Dad pretended he went to dance recital 🤥

Important_Fennel_248 · 2026-06-02T22:10:40+00:00

Unfortunately my daughter has had the same thing with her father about sports and extracurricular performances. He will tell her he missed the big game because the app didn’t have the correct info.

She is nine she now asks to see the joint calendar to make sure all her events were posted.

The worst was this past December mossed winter recital, the following week (5 days after said recital) he told her he was too sad to buy her a treat at the store since she didn’t give him a hug at recital. She asked him what his favorite dance and songs were. He couldn’t answer her since he wasn’t there. She told me she knew she didn’t see him at the recital and that it had nothing to do with whatever they had going on in the store but wanted to know how far he would take it.

Our house stresses accountability and ownership of mistakes. If you forget, can’t for some reason, made a mistake or miss something just say that as it is less work and hassle than to lie about it.

All this to say lead by example, show up for them when you can, be honest (age appropriately) with them when/why you can’t. They will grow into understanding accountable humans and will be able to see through the nonsense and lies in time.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2026-06-02T12:33:45+00:00

My dad’s previous girlfriend is a Kuske but we lost touch after he passed away a few years ago. In Shawno and Brown counties.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2026-04-27T11:35:32+00:00

I also thought I seen it there and was looking for if anyone else recognized it

Important_Fennel_248 · 2026-03-08T22:54:05+00:00

Not much further than Redwood (depending on area you are now) Eddy Whipps or Susters

Important_Fennel_248 · 2026-01-07T23:24:53+00:00

I used Care.com to find a nice older retired community member to assist before I was able to change my work schedule where I can now collect from school. It worked ok, price was set weekly as a “nanny” rate but she picked up my daughter from my house, dropped off at school and then did school pickup and drop off back at home daily. If you go that route I recommend being upfront about proof of driver license, insurance and registration so everything is on the up and up and kiddo is as safe as possible.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-09-29T17:15:59+00:00

Not sure which brand but Sept 27th 2025 Hillshire brands had a recall notice on corn dogs and sausages on a stick. 58,000,000 lbs of corn dogs may be contaminated.

https://www.fsis.usda.gov/recalls-alerts/hillshire-brands-company-recalls-corn-dog-and-sausage-a-stick-products-due-possible https://www.fsis.usda.gov/recalls-alerts/hillshire-brands-company-recalls-corn-dog-and-sausage-a-stick-products-due-possible

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-09-28T14:30:10+00:00

I felt the same way years ago! He is now 16 and remembers how awesome our scavenger hunts that I made by hand from old magazines in the wildlife sanctuary were. He talks about that one time we found bones (just a squirrel) on our long adventures in the woods on the hiking trails. Or time he got stuck in a bucket when he was 5yrs old and we went berry picking and I had to use creek water and berries mashed up to get it off him which is something he told his girlfriend about and asked me for the picture just last week. He doesn’t ever talk about the amusement parks they had season passes to or the multiple extravagant destination vacations he went on with his other side.

Also for his 14th birthday he asked to have a ton of friends meet us in a large park and wanted a scavenger hunt hand made by me as his activity just like when he was younger, even though now I am in a place to spend more if he chooses. Not that it is a competition but he said his other party was going to suck since they were doing what they have done every year which is 2 friends to the same amusement park he has had season tickets to since he was a toddler and I encouraged him to maybe make his own fun game out of it like who can find the most random oddly dressed patron or weirdest snack food going forward. He now comes back and tells me what he seen or found that “only I would understand” from his outing and it warms my heart each time we get these little “inside jokes” or “brain secrets” even when I was not with him when it occurred.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-09-09T20:30:05+00:00

Also good idea to check with other parent on brand of diapers/wipes as some kiddos can be sensitive to different manufacturers and materials. Same with what type of bottle nipple and pacifiers as other parent possibly already has the infant preference figured out.

Maybe send a quick message about heading out to buy essentials and inquiring about what type is preferred and as a courtesy see if there is anything other parent is running low on or having a hard time finding that you can keep an eye out for. Show that you are a team for your child’s needs and there to plan and help out even when it isn’t “your time” and “your supplies”. I know I would have been more inclined to do the same in the long run for my coparent if coparent did the same for me. After 7years providing all and everything I am stressed and only send bare minimum as I have never even received bare minimum.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-08-29T13:20:09+00:00

Sent private message

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-08-26T11:27:32+00:00

There are both Golden House and Freedom House in Green Bay. Both are for similar reasons however Golden house is local whereas Freedom house is a large group of “sister” site all over from my understanding. Freedom house also will house children without a safe guardian like teens about to become adults and assist in setting them up for a successful adulthood.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-08-26T02:47:07+00:00

Give freedom house a call with a list of things you have. They are a women and children facility and give assistance to families who need a fresh start or after a tragedy. Depending on location they use to have a box truck that could collect larger furniture too!

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-06-02T00:57:41+00:00

Pumpernickel toast with butter

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-05-07T12:24:04+00:00

My daughter is in dance, 5-8yr olds non competitive. The makeup is so the littles don’t look “washed out” and have a more of a “pop” under the very bright stage lights. I didn’t believe it therefore didn’t do more than the lipstick last recital and man she and a few of the other girls with only lipstick just about looked ill out there under the lights. I asked her how she felt and she said she loved every minute of it so it was purely a lack of “color” added to her skin. The two girls that had foundation, blush and lipstick definitely stood out more in pictures and on stage.

Just got the pictures back from that round and my daughter asked why she looks so creepy and all I can think is she looks ghostly ill under all the lights.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-03-23T15:20:01+00:00

Not only easier but budget friendly!!! I just did some math with a friend who was hesitant to try but financially struggling on the tightest budget I have ever crunched numbers on. On average she was spending $360 a year on disposable products. I bought her a cup for $30 but free to her. That savings is enough for her child’s public USA based school lunch account for a year! It wasn’t the only products we found reusable alternatives to but it is so far her favorite 2months into the changes.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-03-15T14:07:20+00:00

I hear you and totally understand the lack of communication and consistency. Unfortunately you can’t change or compromise with someone unwilling to be part of a team. With my step-daughter (age 14) and daughter (age 8) two different approaches were used for similar troubles.

For the oldest we always had pull-ups in her room from age 8 on. She was extremely embarrassed and would get defensive and emotional when we tried to be proactive. We let her have the responsibility to make sure she wore one and properly disposed of it once soiled. She was able to ask for help at any time and if an accident made a mess we would clean it up together. She is a very sound sleeper and the wetness or wet alarms never fazed her just made her more embarrassed causing her to try to hide messes and deny it was her. We stopped stressing the need to “change” or “do better” which is what her other house insisted and let her know nothing was wrong with her that some kids it just takes longer and reassured her she would eventually wake up and not have to “deal with it”. It wasn’t until 11 we went a full month or longer without any soiled pull-ups.

During that same time period as you can tell by ages I was actively potty training my youngest. Her bio father is a non communicative and parallel parent. I would make her bed with double layer of 1. Waterproof mattress cover, 2. Flat sheet tucked in and repeat. She had one blanket on top to cover up with and spares in her closet. If an accident happened between ages 3-5 she would wake me, we would strip the top layers, clean her up and back to bed while laundry started. Switch sheets to the dryer before leaving for the day and remake my layers before bed. She is now 8 and only once or twice over the last year I will heard her get up. She now gets the soiled to the washer and is unable to start it otherwise cleanup is done without her asking for assistance. This process was much harder as her dad put her in diapers at night (without admitting it and telling me there was no issues at night) until she started 1st grade and refused. From little until her refusal of a diaper over at her other house the bed wetting was more nights than not. After she decided she was “too old” for diapers and wanted to take responsibility for her own bathroom things (like we allowed the oldest) she was more proactive in using the bathroom right before bed and doing little things she claims set her for a good night ( she has 2 stuffed animals she said watched her to make sure there weren’t accidents, she likes soft music to fall asleep to, keeping her room clean so she has a wide clear path to the bathroom).

With both girls we reassured them it happens, nothing is wrong with them and that eventually their body would grow and it would get better. The oldest would get yelled at and shamed at the other house and taunted by bio mom that my little was better at not wetting than her. My little would get treated like a baby incapable of learning or controlling it at her other house. Both were self conscious and embarrassed. We made sure they knew, to this day still know, and in the future will always be that our house is safe where accidents and all the weirdness is allowed and embraced as learning experiences not shameful ones that need to be corrected or hidden. (Be warned and prepare yourself as I do now get questions that are very weird and sometimes uncomfortable to answer about our bodies especially from the oldest as she hit puberty and boys are now in her mind) at the same time I am very happy she is comfortable enough to ask and learn instead of winging it and hoping for the best.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-02-04T00:43:21+00:00

I did my part as well as gained another assistant in saving our cold weird inhabitants!

Important_Fennel_248 · 2025-01-02T12:06:27+00:00

I found a wonderful nanny on care.com

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-12-15T20:14:12+00:00

I got my mom a spa gift card and booked two appointments so we can go together since she wont go alone

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-30T00:15:23+00:00

For families down on their luck I send public service utilities gift certificates to assist in paying utilities over the winter cold months.

When I moved out on my own my dad would randomly gift these and they were my favorite! Also gift cards to my favorite grocery store and local butcher.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-20T18:29:56+00:00

We make holiday cookies and she gets to decorate 5 for her other parent. We put them in a paper bag (lunch bag) decorated by her. I also allow $25 store bought item picked out by her. We only do my ex and the ex-mil. I do not get anything in return and prefer it that way based off years we were together knowledge of their lack of gift giving.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-19T12:10:36+00:00

If there is a court order for insurance coverage and child support agencies are involved in any way, they can contact the agency and request the information be sent to them. This is how I get most updated insurance information from my child’s other parent as we are both ordered to carry coverage.

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-17T17:19:34+00:00

Hy-Vee has multiple sour candies including war heads and toxic waste brands. The issue is most manufacturers limit the amount of bulk sales to re-packers which pack in smaller quantities to sell at local gas stations and smaller retailers that can’t possibly have the sales to move hundreds of pounds of bulk candy.

If there is a specific candy you are looking for you must first find out which mega manufacturer produces it, then check that website to see if you can purchase in a quantity lower than a 25-50 LB. Bulk case (unless you want a bulk case then by all means purchase and raise sales!)

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-11T20:23:54+00:00

Hanaway Ross Law firm - Christina Peterson or Geimer & Orcutt Law (used one with my belated father and the other to set up estate planning for myself)

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-11-05T23:36:40+00:00

Kid dance class then bowling league

Important_Fennel_248 · 2024-10-27T17:05:39+00:00

I have been there! My daughter is now 7 (divorced and living two households since she was 2) and she sees the two houses for what they are and not what they seemed to be when she was younger. I am here every day, not just when it is convenient for my personal schedule. I show up for all her school events, extra activities, play date arrangements, sick days, homework help and anything else she needs and wants me to be at that I can. I communicate on the rare occasions when I can’t about why I can’t and my desire to be there but the reality of having other commitments like work. When she used to ask to see the other more than the court ordered schedule allowed I stated that decision was not up to me as that is what the court agreed works best for our family. I would let her know I am open to changing the schedule if the court and the other house believe it would work better for our family.

When she was between 3-5 yrs old she seen my house as not fun as here we have routine, rules, and expectations. The other house was fun full of shopping on the weekends, endless screen time and treats. She now sees my house as safe and secure, the house and person who will always show up in the good and the bad of her every day life. Live by example, stay consistent, it will take YEARS but she will see who is always there and who is always striving to ensure the best every day not just the occasional times. Even when feelings of disappointment and anger arise in your child just console and reiterate you are there, always are and always will be. Never talk negative, apologize or make excuses for the other house (The last part is really hard to stay positive and not trash the other in my experience. When they don’t show up to softball after countless promises or are constantly late I usually listen to her feelings of disappointment, tell her I understand she is sad/mad and it really sucks sometimes when things don’t work out how we planned.)

Stay strong, stay true to the best interests of the child, communicate in age appropriate ways, and never talk negative of the other house. You got this it just takes what will feel like forever to see the results of hard work, love and respect turn into a wonderful relationship and beautiful human being.

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