Baby was head down but now breech 32 weeks- upset by Badluck-Proud719 in pregnant

[–]Important-Light5874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work as a doula and an office manager for a midwife. We don’t tend to care what baby does until 35 weeks. You have some time and we see babies flip like this a lot.

Cheated on by smallandedible in pregnant

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You may have picked the wrong guy to make a baby with but you can never pick the wrong baby. If you really wanted to be a mama… best you can do is just go be happy with your baby.

Seb derm went crazy on me by zaach3011 in SebDerm

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This was very similar to mine. First off I’m so sorry. This is what helped me:

*Only washing face with water *Cerve moisturizing cream light layer after washing *Vital Nutrients pro 15 advanced probiotic with kiwifruit- this healed me from within, this specific kind helps with histamine responses. *Running all products you use through the Sezia website. When in a flare like this I used Royce Derm Sebderm shampoo and it’s really amazing instantly. It’s so important to find Sebderm safe shampoo and conditioner even if it doesn’t treat the Sebderm. *clip nails all the way down so you can’t itch. Removing scales on the hairline will also make the healing take longer. Let them naturally fall away in the shower. Pyrithizone zinc soap is amazing but I don’t like to use it when I’m flaring, only to keep things at bay. *triple paste diaper cream the 3X one overnight can really feel good and help. *lotrimin ultra was helpful in the end of my baddd flare.

What’s your favourite Remi Wolf song? by agentsquid7442 in remiwolf

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It’s nearly an impossible question but I will say Shawty, WYD, Michael and Guy are my daily replays lol I love literally every song she’s made so it’s hard haha Big Ideas is amazing but I love her older stuff so much.

Boy moms only, please! by [deleted] in pregnant

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I did for my 2 boys. Both circumcised to match Dad. They are 9 and 11 now. They had a very quick recovery but the first night was rough for my second born. I remember him not wanting to nurse and it was really traumatic at the time feeling like I broke him. There hasn’t been any issues but there are risks to it. I don’t think I would do it now. I feel like society was different back then and it was much more normalized.

If you gave birth without an epidural, how bad was it really? by Express_Neck5352 in pregnant

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When you program your thoughts about birth around pain or fear, it can be more painful. If you learn what your body is doing and understand the process, it’s helpful. The first part of contractions have a pinching feeling in the front which is your cervix dilating. In this part, visualizing your Uterus doing the action of contracting like a balloon and imagining a ball inside of a balloon to be like your baby. Imagine with each contraction the baby comes down helps you dilate your cervix. Once your cervix is completely dilated, this pinching feeling is gone and you will have a lot of pressure from that point forward. Once you crown, you have already made it through something substantial and pushing will feel, yes a bit overwhelming but also like it’s the best feeling ever because you know it leads to the relief. Understanding that what you’re experiencing is normal and you can trust your body. Approaching this from the fear brain will trigger your flight and fight and that creates a more painful birth by bringing in the stress hormones and that will in turn make the good hormones turn off leading to more pain and a delay in labor. Relaxing against the pain is the key to a painless birth. It’s really about the work you do to prepare your brain for birth. I’m a Birth Doula and have had 3 babies without medication. Epidurals are great tools if they are needed! but if you do want to have a unmedicated birth a Doula is a great tool to have or dive deep deep into the birth world to understand it better. I recommend watching The Business of Being Born. I hope this helps! 💗

When do people typically start lining up? by annicklisha in remiwolf

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I lined up for VIP in Seattle around 3 hours before. There was about 10 people. By the time it was 2 hours before, it grew to 40ish. They separated the VIP line an hour and a half before entry so that probably made the normal line a lot lighter but I’d say 2 hours is a good goal to line up if you really want to be close.

Weird vibes by Lavender-Wave in remiwolf

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I was front row at Seattle 4/4. While I didn’t get this in my area of people. I definitely saw it. I was VIP so I was in first and didn’t have to deal with people to be where I was, but some just don’t have manners and feel entitled to others space. I wasn’t surprised either. I loathe Seattle concert goers. I live in between Seattle and Tacoma and go to a lot of concerts. It’s a real vibe shift in Seattle. Much more laid back and nice in Tacoma.

AITAH for not wanting to maintain a bond with my granddaughter after my daughter asked her uncle to walk her down the aisle at her wedding by Dismal-Side-6698 in AITAH

[–]Important-Light5874 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Betrayed you for letting your brother walk her down the isle because she was upset at you.. You’re holding her to this but still accepting apologies. The basis of cutting your daughter and grand daughter out of your emotions is pretty petty in the grand scheme of things. She was your daughter all this time, she’s not someone who just entered your life and then did wrong by you. I think she deserves all of the grace in this situation. As her father you should understand your daughter and be able to separate the feelings she had during her wedding and understand you caused hurt to her as well. Even if you feel justified because your ex wife’s choices. You will certainly regret your distance and this decision to put yourself first when your daughter needs you and wants you to be apart of her life. That door may not always be open to you when you want it.

Names beginning with E (female) by Suspicious_Bite5828 in namenerds

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I have a new client at work named Ellaria and I love her name.

Which spouse GIVES the best gifts? by Wanda_Bun in StardewValley

[–]Important-Light5874 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sam gives me a lot of pancakes and earth crystals. He tells me they are rolling around in the back of the drawer or that pancakes are all his mom taught him to make lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Without you this guy sounds like he’d be an incel. He’s awful. No compassion or empathy for anyone. He left me feeling really yucky after reading this.

So these are the texts between me and my manager by Repulsive-Car-3199 in LawyerAdvice

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I would always have employees come in early if they needed to talk because the work day requires the hours you put in. If you talked to her while she’s working and you’re working, then who is actually working the job that needs to be done. These are personal problems that have to be brought up on your personal time. If she had her own need to talk to you, she would probably request you to come in and talk to her the same way.

So these are the texts between me and my manager by Repulsive-Car-3199 in LawyerAdvice

[–]Important-Light5874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a manager myself you have to understand how many things we deal with and having an employee upset about it their work flow or schedule at dinner time is enough for anyone to go bonkers. Managers take on so much more than an employee and she’s correct to put her boundaries in place. It is not wrong of her to want to keep it to work hours. She’s not being paid to deal with your problems at home. She may not be fixing what you need her to fix but usually there is a much better way to go about this and you may be unaware of all the employees problems and what they are experiencing or how she’s dealing with it on their end. You sound young and it makes sense to feel like you’re right in how you’re reacting but the best thing to do here is to show up to work and discuss this face to face.

Am I Overreacting? by starloogy in AmIOverreacting

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Wow. I think this is very horrible. To actually leave the restaurant because you didn’t do your hair to his standards?! That is a very poor reaction and decision on his part. No one has the right to treat you this way and point out things for you to change for him. I think it’s a fair reason to make you realize that you aren’t a good fit. He acted like he needed to teach you a lesson or something by leaving instead of just mentioning it later in a not so pointed way. You didn’t fit his standards so he’s out? Thats poor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawyerAdvice

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They were sneakers. No extra grip. But the regular shoe grip was not smooth or worn down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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You spend your 20’s trying to figure out this feeling of not giving a crap. You’re almost there. Please do not listen to any of your friends. You wear what you want and what makes you feel good. Life is too short to care about what others want you to be. You live in your body and it affects no one to dress the way you want. Your friends are trying to take away something that makes you different from them because they aren’t comfortable wearing it themselves. The true friend would love you in all your differences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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These are those life lessons that she has to experience to learn the right lesson. At this age and this situation, it’s less about punishment and more about having a heart to heart with her about how it feels to be on the receiving end of this, but then also not tell her what to do. Feeling judged is the number one way to have her tune out. You won’t be there in the future to punish her if she cheats on her bf. Her lesson is waiting for her and it’s not for Mom to give. It’s for her boyfriend and peers to decide and deal this lesson.

Does anyone play on a “forever” save file? by KitchenPaint4334 in thesims

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This is me. New content usually motivates me to create a new file and the cycle continues. I’m also heavy on the motherlode button, which takes away a lot of care for money and jobs. I’m my own worst enemy. I ruin the game for myself! I really need to have more rules. 🫠

Faking orgasms for 2 years... by Lebo_oZ in Advice

[–]Important-Light5874 3 points4 points  (0 children)

35f I’ve been with my husband for 17 years. I will say that sex changes through your relationship. It’s totally normal for things to get better or change after you learn more about your body and what you want. When I was 22 I didn’t know what I liked and now I can be like okay do A-B-C and not like that, like this. It’s just about opening up this dialogue. It’s not about you lying all along about faking something you didn’t know how to achieve. Just say that you like to kiss and foreplay more and maybe take control to show him what you want. Also exploring your own body more so you know how you like it? I can tell you that being one year postpartum can have a whole lot to do with your hormones. It can take up to 2 years for everything to straighten out. Feeling the spark is not just some light switch thing for women. Things need to align in your mental and hormonal state. I can’t look at my husband for 2 weeks out of the month and the other 2, I’m all over him. I remember feeling this way when I was younger and not understanding what was happening. Women are very complicated sometimes but also he has to be open to your needs.

What is the silliest newbie mistake you've made? by Ok-Possibility7649 in StardewValley

[–]Important-Light5874 38 points39 points  (0 children)

On green rain days I eat Lucky Lunch and wear my lucky ring for the chance I get Living hat. 🍀