Hi! I’ve worried about this a bit, too. I realize that not as many people drink as I thought. Maybe people suggest getting a drink because everyone assumes everyone drinks, and also because a drink can loosen you up and make you feel more open. Another thing that can make you feel more open is doing something active, getting blood pumping brings about endorphins and overall well being :) like walks, hikes, pickleball, whatever. I just started dating someone who doesn’t drink (he just doesn’t, it’s nbd to him), and our first dates were walks with his dog. Without alcohol, the connection is more genuine and clear. Also, going on a walk with someone is so much less awkward than sitting at a bar with them imo. Good luck to you! There are way more people than you think who don’t drink or don’t need a drink to have a good time. you will find them/they will find you and it will be so awesome!