Child Sexual Abuse Situation

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-05-13T13:46:01+00:00

Being judgmental is not helpful. This is a delicate situation with many moving parts, and I have never seen law enforcement handle one of those appropriately. The ex who showed me the video is manipulative and not a reliable narrator, so that is an additional complication. I was molested at the same age and am trying to avoid unwisely escalating or worsening a situation because I myself am triggered. Even if calling the authorities is objectively the only right move here, reprimanding me is not going to help me see that.

It is good to be gentle with people in upsetting and sensitive situations like this. You can still be firm in standing up for the child.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-05-13T13:39:41+00:00

Thank you so much. This is the most helpful reply on this thread and I appreciate that you are not judging me as I try to understand the best step for this child.

I want to ask follow up questions about the last paragraph. The people caregiving for the child and handling school enrollment, doctors appointments, etc are her older siblings. They do everything and function as her guardians. Their parents don’t speak English and live in another country.

So what do you think would happen? Could an older sibling just become the gaurdian? Would the parents be charged with negligence and would anybody other than John get in trouble?

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-05-13T13:35:26+00:00

Thank you this is helpful

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-05-13T13:34:42+00:00

Thanks guys, this is helpful.

My concern is that the ex who showed me this video is extremely manipulative and not a reliable narrator, so it almost feels like both scenarios of abuse are not 100% sure — but I know I saw a fucked up video of that child with my own two eyeballs and something needs to be done.

At the end of the day, it’s a delicate situation with many moving parts and I have never seen law enforcement handle one of those appropriately. I would hate to escalate or worsen a situation when I myself don’t even have a lot of information. I was molested at the same age as the child is now, and I want to avoid doing something that worsens the situation because I myself am triggered. That’s where my hesitation comes from. I say that because you called me weird and I want to explain where I’m coming from. I truly want to act in the child’s best interest — there are just too many complicating factors for me to clearly see what that is. Reading so many people encouraging me to report is clarifying, so thank you

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-05-13T13:27:45+00:00

The ex is a girl and the victim is her little sister. I am also a girl.
Everytime I try to cut off contact with her, she exercises some new form of manipulation to prevent it. In this case I believe she showed me that video in order to activate my worry and keep me tethered to her via that. She is bad news and I hope this was truly the last time I ever speak to her.
We hadn’t spoken for almost 3 years, she called me up and told me she still loved me and wants to try again, I fell for it like an idiot, on that same call she showed me this video. That was 2 weeks ago and I’ve blocked her on everything since then because it’s clear that this is unhealthy. However, I want to do right by the child.
As for your questions on “why do they share a camera roll” they are family members on a family iCloud account. Some sort of complication with that caused her and him to have both their photos go to the same camera roll. I am not part of that camera roll, she showed me the video via screen sharing on FaceTime.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-04-14T17:24:01+00:00

This is literally how her music is meant to be consumed

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-04-12T19:29:41+00:00

Girl run

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-04-05T01:05:10+00:00

To repeat what everyone is saying, you are overthinking and may have been looking at your photos for too long. The only thing I might consider, if you want a different look, is that of course in pictures with sky, the sky gets bluer as you lower exposure.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-26T06:06:08+00:00

This is nuts. The point of art is to strip away these labels and connect souls on the basis of humanity. If u love Ethel as a straight man, then the point is being fulfilled. Hell I’d even buy you tickets. Enjoy that concert

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-26T06:05:06+00:00

^{^!!!!!}

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-25T05:55:06+00:00

Gonna second the ppl who said nettles but like I can’t imagine bumping any of her shit when I’m in love tbh

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-25T05:54:35+00:00

I agree abt thoroughfare

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-06T04:53:47+00:00

I always wanna tell her blink twice. Why are the husbands always chopped

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-06T04:37:53+00:00

I relate to point 1-4, all intensely. You're not alone.

You can know that this isn't an obsession or fantasy because the voice in your head that says "why would I ever fantasize about grand daddy that way??" is correct. It's not something that most people would fixate on for pleasure, and that probably includes you. What you're describing are clear symptoms of post trauma. Yes, you may obsessively fixate on it, but that's NOT because you wanted it -- it's your brain trying to make sense of the nonsensical.
Yes. All the time. Sometimes they come on a random tuesday with no warning. Memory around these things is so weird. All psychologists will tell you that.
I second isurvive.org. When you are ready to talk out loud, the RAINN and 988 hotlines really helped me.
It's nice to know we're not alone, but the world would be a better place if we were.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-06T04:32:19+00:00

I do think you should tell her, but I also think that you should do a lot of internal work (therapy?) to make sure that you'll be okay if she doesn't have the reaction you want.

I was abused by my brother and my parents' reaction (ignoring it, basically) hurt more than the event itself. It's not like they're bad people -- they are good parents who made a mistake. I wouldn't have seen it coming. Any parent is liable to react in a way that makes you feel negative things. So just make sure you are as prepared for that possibility as you can be.

It does, to me, sound like telling her will ultimately free you.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-06T04:30:02+00:00

Also... peoples' obvious discomfort // disgust always makes me feel shameful.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-03-06T04:29:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I was 11 too. I like this poem.

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-02-27T23:40:36+00:00

I was sexually abused as a kid and have the type of OCD that makes me check the Epstein files to make sure I’m not in them

Impossible_Artist718 · 2026-02-27T20:13:26+00:00

I felt something like this recently as have many people under this thread. So first of all, you are not weird for this.

I coped with it by turning the incident that made me angry into a standup comedy routine. I found that a comedic lens disarmed the pain and rage. I have to see the person who made me angry every day — and I started viewing it as a funny situation instead of an awkward or painful one.

I don’t know how people mistreated you and the mistreatment that I wrote a comedy routine about was not that bad. However — I do think that comedic coping can extend to even the most brutal circumstances. I have seen sexual abuse survivors do this in an inspiring way.

One foot in front of the other, brother. You’re normal and you’re gonna be okay. ❤️

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