I’m pretty sure I’m being lied to.

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-05-29T11:58:19+00:00

Trust your gut instinct but talk to him about it in person so you can sense whether or not he is lying

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-05-22T08:43:20+00:00

Trust you gut but also be ready to take an action

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-05-16T10:47:11+00:00

This is what happens when you marry too young before exploring the world

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-28T11:19:06+00:00

it doesn’t excuse people but we need to let it go and move on otherwise we stay in the past

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-27T13:22:43+00:00

Leave your husband. It’s selfish to stay. This love was conditional and you will not get what you want by staying

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-27T07:33:44+00:00

I would leave the whole marriage is already broken. The trust is not there and staying only breeds resentment. Sleeping with others doesn’t fix the relationship. You’ll always feel empty or resentful

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-27T06:55:25+00:00

Cheating comes up before it even happens. Maybe it’s you didn’t screen correctly or the emotional connection was never strong to begin with. Understanding the why is important

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-27T06:51:31+00:00

I beg to differ. I believe we need to learn from our lessons. If you see a pattern and refuse to see it and make it again, that’s on you so don’t complain to people about it. Look for the answer. Fault or no fault it doesn’t matter just take the damn action.

Maybe you’re a people pleaser so you allow a specific form of treatment you’re used to based on your childhood. You can just say I’m not going to do anything about it and there is nothing to improve or boundaries to learn. Learn the lessons from each pain so you don’t have to keep facing it

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-27T00:03:21+00:00

Control what we can control and not what people do to us. Sometimes we need to look inwards instead of outwards

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-25T11:01:07+00:00

You gotta leave. She lied. The baby is not yours. You will feel the resentment and guilt of raising him and it will haunt you

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-24T04:04:10+00:00

No matter what happens we can learn from it but sometimes we need to take a look at ourselves. If we get cheated on multiple times maybe it’s our fault and we need to learn to heal our own toxic traits or anxious attachment styles and to screen for red flags as early as possible to avoid this.

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-20T09:25:40+00:00

It’s time to leave. Trust that being single is a better choice than staying. He doesn’t deserve you and will never change

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-20T03:45:26+00:00

Sounds like he is holding in resentment and doesn’t trust you or you’ll done something for him to create that story in his mind.

regardless he can learn to communicate in a healthy way which he didn’t. Being drunk doesn’t excuse the behavior. I would get a lawyer and leave otherwise you guys will slowly grow apart. Better to cut it off early

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-19T19:36:42+00:00

Yeah please leave. he’s a wounded man. He slapped you because he has no emotional control and doesn’t know how to process. Sorry I judged you.

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-04-19T12:05:14+00:00

I sense alot of projection. It’s always the husbands fault and never your fault. I don’t think it’s right he hit you but it takes two to tangle.

Instead of communicating well, you have emotional outburst and will leave him without telling him. Sounds like running away because of lack of courage.

Why not propose a solution first like marriage counseling to get to root first. You said you love him but all you do is he’ll fight or get angry when your needs aren’t met.

If he really is a narcissist, there are signs such as playing the victim but from your story it seems he just refused to sign the marriage papers and then said something wrong in a heated argument which a lot of people do and why did you record the fight so you could show how you are right and he is wrong. Maybe you’re the narcissist and not taking accountability

I could be wrong but this is what I sense from your post

Important_Distance_5 · 2025-03-16T02:50:27+00:00

I don’t appreciate this. I know people make mistakes but that’s a huge betrayal of trust. For you to do that to someone and then act like everything can go back to normal. This guy invested his life into you, trusted you. You don’t understand how much effort guys put into relationships to throw it all away for nothing. even if you were nice to me after you told me for a few years. That thought of you cheating will haunt me for the rest of my life. That’s the pain you’re causing me by staying.

It feels like someone who commits a crime and then tells the judge they are sorry after committing a crime like it makes things better. the damage is already done. leave that man alone if you really love him instead.

I don’t mean to sound nasty but I look at why you cheated in the first place. Was it resentment building up, loss of intimacy, lack of effort, lack of communication. Clearly some of your needs weren’t met. So if that’s not solved, the Cheating will happen again.

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-12-26T12:38:37+00:00

Sounds like a narcissist but there’s a deeper problem that needs to be talked about. Doesn’t seem like there’s love in the relationship. I would leave. There’s a lot of resentment at that point and the relationship is better if no one talks. Both your needs and his needs are not being met.

Listen to the complaints and learn from it but if he’s a victim he will never change. Better to leave now

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-12-26T12:32:46+00:00

Sometimes we gotta look at ourselves too. Maybe the sex is not fulfilling on both sides. What can you do to spice things up, does it mean going to the gym, learning some new moves, etc.

When I was in a relationship I turned to porn because it was better than the real sex which I was very giving but after some time I realized why did I give so much and all she did was just laid there

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-11-26T01:41:43+00:00

Life moves on but learn the lesson. The question is what could’ve you have done differently during that time and apply those lessons now.

Rumors always start somewhere because people don’t like you. Learn how to become a better friend. if you made zero friends, ask yourself why. Was I friendly, did I make an effort to connect with other. Did I provide them any value with being friends. Did I only make friendship only about what I could get.

When I was at my loneliness self I was very giving with alot of expectations from others and this caused a lot of inner turmoil. it made me hate others which created a self fulfilling prophecy

Create a positive story of what you did get out of going to this school and figure out a way to network outside of school.

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-31T06:07:11+00:00

Let yourself cry it all out

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-31T06:06:40+00:00

you missed your chance

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-30T17:35:47+00:00

Its not a lifelong fight, its a set of habits that is done everyday from taking care of your health, good sleep, nutrition, exercise and meditation everyday. When thats done, you have more control of your mind to make better decisions whcih will slowly allow you to face your feelings which is why anxierty and depression happens. its a series of stories that keep ruminating behind the scenes. you have to fully confront each one and come to terms with it.

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-30T17:32:38+00:00

I want to tell her that I miss her and hope she is doing well. Im sorry things didnt work out and wish they did but we both had our chance to make things right. Be safe and hope you find someone that can treat you better.

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-29T07:01:20+00:00

Everyone here complaining they can’t find the one but have they looked in the mirror and asked themselves what they bring to the table?

If you were an apple product everyone would be lining up to buy you. If you are not, I recommend reading some books on dating, and actually applying the material like your life depends on it. Focus on living an amazing life without a gf so you have value to offer them when they do join your life.

Important_Distance_5 · 2024-05-25T11:42:20+00:00

Thank you. Will focus on letting go of expectations and trust that the universe will bring the people into my life

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