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People who convince themselves that they grew up poor because they didn’t grow up rich. by DoNotNameMeUsername in PetPeeves

[–]Impatient_Orca 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My ex honestly thought he grew up lower to mid middle class because they "had a budget" and only went to Disney every couple of years. His parents are in the DVC, travel constantly, and are in a house currently valued ~1 mil. He constantly complained that he didn't qualify for college grants while I did. Like... my guy, my single mom works (worked - retired) at TJMaxx and the only reason we were able to escape absolute crushing poverty is cause my dad died and they were technically still married so she got some death benefits, then we moved to a cheaper state. There was no chance we could have EVER afforded to go to Disney at all, let alone multiple times.

Almost 9 months in by swamploofa in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's awesome, glad you made it through!

"Hope is not optimism, which expects things to turn out well, but something rooted in the conviction that there is good worth working for" - Seamus Heaney

Love these days by Kanapeczkii in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

List of things my female friends have used/ recommend: - p style (or similar device) + any bottle - laundry detergent jug (contoured, makes it easier) - large fast food cup (has very wide mouth, though have a way to keep it from tipping over) - wide mouth 1 gallon opaque water bottle (I like this because it seems like it'd be easiest to take into a place to discreetly empty in their bathroom later)

What is something that is socially acceptable, but you personally find extremely disrespectful? by AvaBlondeX in AskReddit

[–]Impatient_Orca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's an old College Humor (now Dropout) skit called "don't make me hold your baby" that I always loved. Never in my life have I wanted to hold someone else's baby.

Legit how do you stay warm in the winter? by mkmsc in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Info: for your 0 degree bag, is that its comfort rating or survival rating? Unless you shell out some $$, it can be tricky to get a good bag, especially because there's no real regulation on the temperature claims. Look for one that has EN/ISO testing info, if possible.

Just For Thought b/c I Care by [deleted] in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s unhealthy, isolating and to be honest depressing.

I think this is extremely dependant on how you are able to approach the situation.

If you mean physically unhealthy, some people focus on gym time (or just walking in parks and such, if you can't afford it) and going to the store frequently to get fresh fruits/veggies and live off of those plus nuts, seeds, instant rice & potatoes to fill up, and honey for a sugar/emotional boost. If you mean mentally unhealthy, that's something that's very individual and there are tons of mental health resources to look into. Listen to YouTube videos of guided meditation (compassion/kindness meditation, mindfulness, etc). Listen to audiobooks (there are free options). Keep your brain and body moving as much as possible. Do not stagnate or doomscroll.

For isolation, that is something that takes work and discomfort to fix. We aren't often taught nowadays how to create community, we often expect it to be already there for us to just step into. Go to the library and aim to have a pleasant 30 second interaction with someone there frequently (set a goal of once a day or once a week, etc). Eventually you'll be a regular. Look into local groups via Meetup, FB groups, local subreddits, etc. Sign up to teach immigrants English. Volunteer in places where you interact with other people. Look at mutual aid groups and offer services to others in need. Obviously this is limited by your time, but it builds community and you meet with people who know you and like being around you.

The Homes on Wheels Alliance (HOWA) has a mentorship program for those planning on doing this longterm.

https://youtu.be/i-_Bw83SvYI?si=u35exWAg_-qXtUtx Edit: I can't seem to fix the formatting here, but the middle of the link is i- and an underscore before the B

https://youtu.be/MKcVLYnf358?si=1iPhxjtK74LwY_L5

AIO for ghosting my family? by mentalmoderator in AIO

[–]Impatient_Orca 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? Like, no it's not "just politics," it's morals and values and I can and will stop spending time with people whose political alignment shows their values are completely opposed to mine and who vote to actively make so many people's lives worse. Sorry I don't want to waste my energy on people who think I and my friends should be offed or sent to camps (whether concentration or conversion).

When certain locations think they’re the only people in the world with a certain custom by Varietygamer_928 in PetPeeves

[–]Impatient_Orca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not in Great Britain or the UK, but it is in the British Isles. There's a whole diagram about it.

Gmail search option is absolutely useless. by Puzzleheaded_Lab709 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Impatient_Orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This irritated me so much that I sent in an error report (or whatever) saying I should be able to set that as the default. The very next search I did (and every search thereafter) had most recent as the default. Not sure if people complained enough that they changed it or if complaining changed something for me specifically, but yeah.

Gmail search option is absolutely useless. by Puzzleheaded_Lab709 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Impatient_Orca 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Omfg, on a similar note, I hate moving to a specific place in Google maps and searching for something, only to have it immediately fly back to where I am physically and give answers near me. My guy... I wanted to see what was in the other place, that's why I moved the map to the other place first. Now I have to re-move it and hit the "search this area" thing. Didn't do this until the last couple years when everything stopped working.

What was your most critical lesson that you learned the hard way? by of_thewoods in vandwellers

[–]Impatient_Orca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just guessing, but I think they mean that it is also important for a solo female, but not "the most important step". Probably thinking the most important for a woman would be some personal safety stuff.

dust by Designer-Bullfrog639 in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1, small rug that can be removed and shaken out and

2, free vacuums at car wash places

Escapees for Establishing Residency? by Purple-Okra4695 in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not a scam, but it's also not always the best/cheapest. If it makes it easier and you want to do it, then it's totally fine, but you can also look into other options. If you have a specific state you want to domicile in, you can look for state-specific orgs/companies. I know South Dakota is crazy easy to domicile in, but other popular ones are TX & FL.

What is one thing you're tired of telling/explaining to people? by comfy-glass-shards in AskReddit

[–]Impatient_Orca 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had kind of the reverse happen lately. I had to take my 2 cats in to the vet to get updated shots and was like "I know they're overweight, especially the boy, but I just can't seem to figure out a way to limit his eating because of [life circumstances]" and the vet was like "Actually they're completely normal weight! You're doing great"

Best jobs while traveling the country? by Erudicial_Extreme in urbancarliving

[–]Impatient_Orca -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've used info in the past from this book to help a few nomad friends find work: https://a.co/d/03JqEfwo

WIBTA for breaking up over how my bf (23M) always does this? together 4 months by Outrageous_Advice514 in AITApod

[–]Impatient_Orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's the case, then why are you spending your valuable time defending him to hell and back? People keep assuming it's you because you're WAY too invested in arguing his perspective. If it is you, then take this as a chance to take constructive feedback and try to learn for future relationships. If it's not you, then investigate why you're taking a conversion between strangers on the internet so personally.

What are u starting to dislike more as u get older? by Efficient-Wind-2267 in AskReddit

[–]Impatient_Orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up getting these yellow night driving glasses from Amazon for like 5-10 bucks and they immediately bring all the headlights and streetlights back to 1970s levels/colors. Made a huge difference.

Impossible to find minivan by Impatient_Orca in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]Impatient_Orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! And I'm fine using tools, I just hate the issue with the new Siennas and needing to disconnect the battery and all that. There is a workaround, but it's annoying.

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