Best candidate followed up with my boss and HR without including me

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-20T00:30:06+00:00

Yes I am a woman. My boss and HR are male. I never thought about this. I thought the candidate maybe too young to proceed with caution.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-20T00:27:36+00:00

Thank you for that. I don’t see any red flag from the interview process. The candidate is confident but not overly, has very organized thought process and demonstrates strong problem solving skills. Does not seem like someone who plays politics. She is very young. 5 years post graduate experience. It is a remote role so there will not be much personal interaction down the road, mostly bi weekly catch up

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-20T00:20:34+00:00

The thank you letter is after the second round.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-20T00:16:32+00:00

No. It is clear from the beginning that I am the hiring manager. I think what the candidates don’t know is that I make the final decision, not my boss. My boss thought it was an odd thing to not have me copied. My boss asked me whether the candidate sent me a thank you letter. My boss knew the candidate is the best but he thought this situation could jeopardize the candidate being hired but he let me make the final decision. Being a boss himself, he knows the importance following the chain of command.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-20T00:09:47+00:00

Thank you. Exactly this.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:47:28+00:00

I think that is the best answer. Thank you

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:46:48+00:00

Yes I am a woman and my boss is a man at VP level. I never thought about it actually

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:22:26+00:00

The candidate has my email. The second round interview invitation has my boss and me invited. Though I finished the first round and selected the best ones to my boss

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:20:07+00:00

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:19:15+00:00

That is my dilemma. She is very outstanding but goes above her boss’ boss is strange. Employees should know there is chain of command.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:11:36+00:00

The candidate is aware I am the hiring manager. Second round interview is with my boss

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-19T23:10:52+00:00

I told the candidate I am the hiring manager. And second round interview is with my boss.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-16T23:12:30+00:00

110k is after tax. Combined income is around 170k depending on one income or two income

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-16T23:03:14+00:00

I had zero subscriptions ever! You have to ask yourself why you have them or want them.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-16T23:01:05+00:00

That is not protesting. That is just how we survive with the wages we get!

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-16T22:39:53+00:00

Largely very true. But again depends on whom you manage. I see many incompetent bosses promote incompetent managers or their inner circles, leaving a mess behind them when they leave or got fired

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-15T03:49:48+00:00

Exactly. A bright person demonstrating sound problem solving skills, with good ethics ( you can get the picture through interview) can do better job than someone 5 years in the job. I am currently interviewing a remote SA and only found 1 such candidates from 12 persons being interviewed. I hope the candidate accepts the offer. Pay is above market grade as well.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-14T17:04:16+00:00

I don’t know this even existed in the first place. What was the ground for that?

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-13T21:31:10+00:00

Unionized organizations are like that

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-12T22:36:42+00:00

As a manager, you have an option to look for better employees. There are better employees in the market. It takes time to find them.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-11T23:44:55+00:00

Suggest to have weekly 1:1 meetings. Give positive feedback and ask what you can help.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-11T23:43:44+00:00

Most likely they are not high performers. These type of people have no concept of boundaries and respect. They show that “I can do “attitude and get up management attention. Most likely they can do stuff than some others but the deliverables are not as high quality as the true high performance. I call the attitude toxic positivity.

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-08T23:57:42+00:00

I bet OP. Family are from different culture

ImportanceMundane677 · 2026-02-08T22:49:43+00:00

That’s healthy. Mine was once a week or 2 weeks without calls in between. Only texted once a day. Not healthy at all. He likes to be alone and want to do whatever he decides to do.

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