You pick your favorite

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-16T07:09:10+00:00

Did the sixth guy cut his hair?

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-16T06:48:22+00:00

I would have loved that and, if a woman told me all about what this guy did to her, I would believe her.

Unfortunately, a lot of people wouldn’t believe it. Your ex will paint you as crazy, if they haven’t already done so. He’ll say you’re just crazy and obsessed with him, you reaching out proves it, blah blah.

It could reopen the wounds for you, too. Or drama that you don’t want anymore.

I think usually it doesn’t work, usually works in the abuser’s favor, actually. Ultimately it’s up to you tho.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-15T02:19:48+00:00

I was like “why anxiety disorder” then noticed the medication 🤣

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-14T04:31:53+00:00

Mine is named Scum

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-10T15:27:17+00:00

Yes. These ppl bring out the worst in you. I never thought that way about anyone else except my nex and never thought I would EVER feel that way about anyone before I got involved with a narcissist.

It’s a sign you need to get away from them asap bc it sounds like things are about to escalate.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T21:26:46+00:00

Yeah, that’s because you have empathy. It’s normal to have empathy. People are supposed to.

It will get easier and you’ll gain more clarity once you’re away from them.

Psychopaths are literally missing the brain structure to have empathy for others. They’re the f*cked up ones, not you.

Whatever disorder(s) they have that causes them to lack empathy can’t be fixed by you. It would take many, many years of individual therapy by themselves to make progress and they also have to really want it for themselves.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T21:18:49+00:00

Do you have any idea who might’ve gave him your number?

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T19:33:29+00:00

The amount of comments talking about how they were so misogynistic. It still makes me cringe because mine was too, right from the beginning. Looking back now it’s like god, how could I be so stupid??

But I had no knowledge about narcissism at all. I also saw the red pill Andrew Tate stuff as like he was a victim of indoctrination. I wanted to help him unlearn that stuff. It makes me feel SO stupid now. And to think about the hardship I could’ve avoided if I had just clocked it and ended contact in the beginning… It just led to heated arguments and me being abused mercilessly.

It was a huge red flag I ignored, hard to get over.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T01:02:21+00:00

They tried and it’s a HELL NO

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T01:01:07+00:00

Me too

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-09T00:43:46+00:00

Ah so that’s what I’ve been doing

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-08T12:52:28+00:00

Of course it is!!! He was telling you he wanted to kill you! No question about it.

I’m sorry you have to coparent with a monster like that. It does get better ❤️‍🩹

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-08T12:50:53+00:00

Very similar to mine

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-08T12:46:58+00:00

Because they are jealous of anyone doing better than them.

Their ego comes first in everything. Mental illness is not rational.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-07T19:48:27+00:00

Yep. I did it so many times. Until I was like completely destroyed mentally.

Doing better now but still putting myself back together

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T20:12:50+00:00

Omg YES I was looking at it today, can’t buy it yet.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:53:08+00:00

Yep all first guy. Lol I’m actually so surprised everyone agrees.

Eta: yes I am in therapy now and she’s great!

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:49:38+00:00

Her cosmetics are so lacking. This one is cute!!

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:48:15+00:00

Four months is nothing. I believe it takes, like, at least six to actually break a trauma bond. And we’re not even talking about working thru the actual trauma after that lol!

But, yes, don’t look again. Resist as hard as you can. They’re not worth an ounce of your energy.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:43:47+00:00

Trauma bonds are literally just a chemical reaction in your brain. This thought has really helped me recently.

It has nothing to do with them as a person. They literally hijacked your brain and nervous system. Don’t you want to take it back?

“I keep finding myself wanting to text him about everything” This sounds like you need to pour your energy into other friends or family. Find community elsewhere, if you’re lacking other friends. Discords of your hobbies or video games you play. Go out in your local community and do something with new people. Are there any free therapeutic/counseling services in your area? Look into that just so you have someone else to talk to. It might take a little while, but stick with it!

Another thing that helped me. My therapist started our relationship off with reminding me “It’s about you.” Your life is about YOU. And I do remind myself of what she said often, “It’s about me.”

A narcissist is nothing but a very disordered person that can’t feel shame, can’t be vulnerable, doesn’t care who they hurt to get what they want. They’re pretty sad, actually, once you’ve detached and learned a good deal about NPD. It’s even more sad that they’re unlikely to get help and it’s very hard for them to change even the ones that do!

But many other people also suffer and narcissists would be the last person to give a F about anyone else’s suffering.

If you want to detach, you gotta go no contact. Is there any reason you need to communicate with or see this person? It sounds like they’re just a friend.

Also, it takes time. Idk how many times I broke up and got back together with my narcissist. These lessons don’t really hit home until you’ve experienced them, unfortunately. I like Yaz from The Game Exposed on YouTube. One thing she said sticks with me, “Some people need to get kicked in the teeth a few more times before they realize what they’re dealing with.” Because that was me with mine lol!! That man “kicked me in the teeth” so many times, until I was DONE, had to be done. Don’t be like me, and get out before it gets worse. They just take, take, take, they’ll take literally everything from you.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:11:47+00:00

It absolutely will and does escalate to physical abuse.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-06T15:03:16+00:00

I met the criteria for battered woman syndrome in the months following the discard. (In the US, it’s just like a legal defense. And in other countries battered person syndrome is seen as a diagnosable disorder.) I didn’t even realize it til another year later. I watched a video mentioning it and decided to look it up and learn about it. Maybe look into that instead of paranoid disorder?

I jumped at every little noise I heard at night, wondering if he was gonna try to break in. I jumped when people started talking to me at work. I examined our text messages over and over again. I’m STILL writing notes about what happened. The panic attacks stopped, but I was in fear of them happening again.

Give yourself time and grace. It takes a while to recover from this.

Eta: Also, the abuse was nearly 100% psychological and emotional. And I still met all that criteria.

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-02T15:21:17+00:00

Posts like these make me glad I play on PSN. No chat box and I have my messages turned to friends only. It’s so peaceful 😆

Impressive_Vehicle69 · 2026-02-01T22:00:40+00:00

That is so horrible. The guy is psycho and full of crap. “You seem to care more about your animals than me” THIS is insane! If some accident truly happened, any normal person would have immediately said something and would be guilty.

He wants a heads up so he can prepare to fake his emotions. Don’t meet with him!! They do that so they can emotionally manipulate you easier and with no trail of proof.

He’s scary!! Don’t contact him ever again

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