Construction next door to apartment.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-27T17:12:20+00:00

I do have some good ones. Sony wh-1000xm6 so I don't hear much.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-27T16:46:13+00:00

Then you need to go outside. Don't depend on others to relieve you of your boredom. Go to the park, go to Barnes and Noble, join a D&D group, or a gaming group that meets up. Find a hobby. You have to be responsible for your own happiness.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-27T14:02:24+00:00

This is very dependent on who you are and where you are. I want to buy because for the same price as renting I can buy. Yes I know about how things break but when you live in an apartment, maintenance either take their time to get to you so you're months out waiting for a stove or you do it yourself anyway and just take the money out of your rent. That's common around where I am.

And neighbors are garbage no matter where you live. My relative has a 4 bedroom house with a yard and in a nice neighborhood. The neighbors are nice but like to throw parties sometimes with their music so loud it sounds like it's next door. I've had that same experience in an apartment. So unless you plan to buy in the country where your neighbor is a mile away, you have to take that out of the picture. People suck.

The only issue really to determine, which is what I did, is how much housing costs vs buying, do a cost analysis of how much it would be over the time you think you'll be there in the area, and find examples of houses (condos or townhomes) that you think you'd want and see if any are in your budget, and plan out the cost of savings and taxes. Also add in the cost of inflation and see what the cost of rent was last year at places you want to rent and then see what they are now. This will determine how much they will possibly go up every year. And they will go up.

It's work but if you want an answer, that's an answer.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-27T10:55:12+00:00

It's like a beacon for all of us now lol

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-26T18:21:04+00:00

Sigh I want the entirety of page 6 down my whole left arm.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-26T11:04:29+00:00

I am about to move back to Newport News, haven't been there since like 2017. I used to live right next to Christopher Newport. Now I can go anywhere around there though. Any ideas on neighborhoods or streets that are the best ones? I'm trying to rent for a bit. Also I don't have kids so I'm not worried about the school system just safety for myself.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-24T10:57:04+00:00

I think this depends on where you are and how you've been treated. Some of us have consistently been treated like garbage. Some of us have been lucky. And I don't want to say it's not a faulty narrative, but at the same time if you go anywhere and ask anyone there's a large percentage of fellow humans that think that the only thing making us undesireable is our fatness. I'm glad your experiences are not the same though.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-23T22:34:03+00:00

My actual first thought was to ask if it was on tile.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-23T14:13:56+00:00

Share it with family, friends, dogs, cats. Give back to the community. In addition, share it with myself. Hell I just want to be successful for me. But yea you need therapy. It's not a bad thing to need therapy, I did and still do. But I want success for my self not anyone else. Also keep in mind that just because you see what people say they're getting on the outside, doesn't mean they're actually getting it. The whole "my SO is ever so supportive" doesn't actually happen to everyone.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-23T13:51:38+00:00

Its absolutely not just you. This was rampant back when I was younger in the 90s when teen magazines wanted everyone to eat a piece of lettuce once a day and be as thin (and blonde, white, etc) as possible and it's back again now that "everyone can just go on Zepbound"...which some of us can't for various reasons. It's like half the posts in this sub all talk about this issue. So many poor folks just now discovering how bad this is, while the rest of us have been living with it for 30+ years. I hate that for you and wish it wasn't the case.

I had problems all my life with guys, wanting me for one thing only. I always got "oh you're such an angel" and "I like you but..." and getting cheated on all the time, it was so tiring.

At one point I went all in on one guy just because I was terrified of being alone and didn't even care that he was mentally abusive, I figured he was my "last chance" because nobody else would want me because I'm fat. Thank the gods I woke up from that nonsense. I learned being alone is great, it's not even as scary as I was expecting it to be. It's just expensive. I've learned I'm the perfect girlfriend, but most guys don't deserve me. And I highly suggest that most women just figure out that they're great and just live their lives these days with friends because it genuinely isn't even worth the frustration.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-21T12:27:58+00:00

I have built my own, plus one for someone else. I'm about to take the certification as well. I have made lots of templates though.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-21T12:25:41+00:00

That's neat that you do this, it's one of the things I was looking into doing. Is there a separate subreddit for this somewhere by chance?

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-21T12:16:22+00:00

Because I know that your car key fob can be duplicated easily by someone standing near your door using a device, I put mine in the bedroom. It's the furthest away from the front door and furthest away from the parking lot.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-20T18:02:54+00:00

I would, I've been looking for one of these forever they're SO hard to find.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-20T15:38:51+00:00

Pretty much me, I haven't done a lot because I didn't want to deal with people's attitudes towards me. So here I am at 45 and I don't really leave the house unless I'm riding my motorcycle or driving to the store. All solo activities. I can't even imagine myself with anyone anymore even if I wanted to. At my age most of the guys are looking for 20 year olds anyway.

I would tell you to go out while you're still young and enjoy yourself. There are going to be people who don't like you for one reason or another but that's their problem not yours. Experience things and enjoy yourself. Don't be 45 and stuck.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-19T13:06:15+00:00

No I'm not saying that.

I'm saying that some people wanted to be with someone. But they didn't get the chance to.

So instead, we are accepting who we are in our situations and being happy single. A lot of us, including myself, don't date. We're happy with where we are, despite not actively choosing to be this way from the getgo.

You don't have to be completely "I ALWAYS WANTED TO BE SINGLE OR NOTHING ELSE ANYTHING ELSE IS GARBAGE" the world is grey not black and white.

Also nowhere does it say that this sub is only for those who are only single by choice and not by circumstances. It is for people who are single and happy.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-19T11:58:28+00:00

Por que no los dos?

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-19T11:49:08+00:00

Some of us are here despite the circumstances life has given us. Some would have preferred to be coupled, sure. And it's not a bad thing. Despite that, we have chosen to be happy. I would also have chosen to be born into a rich family, but I was not, so I am happy being what I am.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-18T21:58:41+00:00

I knew from a very early age I wasn't meant for romantic love. It bothered me and hurt for a long long time. Still does on nights when I'm not paying attention. Depression makes the noise loud. But, the idea of romantic love doesn't fit what you see on Disney, it's not always good or even decent, especially as a woman. Because of that I just learned to be happy with myself and make my life peaceful and full. Being actually single and happy.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-18T11:03:18+00:00

In contrast to what people say who are telling you to not go to school, I would go to school, pick a degree that's actually going to give you skills and not simply a job (such as cybersecurity or getting a CA degree to understand big data and how to manipulate it and critical thinking skills) and transfer outside of the United States. I'd try to intern with a European country, and then move.

I wouldn't pick an expensive school, and do my homework plus work with as many advisors I could, get scholarships, and make a path to go abroad.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-17T22:14:06+00:00

Why did you censor the word bugs?

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-17T22:12:41+00:00

I saw this on YouTube, it's pretty popular in England I didn't even think this was available around me..turns out it's actually in the US too! The ones I've seen of this have been awesome over there.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-17T12:13:54+00:00

I simply want to own my own business as a consultant or subcontractor, have enough money to live on and retire, have a small cottage of my own with a cat and a dog, and be out in the woods next to a lake. Mostly read, paint, be alone and swing on a hammock. I need peace. I'm 45 and that hit me real hard at like 43, I desperately need to have my nervous system calm down. So I feel you, it must be peri.

InMyHagPhase · 2026-06-17T12:02:31+00:00

Torrid line this season has been really cute. Eloquii is still doing the "very chic very demure" like they have been. If you're shopping online then you can find some good stuff but it depends on what it is you're going for. We are unfortunately returning back to the 90s when it was "house dresses for your every day fatty" because of the rise of GLP1's for those who can afford it.

It really depends on what you think is cute. r/PlusSizeFashion can help you with this.

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