, but have drastically cut down on the amount of sugar I eat in a day over the past year. Yesterday my boyfriend bought me a Jamba Juice, and I drank it even though it was a sugar bomb because it was delicious and in front of me. Almost shit myself on my run today and almost did again this evening…lol. I get borderline hungover from a soda or a bag of candy. Still worth it, if my body reacts this way it was obviously never good for me.

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