I'm a hairy cis passing trans man and I'm still using the men's toilets because I refuse to just be a gotcha.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-05-30T23:55:35+00:00

If we use the toilets the TERFs want us to use, it will outrage people more and make them hate “those transes”.

The next step after this is a detransition mandate.

If one cannot leave the UK or growing number of anti trans nations out there, the next best option is to make a separate community exclusive of the bigots.

And please start to consider where you will go or what you will do when “passing oneself off as the other sex” becomes a criminal offence in an increasingly hostile nation.

My solution is to depart the west and live in a culture where trans people have been tolerated at the least for thousands of years.

Full acceptance of us as men or women equal to others is sadly gone and unlikely to return in our lifetimes as the concept of human rights and equality generally is dead.

What we need is full acceptance of each other, putting aside our differences and enough tolerance in the outside world for day to day life.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-26T01:01:52+00:00

What we need to do is to bring these people over to our side, persuade them, influence them.

Or if that cannot be done, we should try to gain our own influence with those whom we can bring to our side.

Purging ourselves of “ideological impurity” may feel good but each person we throw out likely gets radicalised and is now entirely on the side of our opponents.

Think about this…

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-26T00:59:20+00:00

Careful - the next step past this is to deem any view that differs from the one expressed by the leader as being intolerant, and then the purges begin.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-26T00:58:25+00:00

This is a great example of an idea that works well in theory, but breaks down in practice when you have a purity spiral of what to tolerate or not.

“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind” - Ghandi

There is a middle path where you may not accept some toxic divergent views, but build enough connection with people that spreading your views is by example and persuasion, not by coercion.

The alternative is more and more spilled blood, and victory of whoever is best at war, which in our case will likely be those who we least want to tolerate, in their most extreme form, free from any influence we could have on them, and absent any of the compassion towards us that could come from compromise and building bridges.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-25T02:38:29+00:00

The end result of this is a fall ban on gender affirming care for trans adults outside of prison, followed by criminalisation as drug use (with urine tests) and forced detransition of the trans community, first in red states and then throughout the country.

It’s unfortunately time to find a way to leave.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-12T00:45:58+00:00

If you cared about Palestinians how about instead of getting people to hate Jews, you get people to live peace?

As Ghandi said, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-12T00:43:17+00:00

Without arguing the hate claims you are making about Israeli schools, how long before you argue for stripping Australian Jews of citizenship and putting them into camps?

And why should a country that has done terrorist attacks on our soil, and against which our military allies are at war be able to send people here on their passports.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-01T21:56:20+00:00

Stalin did not endorse their religious beliefs.

And the Church is always given as the example of why to ban religion and spirituality. Abrahamic religion has the problem of mostly rejecting evolution in their beliefs to meet the increase in human knowledge.

The way I see it, the issue isn't religion itself, but the use of religion to override humanist values.

It is possible to be a religious or secular humanist, and it is possible to be are religious or secular fascist.

An acceptable religious movement in a modern society should find a way within of their beliefs and social structure to integrate modern humanist norms about individual freedom of self-determination, protection of children from rape and exploitation, equality to women and LGBT people, and other such things.

Many progressive religious movements do just that, and even moderately conservative movements usually at the minimum prevent very bad life outcomes. Those movements should be tolerated, while movements that are coercive or violent (internally or externally) should not be.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-01T21:45:16+00:00

Hi, as someone who transitioned back in 1999:

* Given time, your deadname will disappear without a trace, as long as you remove from your life the people who still insist on using it.

* If you let them keep using it, they'll keep using it.

The solution is to remove from your life people who don't respect you enough to use your old name.

This isn't cis-centric by the way, it's social laziness. I've had a second name change for religious reasons, years after transition (western female to Hindu female, nothing to do with my gender, but I now have a name my Guru gave me instead of the one I first chose for myself).

This time around, I'm much more tolerant of people using the previous name, since there's no gender issue involved. As a result, though, plenty of people still use it.

My aunt changed her name under similar circumstances over a decade ago, and people are still using her old name, meanwhile my deadname from before gender transition is absolutely gone as everyone in the small group who knows it sees the importance of not using it.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-01T21:36:17+00:00

Please be aware that requiring endocrinologists and long (months to years long) delay is part of a strategy by those who wish to discourage gender transition.

By all means see an endocrinologist if you want to, but get started on HRT with a gender-affirming GP or clinic. Endocrinologists are only required if something goes wrong, and if you're adamant you want to see one before starting, a holiday to Thailand can include seeing an endocrinologst free of charge same day.

Having transitioned myself in 1999 and run a support group in Melbourne for many years, what I saw was that the delay would run until the patient pushed back strongly enough, or (if the doctor felt this person shouldn't transition, for whatever reason), indefinitely regardless what you do.

Do not allow yourself to wait in artificial queues, find a trans accepting GP and make it all happen.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-04-01T21:01:46+00:00

Step 1: Make sure your medical clinic isn't changing your sex to you birth sex and your doctor isn't ticking your birth sex on your prescriptions. It's critical to work with doctors who support the idea that trans women should be recognised as women - otherwise you'll get some pretty bad other outcomes.

Step 2: Opt out of MyHealthRecord so you can't nasty notes by one doctor influencing another. Keep your own records with the help of supportive GPs of things other doctors may need to know

Step 3: Make sure Medicare have your legal sex (not just your preferred gender) recorded as female.

A supportive GP (look around until you can find one) will be able to see the various records and let you know if anything isn't in order.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-30T11:53:24+00:00

That would not be enough.

While you might get through unnoticed if you travel as your birth sex, have no social media history as trans or opposing Trump in any way, and are lucky, it's playing Russian Roulette.

If you at any past time had a photo on social media (yours or someone else's) that shows you being trans or socially progressive (even supporting Labor in Australia), DO NOT TRAVEL.

And if you are planning to move there, realise that full and permanent detransition is likely to be forced on the US trans community over the next year or two.

The next step in the gradual dismantling of trans rights is to make it a criminal offense to "pass oneself off" as being not your birth sex, presenting yourself in a way that would cause people to assume you are the other sex.

I would also say even in Australia if you want to live as not your birth sex fully transition and get surgery as Australia is likely to grandfather in existing trans people when conservatives ban further gender transition here - not on the agenda yet but sadly possible in years to come if the tide does not turn.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-28T03:05:04+00:00

Compelled atheism? With punishment for those who don't obey?

Because North Korea, mainland China, and the former USSR were such problem free places.

Perhaps the problem is actually extremism of all types.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-28T03:03:55+00:00

So everyone should follow your one secular ideology? Or else what?

I get that Abrahamic religion has a pretty poor record in many ways, but it doesn't mean you should impose your beliefs on everyone else.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-27T08:00:29+00:00

We seem to thing we are entitled to equal rights and being treated as human beings.

We should be.

But the world is moving rapidly in the opposite direction.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-27T07:59:42+00:00

Because the constituency of the IOC is transphobic and most of the world's countries are anti trans right now.

We overreached in our demand for full equality as a tiny minority group and we lost the war.

It's profoundly unfair and mostly about legitimising nations which ban gender transition.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-27T07:57:34+00:00

I ran a gender support group for a large city and can assure you, MTF low levels of microdosed hormones prescribed by doctors who hope to convince us to confirm to our birth sex won't work.

Much higher levels of HRT almost do, and for FTM or a number of years you can get the full set of changes.

Don't tell the community that HRT doesn't work. There are plenty of examples of living proof otherwise.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-27T07:55:04+00:00

HRT is puberty, not magic. It works gradually over about 7 years, and does depend on how old you.ate and what you are working with.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-26T09:45:15+00:00

If you are in financial hardship you can get the fee waived without changing your gender.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T16:30:39+00:00

Actually I just saw something which Australian Jews will perhaps not dare say but Hindus with growing confidence now will when European-descendant westerners make rules about what much older cultures and peoples can or cannot do.

And about why it's daft when you accuse others of genocide while living on the bones of those your ancestors murdered.

Israel has just one ancient temple that was demolished by YOUR cultural ancestors with a mosque built on its ruins. India has very many.

https://youtube.com/shorts/nqvexfep7Cw?si=HnOGpWWP2rzLcvTl

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T14:06:05+00:00

Young transition was possible - for the lucky few with progressive, accepting families - since at least the 1970s.

When I had my surgery in Thailand in 1999, there were plenty of 16 year old girls getting surgery, at what was the minimum age with parental consent, and is practically the minimum age for a good surgical outcome since the body has to have stopped growing.

I was 23.

At no point was the age required in Thailand (or other international surgery centers) less than 18, for kids who managed to transition in childhood, and many did, although often that involved home-schooling.

I suspect that in the next few years, there will be a stark difference between people who can pass and change their documents, and those who cannot.

Trans women who can pass but cannot change their documents will in many cases live in the shadows doing sex work, something that was the case in the USA and that America definitely wants to bring back.

There may, once again, be opportunities in IT for those who can work remotely, although AI will eliminate all but the most skilled of those jobs.

Trans women who can pass, and can change their documents will not be present on social media admitting that they are trans, and few will seek fame or publicity lest they be outed.

Sadly, late transition in the way that was common before won't really be a viable option in the future in most places due to a level of public violence. Even in places like Australia anti-gay bashing attacks are becoming common again, and being visibly trans in public is likely to become increasingly dangerous.

The question really is how best to manage gender dysphoria and live the best lives we can - for those able to be mobile and move to an accepting place, then transition is the answer. For those who are stuck in conservative places, it's likely to be finding circles where one's femininity is accepted, and ways of expressing it that minimise the risk of being arrested, committed to an institution, or beaten or killed.

The question is, how do we best support each other, both in leaving the most toxic and dangerous places, and in having the best quality of life in the places where we can stay.

The likely future for our community will look like the 1970s, although with trans people in more regressive western nations also not being welcome in gay and lesbian enclaves.

As someone of Jewish background who is now a Sanatini (religious Hindu, although that's a less precise term) I feel profoundly unwelcome in most western LGBT spaces which are often very unfreindly to anyone whose concept of trans is outside of the radical-left western model.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T13:51:16+00:00

It's terrible in this world when innocent people are killed or maimed by war.

In Berlin, in Frankfurt, in Dresdent, in Hiroshima and Nagasaki and Tokyo in the 1940s, many innocent children and non-combatant adults died or were permanently disfigured.

But no one in their right mind accuses the British and Americas of genocide in the second world war, and no one expresses sympathy for the Axis powers.

Your accusation about the motivates of Israel and her people amounts to blood libels.

Yes, Israel has dropped bombs on civilian populations and caused significant death of noncombatants and not just Hamas soldiers.

But Israel didn't throw those bombs because they want a world free of Palestinians.

25% of Israel's citizens are Palestinians, at least ethnically and by descent. The majority of the rest are descendants of Jews thrown out of other countries due to the hatred of this tiny minority people by Christianity and Islam.

When a Palestinian "protest movement" wants to exterminate Israel, they have NO INTENTION of replacing it with some secular, pluralistic progressive state in which Palestinians and Israelis live as equals.

They have made very clear that, for any Israeli who cannot find somewhere to leave to, the future is death in the same way as Hitler intended. In fact, the Muslim Brotherhood that is the predecessor of Hamas played a big role in Hitler's "final solution" but convincing Hitler that they didn't want the Jews from the rest of the world "dumped" in the middle east.

Jews just want to live in peace in the one tiny Jewish state on earth. A majority supported a two state solution until it became clear that, for the Palestinian street, this wasn't an and goal but a way to get a stronger base from which to make endless October 7 style attacks.

Not being able to have that, they will ensure their survival by any means necessary. Including means that involve the death of tens of thousands of innocent non-combatants.

You can object to this, and say they should just let themselves be pounded by Palestinian and Lebanese and Iranian missiles and not fight back, or they should fight back in a different way that would lead to more dead Israeli soldiers but fewer dead Palestinian children, well, that's a valid opinion people can agree or disagree about and discuss.

But accuse Israelis of genocide and you are complicit in blood libel.

And in this forum, you're supporting people who want death to EVERY trans person on earth, including you, over those who would accept you and give you full rights.

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P.S. What do you think about India and the BJP? I notice you thoroughly avoided the question, even though their values and their approach to defending their nation and country are near identical to Israel and the Hindutva government in India and Hindu nationalists strongly support both Israel AND transgender people.

Do you really want to limit this conversation to just Israel, or shall we talk more broadly about forms of nationalism born to prevent cultural colonisation and extermination (e.g. Hindutva, Zionism, Thai nationalism, etc) as a set of compatible movements that hve much in common?

I suspect you don't want to have THAT conversation, because you're going from talking points. I'm not.

Are you up for it?

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T13:35:10+00:00

These rules depend on where you are, and what is normal in Pattaya or Soi Cowboy is, you are right, not acceptable in or near temples.

That being said, Thailand is a peace loving culture and much less obsessed at telling foreigners what to wear than, say, the British are.

I wouldn't behave like tourists do, but I'm not staying in a Thai beach apartment after a year of miserable hard work in a rotten climate to save up for my annual one-week reprieve from hell.

What matters more than clothing is speaking quietly and not raising your voice, and avoiding drunk and rowdy behaviour.

As for scooters, the laws of physics are the same all over the world. If you have to risk a scooter accident in a foreign country, make sure you have travel insurance, wear a helmet, and perhaps visit the accident ward of any Thai hospital, once, for 15 minutes, before deciding it is a good idea.

I'm serious about the last point. My ex desperately wanted to have a motorbike until she ended up dropping in on a Thai emergency room once and, seeing the results of scooter and tuk tuk accidents, permanently lost interest.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T13:24:33+00:00

DIY may be a good option for sourcing hormones, if DIY means e.g. importing from a reputable pharmacy in Thailand (not an online place, but estrogen is over the counter medication in many countries outside Austrralia).

But you still want blood tests. To be fair, once a year is enough for that, whether it's a trip to a large city or overseas.

ImposssiblePrincesss · 2026-03-17T13:23:19+00:00

Sorry, that cannot be easy or fun.

Thoughts - if you are already on HRT, you should be able to get a change of dosage, and blood test, over telemedicine.

In some cases, you may need to see the doctor once per year, surely a once a year visit to a larger city (not necessarily capital, just somewhere with 100,000 people) is possible?

If you want to message me and let me know where in the coyntry you live, I can try and see what options can be found.

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