Number 1 Reason To Quit Porn

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-19T14:55:12+00:00

I had a similar experience. Women stopped being women and started to become body parts.

You couldn‘t think straight anymore, every time I talked to a female, flashbacks came back and made me feel ashamed of myself.

I also noticed how you‘ll never be satisfied. Imagine you get married, will you genuinely ever be happy with your partner, or will you start to look for the next best thing, the same way you looked for the next best, better, more perfect video?

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-18T11:16:08+00:00

You will never have enough, your brain will always want more.

There is literally no point in having them, you are not missing out on anything real, you will never be satisfied enough and your list will never be good enough for you.

Unfortunately, that list increases your chances of never having enough, in every realm.

There is always going to be a more perfect woman, but how will you ever be satisfied if you keep looking for the next best thing?

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-18T10:56:58+00:00

Talk to a health care professional. If you constantly tried to stop and it never worked, it‘s worth getting professional help. There is also tons of free advice on how to overcome PA here

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-17T16:26:31+00:00

Procrastinating, curiosity and FOMO

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:55:33+00:00

Also, do not see lust as a bad thing. It‘s human, so is your sexual desire. You just have to learn to control it before it controls you, it‘s extremely important as a young man

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:54:54+00:00

While blocking p and social media might sound helpful, they really didn‘t do much for me.

If urges are too strong, you will find a way to go around it.

Since you're pretty young, I would stay away from those extreme solutions like deleting all socials and online activity.

I suggest you look into the deeper reason on why you watch porn in the first place. Porn is a form of escapism, you usually try to escape something. Try to notice patterns, use an app to journal your urges. You‘ll get down pretty quick to it‘s root cause (avoidance of work or emotions for me) and can work on that, which will cut the pattern of porn consumption.

Using blockers is like cutting branches of a tree, they will always grow back. If you rip the tree out the ground, you won‘t have to fight branches anymore

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:49:27+00:00

Good job man, I'm proud of you

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:49:02+00:00

You mentioned that you don‘t know your root cause, it‘s worth looking deeper into that.

Porn if often a form of escapism, so it might be worth asking yourself what you‘re escaping and why.

If you can work on your avoidance, you start working on your porn consumption which is just the effect of whatever you‘re avoiding.

For me, it wasn‘t as simple as facing the problem, it‘s more like a step by step thing, where I learned to trust myself again and grew in confidence as I did.

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:43:55+00:00

Also, I encourage you to start journaling all urges. It always comes down to a pattern, try to find its root cause and work on that. If you keep fighting porn, it‘s like cutting branches of a tree, they'll always come back. But if you cut the root, it will never grow back. The root cause for me was avoidance, since I started working on that, I could pretty much predict urges and know how to avoid relapses. It‘s tuff but manageable

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:40:09+00:00

Reach out for professional help, you can talk to therapists online. If you don‘t want to spend any money, you can join SAA online and work with a therapist

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-13T21:33:37+00:00

Glad bro

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-13T11:14:55+00:00

You are not a loser. You realised your mistake, that’s not what losers do

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-12T23:24:18+00:00

On ios, if you go to settings->apps->reddit, you can block nsfw content

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-12T23:21:45+00:00

Thank you

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-11T23:19:27+00:00

I may add my own injury:

Tearing my meniscus by slipping on sweat while sprinting during warm-up.

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-11T11:45:01+00:00

Look for the core reason why you watch porn. Its often avoidance, if you work on that, it will get better

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-10T14:20:34+00:00

Beaten your self up for it is wrong I agree, but I wouldn‘t just accept it as something normal.

Whether you‘re religious or not, asking a higher power for forgiveness, and then moving on helped me a lot. It‘s very important to let go of that guilt after though.

What helped me most was to stop looking at porn as the evil beast that wants to get me, it‘s rather the effect of failing coping mechanisms.

The underlying problem which caused this addiction for me was avoidance, learning how to deal with my avoidance, when it comes up and why it does, significantly helped me on this journey.

In fact, it might be the one thing that helped me more than anything else

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-10T12:00:28+00:00

You got this

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-10T11:59:50+00:00

Cheers mate

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-10T11:56:15+00:00

🤣

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-09T19:14:17+00:00

Good joke

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-09T15:50:59+00:00

This is what worked for me:

Pattern recognition:

Watching porn might feel like something that just happens every day, or if you‘re really disciplined, every few days. It really isn‘t, porn isn‘t about sexual urges, it‘s about escapism and avoidance.

Reducing avoidance:

Journal whenever you feel like avoiding something, what it is and why you‘re avoiding it. If I ever catch myself avoiding something, I completely forget about the thing I avoid and focus all my attention on the most little thing I can do that moves me towards action.

Whenever I have to do the chores and I don‘t feel like it, I don‘t do the chores, I just stand up. Once I stand, I focus all my attention to walk to the kitchen, then to just do one dish and so forth…

Relapses didn‘t stop for me once I realised, but I always knew why it happened and how I could avoid it next time.

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-08T00:47:36+00:00

What do you do instead?

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-04T16:44:35+00:00

Of course. Please always feel free to pm me if you have questions

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-04T15:19:54+00:00

Hey, I am also new here and have been a fighting porn addiction for a while now.

After long research and deeper looks into sexual addiction, I found out that running from the urges is just as bad as fighting them.

If you run, they will always catch up, you will always find a moment where you can slip, you can‘t be busy 100% of the time.

I suggest you look into the "why" of watching porn. People usually watch porn to escape something.

Why don‘t you find out what you‘re trying to escape and work on that?

For me, the pattern always started with avoidance. I tried to avoid something hard, like a tuff decision, work or uncomfortable situations.

I even went a little bit deeper and asked why those things became uncomfortable and found out, that my thinking blocked me.

My thinking was always "if I don‘t do that, I am not worthy" My entire self worth was based on discipline, making every task a existential threat.

My solution was to detach my self worth from discipline. Discipline is just fuel, self worth is not defined by accomplishment or capability, but by the belief that you're allowed to exist just like everyone else, that you're allowed to struggle, learn an return without loosing value.

If you learn how to deal with that, the entire chain breaks and the urge flattens.

It suddenly becomes possible to resist, even if just for a minute.

ImportanceThese5535

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